I use to enjoy this forum. But seems lately its lost its luster. I am extremly disappointed with the way individuals try to take it over. All I can say is Dont you have anything better to do? (Monolith,Gary496) "GET A LIFE"!! Genesis8888 what hole did you crawl out of? I hope this Forum can get back to where it use to be and let the experts handle the advice. This last few weeks this forum has lost its creditabilty with people thinking thay are experts trying to turn a forum into a chat room. Then we get a conspericy nut and a nut pretending to discredit the site by playing the role of a prostitute. I always say it takes all types to make the world go around. I think this last week they all came here. I think you all need to be baker acted!!!! (Hope Dating Ru can get this site back to normal, Its crashing and burning now)
thanx CodeRed. I hope that you are not the only one who saw that. I really didnt wanted to interfere into discussion, thinking that people here will start talking and will really help each other somehow with their experience and advices, but what I saw here after those weekends looked much more like some chat room with some shady topics...I deleted many messages today and I hope that there still will be people who really enjoy this place as a sourse of useful information, and not like a way of getting rid of their negative emotions.
So I assume this is an example of expert advice from Mr CodeRed? Apologise for sharing some humour and some thoughts on some issues that have cropped up. If it interests yu to know, CodeRed, there is no reason to believe that some people in here have some familiarity with relationships whether it be with an RW or local. In this case I consider any serious input on my behalf is good input for those who need advice other than olga. The fact that we have someone come in here as Genesis8888 and tell all and sundry they have some kind of de ja vu with the film "A beautiful Mind" shows we can all have some serious issues to deal with regarding ourselves, albeit in Genesis case not relevant. Which, finally comes to my question; what relevance or guidance have you managed to tap on your keyboard in the past 2 weeks to make it clear what you consider important?
Monolith, Seems you can give Criticism, but cant take it. I will give you that some of your remarks and comments are good and needed. (I compliment you for your input and for helping others) But some of your remarks are uncalled for. Your not the expert as you think you are. The trouble starts when people start to think it is their forum and try to take it over. It is not a chat room it is a forum! (there is a differance). Im not calling you down for your useful input, infact I appreciate it. However, your uncalled for remarks that are out of context are not relly needed. As for my input, this site has helped me with much of the immigration paperwork that I file on behalf of my clients. (82 successful immigrations in the last 2 years, 17 of them I did for free) Happy new familys and homes. (not just from Russia) When I see someone needing my help I email them and offer them guidance. So you see I assist in realtime (action is louder than words). Im not here to bash you as your feelings may have been hurt. All I ask is to keep this forum as a forum and I ask of you not to attempt to take it over as you personal chat room. Plus keep your comments about Olga to your self. She is doing a good job and does not deserve you personal remarks. Also no Apologies are needed. Lets just keep it a good clean forum and go have fun in the chat rooms. This got out of hand for 2 weeks and it all started from some making it their personal forum/chat room (maybe without knowing it). Give us your input, humor, and advice. I enjoy reading it allot of the information helps me to help others. But lets keep it under control. Lets let Olga handel the professional advise (She's been doing this many years and knows what she is talking about). Lets treat her with the respect she deserves and not make comments as to how she looks and if she wants to run to Rio De Janeiro with you. Really, I think she deserves more respect than that. Thanks for all your input Monolith, and keep it up. Lets just keep it in context. Please! Thats all I will say.
I was looking for a thread I could resurrect to ask a particular question. But I came across this OLD ANCIENT one which I thought was interesting.
Its been said that there is nothing new under the sun. The names could be changed to protect the innocent (or not so innocent) and this thread could have written last wek or last month.
Anyway - I have a question.
Has anyone noticed an incredible lag time between when a girl opens her letter from you, over fiance.com and when she responds?
I communicate with a girl from Latvia which is 8 hours ahead of us. She has an office job is when I wite to her I get an email sometime after midnight my time (after 8:00 am her time)saying that the lady has read my letter. But I only get an answer back at 7:00 pm my time (which is 3:00 am! her time).
I happen to know her office hours and I know that she is not in at 3:00 am. Further more, I know that she has "private email" where she works so hobody can blame an agency connection. and I am fairly certain that she writes back right away. These are very short letters - nothing that takes forever to compose.
So why the long delay? (Nevr happens when we communicate via regualr email - which we sometimes do.)
