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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > Am I getting unreasonably nervous? Author Post dbc1951 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/6/2004 7:44:23 AM   A Romanian woman I've written to has recently begun complaining about how hard her life is. I'm aware that it isn't easy there---my ex is Russian and my superviser's husband works with a lot of Romanians here in Germany. My concern is that we both appear to be exhibiting the same type of behavior that my ex and I did. Getting much too close too soon. She indicated that she was interested in a Westerner to escape her situation. That was a major reason my first marriage fell apart. My ex couldn't reconcile the fact that, while I made much more than a Russian would, my expenses were also larger. She also mentioned that men had had the tendency to write to her 2-3 weeks then "disappear". I received one email complaining about why "sluts" seemed to get the best men but women like herslef did not. I cautioned her about lumping people together and making judgements based on appearances but that didn't appear to work. When I mentioned that I might have to postpone a proposed trip there for health reasons she immediately became angry and said that I was like other men. I'm willing to give her the benefit of the doubt but I had my fill of being a pincushion when I was married. Buckeyeman Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/6/2004 7:50:16 AM   dbc, run screaming!!!!!!LOL, just kidding (sort of). Most FSU women are interested in having a more comfortable life, of course, but it is not the main reason for their search. My fiance is from Russia and yes, she is interested in having a better life with me in USA when she gets her visa, but never has she said that this is the main reason for wanting to be with me! in fact, she talks about how difficult it will be to leave her country and family, but because she loves me, she really wants to be with me (wherever I am). Most FSU women would much rather find a suitable partner in their own town. Kind of like us men. SUre, I would rather have found someone who lives next door, sure would be easier, right? But after looking here and being married to 2 american women before, I just couldnt do it anymore! I would be hesitant to deal with this woman. SHe sounds a bit unrealistic and perhaps even unstable. My girl was very patient with my travel plans, etc. This is just my opinion, but take it for what it is worth dbc1951 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/6/2004 9:38:44 AM   Thanks Buckeyeman. Those last few letters more or less took me by surprise. Even my ex wasn't as angry as this lady---and she had her fair share of problems. Since I work for the army in Germany meeting Americans is sort of difficult----an attractive woman on post is most likely: 1. Married 2. Engaged 3. A female soldier (not a good thing) 4. Jail bait. Maybe I'll try my luck with Germans and Czechs. You never know. Buckeyeman Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/6/2004 9:50:44 AM   Sure, why not? But having found my fiance (a russian woman) I will never, EVER go back to western women!! jjbarrier Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/6/2004 10:44:53 AM   I am kind of wondering about my situation with one very beautiful lady, she and I have been writing for about 8 weeks or so, she has quickly expressed her affection for me and has told me that she wants to be with me, and asked me to visit her. I suggested to meet in my native Denmark instead or Moscow, and she immediately agreed to that. Now she also wants to bring her boy along to that meeting, claiming he has never been away from her. What has me also puzzled is that she doesn't seem to ask many questions about my life or life in the West. She has also been out of work and is commenting on how difficult it is for her. While on one hand I want to believe so badly that this is for real, I am worrying about where this is headed and what comes next. Am I missing something here, or am I just fooling myself? ron Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/6/2004 10:53:53 AM   People can occasionally be a bit disappointed or bitter, i don't see it as a real problem if that is occasionally vented. Maybe she had just gotten a dear Johanna letter or other disappointment. And isn't she right about the fact that women with bikini pictures get way way more letters than 'nice' girls. Don't see too much of a psychologist in me but i would address the issue be sympathetic but say that you can't change other people/Romania and see how she responds to that. I would not make too much of an issue of it in the next letter maybe she just had a bad day. From Czech girls i only know the like sport (to watch) a lot. German girls are demanding but also rewarding and according to questionaires the most satified with their lives as well as their husbands. jjbarrier maybe she has allready been in Europe before, and i suppose you have heard enough of visascams to know what you are doing. cost might also be less of a problem as there are busses(boat) wich are about half the airplaneticked cost. wessman Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/6/2004 1:05:36 PM   So really I am new here to this place but I have been trying for many years to find the right woman on the net. Ask yourself is this easy, are you disappointed and let down from time to time, if you have not had your hopes dashed from time to time, you are not walking the walk here in cyber space. So now think about the women. Where they live there are not enough men to go around, if every available man was married there would still be tons of women alone. Now this creates a man that women do not want to form a union with, spoiled, and lacking values so now the chances of finding a good man is cut in half. So may be they get a little desperate when their hopes soar with every letter you write. They don't need to see a lot from a man as far as looks and wealth; they look for the inner values, honesty, trust and stability. We love the photo they the person writing based on some simple qualities. Now as the Buckeyeman will verify if only 3-4% of the men trying to find a woman over there ever make it for a visit, how many heartbreaks have they endured. Every woman has a unique situation so don't compare them to others. What do you love about her, and can you work out the other stuff. I think woman that meet a man here on this forum will work hard to get you there to meet them after you do, stick a fork in your butt you are the done deal!! Buckeyeman Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/6/2004 1:56:22 PM   jjbarrier, I really see nothing wrong yet. After eight weeks, she should be developing feelings for you, are you feeling something for her? Does she answer your questions? IF so, then tell her you are surprised she doesnt want to know more about your life and western life. Just feel her out. Yes, Wes, I can verify that 'meeting stat of 3-4%!' It was I who told you, you old gator you!! Just kidding. Give me a buzz tonight, Wes, that was fun talking to you..later. sanchopanza Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/9/2004 9:07:00 AM   "...she immediately became angry and said that I was like other men. ..." -that was probably a *very* negative statement!!! (for some interesting reason) crashnsplash Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/9/2004 2:17:59 PM   My opinion is lay it all on the line. Dont hold anything back. If she doesnt ask or doesnt answer questions you may wonder about then by all means bring it up again and again and again until you get an answer. Buckeyeman Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/9/2004 3:12:40 PM   Crash, whats up? Good point. Lay it on the line. You really do have nothing to lose early in the stage of relationship crashnsplash Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/9/2004 7:24:46 PM   Ive been so busy lately Buck, I havent even found time to get my thoughts together the last week or so. I'll get back with ya soon though everything should start easing up for me... I see it on the horizon, lol Buy yes, laying it all on the line in the beginning is best. It worked for me. Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > Am I getting unreasonably nervous?
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