Spirit,
The answers are simple...
Women can be caddy and when competing among themselves are vicious, lol..
"If he is able to get a woman to marry him, he may be worth taking a look at in more detail"..."what is a hunk like that doing married to a wretch like her, let me show that bitch how to take care of a gorgeous man like that.." or "What is a doll like her doing with a troll like him, I bet I can have him eating out of my hand in minutes, let me show you how"...and on and on and on it goes.
I don't completely agree because I only got the same attention when I was married during the times when I was happily married. When I knew the marriage was on the rocks or on its way out it was like I had leprosy, lol...
I know, ID...but wouldn't it be nice if most western, or american woman at least, one day snapped out of their self impossed mental fog and saw themselves as we see them....even for one day?
If they did, I'm willing to bet that one day would be responsible for a massive suicidal wave among western women who cannot handle the reality of what they have become.
I vaguely remember parts of an old story about a man who went swimming with his misstress in the hotel pool.
His wife did not catch him because she did not recognize him without his wallet.