Bravehartq you did the correct thing..when you new she was playing you and being unfaithful you put her on the plane back to Ukraine..don't give them a second chance or her.
Report her to immigration as a scammer.She will never get another visa.
Her life will be shit and informing others about her was a good thing to do, not an act of vengeance.
You corresponded with her for 2 years and made several trips..you did all the correct procedures to cover yourself, no blindly rushing in like some people here advocate and still you got burned but you acted quickly before marrying her and dumped her ass so I feel sorry you spent thousands on her and wasted a lot of time and it broke your heart but forget her and consider yourself lucky that you did not marry her and then come unstuck because she would have screwed you over in your assets a lot more.
Meeting a foreign wife is very risky.
This girl screwed up, thank God before you married her!
Ukraine women..this seems to be their trademark behaviour and yours is not an isolated story, its quite a common occurrence.
Don't touch these young Ukraine girls, these 20 somethings or younger, just don't..leave them where they are..the kids of perastroyka as they are called..corrupted values..scammers all..leave them where they are..thats the best advice to stop getting badly burnt by them!
I do not want to create a controversy although I agree with you and what my friend did
I wonder if is not our mistake to bring a young lady who has not seettle her life yet, in US and many countries a woman does not settle until 28 or 30
Younger ladies still enjoy pub and bars, billards and ride the night with fun, not just sx.
Their energy is much more for outside the home, I if one of us do notify US or anyother country she will loose her chance, and maybe she will be a good lady in four years an honest ready to settle and make any of us a proud husband
Aussieman41...thank you for your concern about the pain I'm going through. Yes, I know I did the right thing sending her immediately back but I'm kicking myself in the ass for letting it happen in the first place.
We didn't even have sex, can you imagine? I thought I was being a gentleman...letting her get comfortable with me and her new home. But I'm quite sure she was screwing the guy from the gym. I'm embarrassed, I'm depressed, I feel physically sick.
If I report her to immigration as a scammer what proof will I have to show? I have letters of her asking me for money but I have no proof that would hold up in court that she was sleeping with the other guy. I guess I just don't know what the process is or how to go about it...
actually, Bravehartq i feel sorry for u and m on yr side, but! how u , Aussie, may say meeting a foreign wife is very risky or u, Brave, think of any proof to report her to immigration? is not it rediculous! is she a scammer? did she rob u? yes she did not take u seriously, yes she cheated on u, but is she a scammer and deserve to be prosecuted ? could not it happen to u in yr country with yr local women?
first u should have used yr brains before u took her to yr country. how can u, many of u, marry foreign women after 2 times of visiting them (and these 2 trips r no longer than a month in total)? its impossible to know a person for this period of time.
if its impossible for u to stay longer in ukraine or russia to get to know each other better, dont shift all t he blame on yr "bad" fsu GF or Wife if it turned to be not as u predicted and expected. try to be more reasonable and fair and open yr eyes and have a better look at the situation and find that u r also to blame in what has happened. u should have thought twice before u brought her to yr country- do i know her properly? do i know what a person she is? and if she is 20-30 yeasr younger..., try to take a sober view of things... im sure that the percentage of divorce of the couple where he is a foreigmer and 20-30 years older and she is a fsu woman is rather high after she has settled down in yrcountry.
dont be naive and be careful
I am on your side Brave h
report is simple sent to INS and the information you have they regeister and that is all you have to do
then you can actually send her a copy so she will be completely aware in case she wants to fight one day she will have to probe you wrong or had a child older with a marriage overseas
I do not think a woman should accept a trip when she is not ready .
No way she could go out other man and had you been so respectulful
But as I mentioned above I am in the circle of love and I do not want to bring a younger woman or a woman not ready and I think you help me to see I am wrong with a 23 to 26 need 32 or above
Good look,
Nobodyknows No one can play victim when do what she did, if all true how one could not give herself to the man who she cares
It's all so unbearable to me...like some nightmare. All I did for the better part of a year, every single day, was to plan our life together and think of ways to make her happy here. And she betrayed me within two weeks.
