On the otherhand I'm white and got about 5 responses to letters (many) I sent out first on EM. They even have a qualifier in their FAQ page saying not to expect many responses because their women are "real" and not scanners. The women who wrote me back looked like the ones you might expect to find in the Jersey City Grayhound station at 2am. I've found for expense, quality, sincerity, and responses nothing is close to this site. If you want to though send the women letters first! The man is supposed to take the initiative here, even more than in the US. Write 30 letters, send them out and see what happens! Just don't be surprised at the Jersey City flashbacks.