You hit it on the head my friend. It is the simple things that
are most impressive. Treat a woman like a lady and let her know
how important she is to you and the harmony is there.
You take that first step
Ask her out and treat her like a lady
Second step
Tell her she's the one you're dreaming of
Third step
Take her in your arms and never let her go
Don't you know step by step
Step by step
You'll win her love
The most refreshing thing is, the anount of respect there is, we have had disagreements, but they have never become personal, or too heated, she has never called me a name and I have certainly never swore at her, raised my voice or called her a name, Its a new experience for me
That's good to hear. I wish you all the best. I think respect
from both partners is key. I watched my parents have disagreements and it was the same way with them. Nothing too heated, no name calling nothing of that sort. It was pretty
impressive. Oh, my Mom did call my Dad a hillbilly once, but his response was hysterical. He told her he was from an elite
class of Hillbillys from West Virginia.
I have been thinking a lot about the issue of adaptation as my trip to Moscow nears, and am curious whether anyone has any advice of comments to share with what they might have done to help their ladies get used to live in the west and not feel totally lost.
jjbarrier:
good question,and one that is often overlooked when a lot of guys look east for their ladies.I have found a very big help in adaptation is locating any sort of Russian/Ukranian/FSU type of club,or meeting place.
At first glance this may seem difficult,but just scratching the surface in a lot of places locally will uncover something.
A route through some discounted call system helps a lot too,so that they can keep in touch with friends and family........much easier when they are only at the end of a telephone line.
And most importantly.......don't forget to guide your lady around where you live....even things that you take for granted...mean a lot to a lady finding her feet in a strange city.
Thanks, gladiator, it turns out that the travel agent I am using has 2 other clients who also have gone to Russia to find a relationship, and one of them got married and brought his lady here. I got a chance to talk to her about her experience, and she seemed very nice, and if things work out for me I definitely hope that she can help my Svetlana. Also I was lucky to find a lady from RUssia who lives in my town who is teaching me the language, so again there is someone with similar background to her. I haven't found a club like you mentioned, but will keep looking.
easy as pie Mate - contact the embassy/consulate, they'll know if there's one.
If you live in a small town/community where there isn't one already there's nothing against her starting one by inviting people over. Word of mouth tends to work wonders, and it would give her something to do as well whilst being exposed to both 'sides'.
You're quite right in mentioning that little advice is offered once she has joined you, her 'acclimatizing' process mainly but also yours, make no mistake. It would be nice to hear from those having gone through it all, several years on already.
Speaking of calling cards and which I have found to be incredibly important. I have a site www.pho necardsavers.com I have been using from the States. They have a one call option which you can purchase individual cards, Called The one card saver, so if you are like me I call my girl and talk about an hour everyday and thats $3.60 from which I have found to be pretty cheap. You can buy $2.00 and $5.00 cards. I usually call her on my lunch hour and
weekends and have found this the most economical calling card I have found. They have a three minute rounding and no maintenance fee charge. Well to say the least I haven't been hit with the three minute rounding charge. If anyone out there has something better please share it with us.