I was in St Petersburg. My lady of 15 months and I decided it was not working out. So she left for her home in Samara, and I remained in SPB for 2 weeks by myself.
I went onto a Dating site (that I had used previously) and sent 17- 18 emails to St Petersburg women that had their profile on the site.
I said I was in SPB and wanted to Hook up and see the city and meet with someone and no pressure, just a coffee in the first instance etc etc
Guess how many replied = 0
They were all glamorous looking ladies I had chosen. I thought, well in for a penny in for a pound !! Might as well go for the top shelf. I did not include a photo but offered to send one, if they were interested.
Makes you wonder don’t you think ???
I guarantee if I had of emailed them from NZ, I would have received 10 replies at least. They would have promised the earth and wanted me there in their arms etc etc.
I have a couple of “down to earth” Russian dating sites that some of you might be interested in. They have GENUINE ladies (well probably 90%) They don’t all look like Cat walk models but they are genuinely looking for a future partner.
Max,
One year ago i was fed up with the quality of the replys i was receiving . I decided to go to a social in Kyiv. This social was to be my back up plan because i was very skeptical of the ladies i was so called corresponding with from a certain agency that fiance .com featured here that i was suppose to meet. Well about four of these women could not wait to meet me with as they say impatience until i told them my tickets were purchased and i gave them all my arrival date. I think you know the rest of the story. Everyone of them changed their minds to meet me at the last moment . Some even wrote down someone elses first name. It was pathetic. The only one i met was a women former WOW Ekaterina Kermik who confessed to me later she was the fucking owner of that agency i just mentioned and she showed up with another lady as her escort to act as a lady from a profile to meet me not saying she was the owner and charged me 30 dollars to have lunch with her as an introduction fee.Later she did admit to me she was the owner and that her writers do indeed and it is common practice for agencys to contact their women by phone and even if they do that, and ask what do you want us to say to this man ? At lunch she asked me what i was doing for plans the next day and i told her i was attending a social and the little bitch threatened to show up at the social and ruin it for me. This was the owner i just mentioned . Needless to say Fiance .com removed their whole agency from our website. Other men got screwed also from them. I am just letting you know that things can and do happen. I was so glad i had a back up plan because as Jetmba has said (it was the time of my life). Keep your options open mates. Never for the first time only make plans with one lady. There are just too many over there. Then again you can meet the right one the very first time and it does happen. Be prepared for anything and everthing.
Honestly most of you are going to hook up as much girls as possible. Not just a girl, but very beautiful ones who are rather serious. That means sex tourism.
Second, you may be looking for a special one as a wife.
What is revenge against scamers deals with your goals? Are you going to get into depression after communication with them? You know that probability for being scarmers are very high for the most beautiful girls who are interested in man in their 40’s – 50’s.
Why you are so disappointed in this? It is just a fact. Follow your instincts and all will be OK. If you are serious and nevertheless have backbone plan for your trip in Russia – be honest to yourself – you are much more interested not in marriage but in hooking up girls and having a good time.
Bagira,
The first step in trying to find a serious relation is trying to find a lady who knows how to write a letter and answer simple questions. Obviously this is a major goal for you also because what you write to this thread has nothing to do what we are discussing . We are disappointed because most of the russian ladies on this website are almost all university graduates but yet they cannot write a beleivable letter. What part do you not understand? Why do you always refer to this sex tour bullshit?? Everybody wants sex Bagira, dont you??
OK now back to me I am looking for a wife . I can have all THE SEX I WANT here in the states . But as for the women here they are all money hungry just as my last 2 wifes took over a quarter million of my hard earnd dollers . They all knew that I had it . I have never been to Russia and I DO STILL PLAN TO GO I did have my heart set on one girl this was to my mistake I did not meet her through Fiance.com But with the help of the men in the Forum maybe I was saved from this once more so to there words I took the steps and yes followed up with other girls from what I can tell they are real If you would stop going after the SUPER MODEL that get say maybe 10 Emails a day (I know I dont have time to write 10 letters a day) you might do better as for me I am writing four ladies that seem to be true no repeats in there letters .
