I agree u with jetmba,it will be the best idea so far,calling somebody's name it was not really helpful,now this monada thing and some more members who love to called names, the first impression i do have is really bad.If you were in our country and you called name to somebody,i am pretty sure you get a back and forth slapped on ur face.SHAME
Its your fantasy that we all wanted Monada before we knew she was married. She was abrasive and annoying even then. She bragged about her looks and a few of us asked to see what she looked like. That's all.
But with a "persoanlity" like hers, even if she was GORGEOUS - few sane guys would ever have any interst in her.
I agree with Martin - most recently a new writer, a female, asked if herpes would prevent her from getting a fiance visa. Monada was in (stayed in?) attack mode before the rest of us even read it.
She attacks us all as soon as anybody even posts, even in (ESPECIALLY IF) the comment has nothing to do with her.
Jeez what the hell has happened here?.....has sanity gone out of the window?
Sort of reminds me of the song......"who let the dogs out", maybe that should read who let the dogs in.
Long established members, I think the term p**sing into the wind might be apt here,Jet,Nas,Martin,Thunder..its proabaly a futile excercise to clean things up,as moderation seems to be selective to say the least.
The bottom line being is why even bother coming here if there is nothing constructive you can offer,there are plenty of other forum to sling abuse and venom.
Years ago I saw a comedy in a bar setting. A 5 ft 3, 115 pound lady was insulting a 6 foot gentleman. The bar crowd fell off of their chairs laughing. The following night they switched the gentleman was insulting the lady. The bar crowd almost killed him.
The rules of humor are different for different people. Some give and cannot take, some give and take, some only take. So the trick is to get the direction of it going in a way acceptable to you. If somebody offends you with the way they use their humor or their method of communication tell them about it in a PM addressing the concerns and not attacking the person.
When I was a child my brothers and I would carry on a dialog similar to some of the threads here trying to best each other. It was fun for us then but it was not fun for our parents to hear it and if it is not fun for you to participate let the other party know the humor offends you.
PS. Above I mentioned: There are times it is necessary to stand and fight.-- Protecting family is definitely one of those times Quasi
But have you ever noticed that when things get especially dicey here (nasty) there are usually two negative parties who are playing antagonist? Generally when only one is involved, forum member eventually have their fill and work together to drive the offender off. When there are TWO or more "problem children" they seem to form a loose alliance and are especially difficult to reign in.
What made me laugh is Land of Oz's 'protecting family' stance obviously in response to Quasi's lamebrain defence of his posts.
She is under no personal threat, it's merely being put to her to 'wind her neck in' and refrain from such contraversy, there is no protection neccesary if she is in no danger hence:
There are two sayings that spring to mind:
1. Prevention is better than a cure.
2. To solve a problem one needs to realise where the root of that problem lay and deal with that root cause.
Just out of the bomb shelter.....I am not the brightest but I know that if you want to make a problem go away, you just ignore it, just my way. Everyone has their way of dealing with a problem, I've been here long enough to KNOW how each deals with it here, I don't mention names but easy to see. It's been mentioned before but.......if you wrestle a 'pig' in mud, after a while you realize the 'pig' is really enjoying it.....
'Protecting family is definitely one of those times '
Yes I agree.....but at times from themseles...what is it called, 'in house'
Like your story ,Oz, very true, can I add that some people take anything said too personal. I can be guilty at times but I tend to go other direction.