I am new here.
At first I was very overwhelmed by the number of beautiful women.
But then I put in Age, Height, Weight, English requirements. That reduced it to less than one page. And, over a couple of weeks: The same page! (No new women joined!)
And, those women want a better man than me!
So, I guess I can just go back to my little corner and sit and cry!
eeyore---You'll not get any woman worth having while suffering from low self esteem! Lets say you get past that---Forget English, They can learn. The girls at agencies get their letter from you translated. Same agency translates girls letter to you. You can hire translator to be with you over phone when you make phone call to her. At some point she will start taking english lessons if she's interested enough to come to US. You buy, learn russian language on CD rom. Study hard. Go see lady in russia to see if your a match. Even if you just barely understand each other at first thats a start. Fall in love--bring her here on fiance visa--get married--live happily ever after--The End
eeyore. If english is a big deal to you, maybe yo looking in wrong place. But seriously, setting the english level on the search engine is a waiste of time. I started writing to a girl who had an englishg level of 1. This rating is a self accessment therefore only translated as how good they think they are. Anyway, this girl and I had a conversation on the phone today and I do not speak Russian. She even told me on the phone how terrible her english was, yet we had a converstion with only minor difficulties. do not narrow you feild so much and you will have more success.
Thanks for your advice and your kind words.
However, while I was 'just browsing' I came across the following:
"...Having the real man's hobbies: sports, hunt, fishing..."
-So, now my self esteem is shot to pieces again.
Should I give up trying to grow tomatoes and radishes and instead buy myself a rifle and a marlin fishing rod?
What is "a real man" anyway?
(seen from the view of a Russian woman).
"....What is "a real man" anyway?
(seen from the view of a Russian woman)..."
A real man is someone other like you, eeyore....
No self respecting woman will ever think a real man is a whinning, sniveling, crawling, whimpering, 'modern day amoeba' (no backbone, no direction)....
That's the image you're projecting. eeyore....and I will not make any attempt to be nice to you, because what you're doing in several of the threads in this forum hurts all of us, you idiot.
You present yourself in such a whimpy pathetic light, that I seriously suspect you're one of those FSU men frustrated that so many of his country women are finding happy lives with western men who treat them well, love them, honor them and provide for them in ways FSU men never could or would ever be willing to do.
If you're a western man, go ahead, blame your mother for raising a sissy boy....
toad
eeyore I think that you should learn to differ stereotypes from real things. Some girls really think in stereotypes, and the very widely-spread stereotype isthat a man should be strong all the time, no kindness and no being gentle with his woman, so from here comes "...Having the real man's hobbies: sports, hunt, fishing..."
All these sports first take too much time, second cost a lot of sum of money, third...it's the past for many men here.
Yes I admit that my boyfriend likes fishing a lot, but not because it's a sport or "real man's hobby" but because he can relax :)
Why many girls still think in stereotypes (with what their mothers, and grandmothers, aunts and so on told) and not with their own thoughts, it's still a mystery even to me, so don't ask why, I don't know:)
".....At first I was very overwhelmed by the number of beautiful women. But then I put in Age, Height, Weight, English requirements...."
Your Age:
Unless you're in your death bed or over 70, there is a wide range of age group to choose from, usually up to 20 years younger.
Your Height:
If you're a good man, most women do not care how tall you are.
yes, tall men are prefered, but this is an unsourmantable obstacle, go ahead, quit.....more women for us!!
Your Weight,
Lose weight, you fat slob...obesity is killing western societies.
Accept once and for all that being fat is a health issue and do something about it.
Your English requirements:
If you're OLD, SHORT, FAT and English is not even your primary language, what the f..k gives you the right to expect your FSU lady to be fluent in a language of your convenience, uh uh uh...???
Besides, a woman who is a ZERO in English today, could easily be semi-fluent 6 months from now.....OHHH, I forgot you may be so old that 6 months from now you might be dancing with the worms, six feet under....
you are giving this forum a headache. put up your boot straps boy, get you head out of the clouds and have a good look in there, and hieght now. from the sounds of it, you are short, fat, low on self asteme and lazy as well as having a week mine, how do yopu get up in the morning?
Toad, be a little more gentle:)))I believe their definition of a real man, is someone who can support his family, protect his family, take decisions and be responsible for those decisions, in fact the antithesis of a modern western man. Just think back 50 years and you will know what a real man, it is not someones who soulsearches all the time, acts in a pc fashion, in short not a sissy, you should be her knight, she your damsel, but you must respect her opinions and more importantly to all you tossers out there, thinking Fsu women are weak and are going to be you submissive houskeepers, you should not be some bully with low self esteem, they will suss that out very quickly
That is some funny stuff Toad.
Eeyore...That is the first problem. Have you considered changing your nick for something more respectable than a donkey with low self-esteem? How about XXX, or Taz, or if you really like Disney names, what about one with more character...and no, pooh bear does not sound manly either. How about Mufasa from the Lion King? That is a manly name for you.
But seriously...Are you for real? Because if you are, I would advise you to invest your hard earned money in some psychological therapy sessions before you try to look for a wife. If you don’t, some shark woman is going to get a hold of you and she will clean you up. And seriously, think about it, if you really have such a low self esteem as you appear to have, do you expect me to believe that language is a problem? You probably would marry your cousin if she was willing to. Please, just get healthy ...I cannot even get myself to call you by your irrational nick, so I will call you Mufasa from now on. I have another idea....why don’t you take the name of some male porn star like Richard Hard, or Will Steel, or Damian Long. Those are some “manly” names for you. For the record, I just made those names; I don’t want to get blasted with comments that I am a porn freak or anything like that.
Mufasa,
“Should I grow up trying to grow tomatoes and radishes?” Unless you are retired, in your 70s, and living in Florida....You probably should. It doesn’t mean that you have to become a hunter or a fisherman, but just giving up that hobby will increase your manhood in the eyes of a lady. But if you really like gardening, how about growing something dangerous instead....You should try growing pot or something similar. You are too much to be real.
Thanks for the support.
It's good to have friends - you can trust them to tell you 'truths' (according to Hans Christian Andersen, quoted from memory).
Now, where were we?
Yes, Language:
-Perhaps I should learn Tagalog instead of Russian?
Re. Russian: Yes, it might impress some women in the FSU if I could speak Russian, but I have no particular desire to relocate there permanently. And, thanks to our Arabian speaking bretheren, speaking a foreign language in public in the west is likely to make the neighbours lock their doors and call the police. Society has become a bit 'jumpy' lately.
(and the average citizen can't hear the difference between Russian and Arabic - it's all Greek to them - or whatever...)
Therefore, if I bring a woman home to my country, we should not speak Russian when we go shopping, etc.
(for those of you who live in the Netherlands, replace 'English' with Dutch).
Hence my reference to English level.
Another aspect of the language question: I would very much prefer to communicate with my lady without a 'third person' involved!
Re. Age, Height, Weight: I was referring to the ladies.
-And, what I originally wrote was that when I applied my criteria all of a sudden I saw only about 15 profiles. And those ladies had their own criteria - which I think they are totally entitled to have.
-Furthermore: The last couple of weeks those profiles seem to have been the same - none added, none removed.
-So, "reality struck"...