Some guys here have been burned by scammers and are a little bitter. I think you now know how to better evaluate women you meet on these sites. It is very true that young, very attractive girls here can be trouble especially for older guys. I'm 47 and can't imagine going after a girl in her early 20's, but some guys are. I think this increases the chance of getting scammed greatly. Be realistic in your search, look at the respones carefully, know who YOU are and represent yourself accurately, and know what you are looking for. Don't fall in love with a picture...etc, etc. I have met several ladies through this and another site and I think most were real and genuine. I did receive some of the mass mailings from a few girls, but they were pretty easy to pick up on...a miss wow with several hundred responses mailing me??
The reallity will be when you visit the girl in her town. Remember this all takes time and money, but don't give up. Many guys are very happy because they followed through and found a great woman.
It is so true..
You have to be realistic in your search.. Ok, let's say you are somewhere between 45 and 55 yo.. You find oyurself a beautiful woman aged 21-23 or something... How realistic is it that she really is in love with you?? Did you fall in love with 55 yo women when you were 20? you might felt hot for one mother of a friend or something.. lol.. but to fall deeply in love, and live with her for the rest of your life?? Noooo, I don't think so. OK, I know it is different, I have been there. But, it is not THAT different, honestly. How realistic is it that you will be able to hold on to this girl in the long run? For all you know she will leave you, and run away with the little "kid" next door, the kid you remember from the time he was a child, but now he is a handsome guy in his 20's.. I think a max age difference should be no more than 15 years (My opinion). Also I think it is smart to take a closer look at where these girls actually lives, I am not the kind a guy that wants to sit on a plane for X hours, then 8 hours traintrip and 5 hours on a lousy bus just to meet my mother in law once in a while...
You have problems in understanding women. They trust you and you are mean to them. If you will not try to understand others even a little bit, you will not be successful in love.
I will interpret your situation from the woman point of view. You met this WOW girl. She trusted you. And you used the information that she gave to you as to a friend against her. It is a mean behavior. You had a back up plan. That is why you got a lot of pleasure but did not get a real girl who can be the only one for you. You get only what you really wanted.
About agencies. If a girl do not have personal computer she got man’s reply via agency over a phone. What is wrong with it? They say what they want to reply over a phone and agency send a e-mail. If you want more privatesy – look for girls with a personal e-mail.
Neon , Norway, Why is this thread going to the direction of older men who are looking for women half their age? Who said anything about that. We were talking about the type of vague mindless responses that a majority of these women or who ever writes them come back with. It has nothing to do with their age . A women who is 25 can surely answer the same questions that another women who is 40 can answer in a simple reply. Also a discussion of the validity of the agencies and the replys.
I think that if you looked at FSU women in their 40's that already lives outside the FSU countries, that you will find them just as attractive as the western women. I have also noticed that women in their 40's in FSU not look too good (sorry!), but I actually think it has to do with clothing, and appearance. They are a different generation, not used to be sexy and good looking (I think!, sorry again..) If you gave them som nice clothing, make-up and a new haircut, I believe they could be beautiful women. To get to my point, I think that it has to do with the hard life they live in FSU, take them away from that life, and they will not tear them selves down all the way... - I think..
- and suddenly all the (2?) FSU women in the Forum hated me.. LOL
Bagira ,
No Bagira, YOU have a problem understanding english. You absolutely did not understand what i said. Again your reply has nothing to do with what i said to you.
I will explain to you again. Read carefully.
The miss wow was the owner of the agency.
She shows up to meet me and never said she was the owner till months later.
It was her ladies who disappeared when i said i was coming to Kyiv.
This agency has scammed other men. What dont you understand Bagira???
Okay Bagira, I have problems understanding that lying is suppose to be acceptable ?
She trusted me???
What pleasure did i get ? That i was lied to?
Your goddam right i had a back up plan .
It seems that you feel that a woman from your country has the right to take and lie and we should understand.
Thats okay neon ,
This has always been my pet bitch with this website . Trying to get a quality reply and translation to my letters and questions. Did that not ever bother you or just have you always been satisfied ??
Bagira,
I have good female friends in the Ukraine who know the english language very well. We understand each other . Me and you do not. Because you may be able to read and write some english , it does not mean you understand the essence or message of what is being said. This reminds me of the type of replys i receive from ladies on this websight. Bad translations.