Globus, I don't know how many times you go to see girl in FSU before it is time to become intimate. Good question. I guess it is different to all. If I went to visit a girl(s) in FSU and if we wnet to bed on first or second trip I would drop her because if it is easy for me it is easy for everyone. I am not there for sex, I am there to look for a wife that is not promiscuous. Girl has to really be in love with me for us to get intimate.
Aussie....so because your aussie friends got laid in Asia you figured same as in FSU countries. Not every man
going to visit a girl EXPECTS sex. If I just want sex, I could get a different hottie every night at home and would be cheaper than going to a FSU for a trip.
Fact is Aussie, I'll be back in Ukraine in October, not to sow my oats but to hopefully meet THE girl.
Have to agree with all points in here actually. To each his own really. I mean a girl either does like you or she doesn't like you.
Every single one of my long-term serious relations were started physically at the very first date. The translator in Odessa I had said she was the same way. She was very faithful and not a promiscuous woman.
No real law either way. Yes, there are lots of sex tourists and it's becoming the #1 worry of most every single girl I am writing to for the last couple of weeks...
So great - now we got insincere and rude girls, girls who will lie about everything they are to you in letters, girls who wont meet you when you do arrive, girls who think we are all sex tourists, and girls that are serious gold-diggers... ;0
Why worry about greeting customs when the odds are all against anything at all happenining altogether in the first place? lol! ;0
I think it is generally excepted that sex is an integral part of a loving relationship. Just when that happens is up to the individuals to decide. To put rules and conditions onto it, often creates more problems than it solves.
It would surprise me if there is any attractive single girl on a dating that is not sexually active. So it is natural that a woman that has fallen for you, will have sex with you. Do we then condem her for loving you?
If a woman has read you well and deduces you are looking for a non promiscuous woman, she will by conscious or subconscious means morph herself into being that woman you want. We then have the situation that so often happens, where we travel to the other side of the world to meet a woman and she refuses our advances as we hoped. Only to be found later in the bed of another man.
Thunder:
nice to hear from you mate,where have you been?
Aussieman is a gem ain't he? Fact is I'm a bit surprised he hasn't tried the "grab em by the hair big club in hand and drag em back to the cave routine"....:))On the other hand maybe he has,which would explain a lot of things.
Adman:
very well said....just a pity others don't take that view.
All I can say is that I am more than grateful I discovered how immoral and promiscuous a girl was and how she was pretending to be a virtuous girl - only to be found out in the end what she really was the entire time : an unholy nightmare sociopath...
Oh come on, how many of you would love to learned how to properly greet someone face-to-face with a face of an angel, that can bat the cutest eyes at you, and have the most cunning and poisonous soul you have ever met.
But honestly? All I really want is to find that one true and pure heart out there somewhere. Language is not an obstacle, just her honesty and the level of our sincerity in our approach.
If I find a special girl to write to, I don't have qualms not dating locally while I pursue her heart through letters...
unlike...
...well let's say the poison is lessening because I have hope remaining... for a while longer.
Glad to hear poison is lessening....just form reading your posts it seems to be very apparant still. Maybe you just don't realize it but I am sure others reading posts would notice.
What day would there not be a brand-new girl? It seems most days someone else seems to be at forefront. To be so into a girl, is truely a letdown waiting to happen. I have my hopes but until a face to face AND things go great AND a continuance of relationship will I begin to open up emotionally.
Sure, its not wise to get emotionally involved with anyone you haven't met in person. Been doing this Internet dating thing for a few years - never works out (cept once or twice) and ok, maybe it did happen where everything was great in letters and the person was more than what you expected in person -- it really happened, and I met a nice woman in NZ via match.com. She didnt even have a single photo either... she was just an incredible person and things were awesome with us for an entire year. Met her second day I was there and she saw me off to the airport my very last day a year and a half later...
Personal note: I even considered marrying her, we had that much in common and not just through our letters. Just after a year of being with her, we parted ways and I left back for the US and she didn't want to leave...
I guess what I'm getting as is that "yes" sometimes you can risk emotions in letters its okay (if you know the risk), and sometimes its worth more than you can ever imagine when it does work out. I can speak on both sides of this fence thank you! ;0 The upside potential is simply amazing if both of you are completely honest before meeting!!!!!
As a romantic fool at heart, maybe I will allow myself to fall for a girl through her letters again, I have done it in the past and I'm not scared of disappointment - nothing really scares me... but I will approach it with more wisdom this time.
What will I do differently? I will make arrangements that if it doesnt work out, I will be meeting other girls and just chalk it up to another experience and get over it. Oh and it helps when there are NOT extraordinary events that make you an even bigger chump for believing someone was being honest in their letters, portraying themselves as a very moral and pure person... and they were anything but...
9davo
what aussieman41 does with russian ladies is his own business, if aussieman41 wants to go as a sex tourist well it makess it an expensive journey to travel from australia to ukraine just for sex.
I am not going to Ukraine or FSU for sex..no one spends that kind of money on a sex trip when you can defrustrate yourself sexually in a local, licensed and regulated legal brothel for about $120 for 45 minutes of pleasure and you can pick the girl..I am not interested in whores and fooking them, anyway..I want a real woman and soul mate, thats what its about, densven!