I met this beautiful Ukranian girl here in Germany and we have been seeing each other for a while now. I need some help on how to help her feel more comfortable with me and maybe go to the next level. I am trying to learn the language but I guess what i really wonder is how can I really turn her on? I realize our cultures are different and some things that we do as american's don't work in Ukraine. ie: whistiling...she hates it... Anyways, she is so damn sexy and I want her so bad... HELP!!!
Men are from mars and girls are from venus boy. They are not so different from all women. If you are having problems I guess you are the type who has problems with girls at home too. If she wants to go to the next level it will happen, just make a move. If she is not keen then maybe you should think about what is realy going on
Military-boy, Stand up and be Military-Man! Tell her how you feel about her and ask her how she feels about you. Get it over with! If she just wants a platonic relationship it's time to move on.
Here is my opinion... If you really like her make her know it. Buy her beautiful flowers, take her to dinner, buy her little gifts, most of all.. Tell her how beautiful she looks ALWAYS. I think these are some common sense things to do with a woman you really want to be with. You have to make her feel like the most important woman in the world.. Then of course if the moment is right make a move on her, you will never know unless you try.
DO NOT buy her any more flowers.
DO NOT take her to any more dinners.
DO NOT tell her how beautiful she looks anymore.
DO NOT return her calls the same day. Two day minimum wait.
DO NOT go out with her anymore if she doesn't put out for you.
Stop being so naive, soldier.
Every man chasing after her will be doing the same thing, soldier. And go get your head examined if you think no other man is trying to get into her panties the same way you do.
Wake up!!
Women, no matter where they're from, will respect a man who respects himself first. Not one who will crawl, drool and mop like a maggot.
If she does not fall for the kind of man you are and feel love for you what makes you think that spending time and money on her is going to do the trick?
Do you want a woman to love you for your character or for the amount of gifts with which you lavish her?
Next time she rejects you, let her know clearly that there are other willing women out there who will not treat you this way.
"Next time she rejects you, let her know clearly that there are other willing women out there who will not treat you this way."...the one possible responce on that from a girl here, maybe "then go and date with them, and leave me alone"....so are you ready for risk???
I think the point toad is trying to make is not to look to desperate. Guys who are more confident about what is around the corner always do well with girls. And in this situation this girls seems to be playing military boy a bit so do not let her completely have the upper hand. Let me know what going on or I will move on. Nothing wrong with that. Some girls plays games forever with us Ptichka just because they can, not all girls. Anyway give such girls an inch and they take a mile.
Ptichka, life is a risk, The last week with the lady I've been talking to has been a rather bumpy, She's not real happy that I won't just stop my world and hop on a plane tomorrow, Maybe that's my lack of understanding Ukrainian women. I told her I had prior commitments and job responsibilities that wouldn't let me just hop on the plane tomorrow. So if that upsets her, she'll just have to get over it and if she tells me to take a flying leap, well so be it.
Military Boy, take it in stride when I was young and in the Navy, I met a girl in Australia, kind of like your situation, relationships are a two way street, my situation was a little Different Mandy was incredibly beautiful, but I wasn't going to put my self in trouble with the Navy for a lady, She was an incredible lady, but when I said no way she basically told me to get f**ked, been there and done that one. Patience my friend hell I've been patient for 46 years and I won't settle for someone that doesn't take my interest and concerns to heart as I will theirs.
Ok i guess i made it seem as if sex was the only thing i am after, well, that's not it. And as far as the whistling, i don't whitle at her. When they is a song on or in my mind and I whistle the tune, she doesn't like it. Anyways, i guess the whole thing is that i have never felt the way i feel for her with anyone else and being that she is from another culture i just want a better understanding from others of the same culture about things that might be different.
But you feel that way because she is so beautiful yes. I do not know your relationship but take this advice. Physical attr is the first thing between 2 people, but after that there must be more. Try to look past her beauty and understand her. Not just for the sake of pleasing her, but so you know if she also pleases you.
There is nothing worst than a one sided relationship. Just as well to have one with yourself. Be who you are, not who you thinks she will like or fall in love with. If you are false she is sure to be afraid of who you are. Most men probably treat her the way you are trying and she is not looking for that. If you whistle and she does not like it. Are you willing and can you stop doing it. If not, that is a problem. If it is something you do and you like it. That would be like giving up OREO cookies to me. But smoking I don't like either but I have trouble stoping. You are who you are. It does not matter if she like you, if you like yourself. To give up whistling now. What is next? Believe me when I tell you, 5 or 10 years from now when she is telling you to stop doing something, you will have a different reaction. Like, would you stop telling me what to do!!!!! Of course if you can not whistle, I would ask you to stop also. You are becoming very annoying. Record yourself whistling and see what you think.
Go ahead, stop whistling your favorite tunes...Instead replace it with a brazilian carnival type whistle (you know, the type used in football matches) and blow her ears off the next time she tells you what you can or cannot do. That'll teach her, lol.....ssshhhheeessshhhh.