There must be some other explanation. For instance i just received a reply from her (about an hour ago) it was 5:00 pm here (17:00) which means it is 1:00 in the morning in Latvia. She does not have a computer at home. She has an office job that starts at 7:30 and goes to 5:00 (7:30 to 17:00) so she woul not be there at 1:00 am.
And she read my letter many hours ago during her regular working hours.
Hey Jet I have a girl in Moldova about the same thing I even asked the question not to long ago---is she reading my letter when I am notified that it has been read and the answer was no, later i checked with my girl. Sometimes because of the hour she will call her agency and have them read the letter to her. Then she will mull it over and write a reply in her language and then call it in to the agency they then in turn translate it right away---no of course not they translate when ever they feel like it you know why cause they can. So this is how it is for me.
But Wess - this girl speaks and read English excellently and she has private email so there is no agency involved. And I'm talking about even responses that are just a sentence or two long (no mulling required). She has a computer on her desk which she has unlimited access to.
Consistanly she reads my message (and I am notified) at what would be normal ealy office hours - say 8:00 AM (her time). That makes perfect sense.
But then she supposedly replies at 1:00 AM (her time the next day) which seems strange especially for a one-snetence quick response - when she has no access to a computer at home - but only at work.
Am I to believe that she sneaks back into work each night at 1:00 AM to send me a single sentence reply?
Like I said this time difference is consistant. Happens every time.
then maybe live with it? However, just asking her would probably answer your Q.
Bedtime there, especially in big cities, seems to be quite different than what I'm used to. Also phoning - they don't think it strange to phone at midnight, a time when I'd only call someone if I had a really good reason.
Nightlife and, weather allowing, streetlife is for many a given, and this does include visiting I-cafe's - have you considered she may send from there? Would also explain the shortness of the msges.
Some ISP's do strange things to the 'time sent', and even the PC itself, if the clock is out by 12 hrs, may affect this stat.
Asking her would get you an answer in all likelyhood Jet, and I wouldn't worry - only about the few lines you get :))
If an ISP router somewhere along the way is anything like my SMS service, messages can be delayed for a number of hours. I know Ukraine service goes down from time to time and the routers do not automatically reroute. It is possible that her outgoing could be being cached while the service is down,
It does seem unlikely that you would get the messages at the same time unless her ISP does scheduled maintenance at the same time (backups, reboots).
SMS may not reach the person even. And once it took 24 hours for an SMS to reach my dad. We use the same mobile provider. And it really took 24 hours...so nobody can say for sure about the time at which the letter or SMS will reach the person.
I always include a timestamp, so the person knows when I sent it. I always specify Ukraine time, so there is no confusion. You are right though, Ptichka. Usually the SMS provider does not know their system is down until I notify them and THEN they reroute.
I have noticed that some of the offices send the replys all at the same time. I have written to several in the same city and in most cases get the responses all at the same time of day from the ladies. From what many say about the work environment there it is very possible that many are put in a box for tomorrow or any other technical explanation. If they are direct email to email there can be many hour delays as mentioned above. In most cases however it should be less than 5 minutes tops for text message and 30 to 60 seconds would be more common. Virus engines and prevention play a role in the time delay as well.
yeah maybe then jet her private e-mail is at work but she goes to a friends house to leave you a reply if not an e-cafe, after you ask her remember to tell us.
Code Red, i think your right and your wrong. This forum has been here for a long time. Almost every topic has been discussed at least twice. Yes, there are a lot of gossip but they do generally pertain to someone eles's veiw of Russian "something or other" which except for the people arguing everybody eles has a chance to judge and make his decision and learn about Russia therefore learning about the people, and therefore learning about the woman. There are topics of government and sex, which might be considered gossip but it gives you a broader perspective I think. Some people might have different veiws on why Russian women are better in bed. can be eduacational :-) Arguing and bickering is a good thing and if you watch political debates you would understand. Name calling and swearing at eachother is just immature but a good argument is great! And as long as the subject is about Russia in one form or other I think it is eceptable.
This thread is more than two years old. I resurected it to show the bickering that occured even back then. CodeRed hasn't been here in at least a year and a half.
This is too funny BK you have just restated what I said that started the jetmba wars...funny how suddenly since you say it its ok. Anyone else find it amusing? Name calling and swearing....personal attacks....it all depends on who you are. I have now seen everything....lol.