It’s a formidable challenge for most men and women to get over someone who you have invested a great amount of time, energy and expense ending up treating you with such contempt.
I always admired how a good friend married a woman, who turned out to be nothing but a tramp; who cheated on him for years and in the end took him to the cleaners... he got over what was a deeply painful ordeal.
It was a rough road, but he is a good man and he got down to the business of getting through it and eventually met someone he was crazy about.
He never looked back.
He has the admiration and respect of everyone who knows him…and her?....well nobody cares about her now.
It's no different that the chicks in the US. There is no way to know the character of a women. It will only make the victory of finding the right girl that much sweeter. She must of been something special. Looking back were there any signs? I have found that if you look hard enough you can see if a women focus is on you or around you? Sorry about the misfortune.
realsweetdeal...in my eyes she was the most beautiful woman in the world. But it's true that often beauty is only skin deep, and this is certainly the case with Anna.
Yes, there were signs...many. And I stupidly ignored them. She never focused on me, just what I could give her. But I kept hoping that my dream had come true, that she only had to open her heart to me. But her heart is as black as coal. She made a complete fool of me, but I let it happen to myself and that's part of the tragedy.
Give yourself some time to heal. You need it of course. But don't give up. Try again. Won't be easy but it can be done.
Something about getting back in the saddle after being thrown from a horse (I imagine people from a different era could relate to that adage a little better than we can).
Meeting and marrying any foreign women is risky, I had 12 years with my first "foreign mistake" and 6 and a half years after breaking up I am still fighting with her over my kids and she is a bitch, a huge pain in the arse and responsible for causing me so much stress that it has had permanent consequences on my health.
Bravehartq, I am glad you did not marry that piece of sh*t, otherwise you would have suffered hugely.
Nobodyknows, this girl came willingly with Brave to America, nobody dragged her there or held a gun to her head..she came willingly with ulterior motives and used this guy and he caught her with her panties down with another man so as to speak and dumped her arse back to the Ukraine..well bloody good stuff.
The Ukraina and Rusky 20 somethings, the kids of perestroyka are coming to rip us men off, the corrupt cash register mentality and morals, where has the love gone?..to hell it seems.
Remember nobodyknows...this girl didn't just ask for money, or send me pretty letters...she went the whole way to scam me. There has to be something evil about a woman that will go to that extent. No soul.
Braveh
that is all you need to do, and they do care I have several friends who work for INS, let me ask one what else he needs and I think if that will satisfy you I think I can help you with that.
I live in a border town, so I will ask my friend about what else is needed
The INS will care Braveh, she will get a computer file and black mark against her name so if she ever applies for another US visa, during checking she will come up red flagged and its very likely future visa applications she makes to your country will be denied.
You can show " she had intent to lie and did lie to obtain a K1 visa to the US on the basis she would marry you but never had any intent to do so" as a K1 fiance visa requires the applicant to be truthful when disclosing their intent to marry you and must demonstrate to the INS when applying for the visa that a genuine relationship existed with intent to marry you in your country, the same with all fiance type visas.
She lied to you and the authorities that she had intention to marry you when she had no intention, to obtain a K1 visa...thats fraud in my book and most peoples.
A report against her name will damage her credibility and make it very hard to get another visa because they will view her with a lot of suspicion and tend not to believe her anymore..her chances will be really fooked!
For Nobodyknows, I am not encouraging a 'witch hunt" or vendetta against one of your countries women..facts are facts, she abused the trust Braveh had in her and abused the requirements of her K1 visa...she can burn in hell like my ex-wife can too!
Well I will send you the INS number to call may friend told me with name date for birth city and country and a picture is all they need
Please be sue you are doing what you think is right she will be out of US automatically and if you send a note like that to UK and EU and NZ and Australia she will get very bad situation, I think many times we are the cause
I think I will not do it is very extreme
I think if I bring a lady my age match and she does it I probably will consider but if I bring a kid, is my mistake and send her back will be enough
Ask for other guys with more experience their opinion
I will send you the mail of my friend so you can take care of it if you need