Cooper: Getting angry for me is a rarity (I will not lie and say that I never get angry). When I am angry, I am usually scary, reason why I prefer to be very patient 99% of the time. I do not want problems with the law.
However, I can be emotional in some situations (like when I lost my father). Am I less of a man because I show my emotions? I do not understand what you want to accomplish asking such question. Regardless of the answer I give you, it is my life, and I do not care what anybody else thinks about me. As always, what I write here is only my personal opinion.
Beemer: It must be because I am a little more extreme during my vacations. I never arrive to the airport two or three hours before the departure. I only plan the flights and the hotel where I will stay. I make other plans according to what is available at a specific day/time. That is probably why I am usually faced with crisis situations when I travel. I thrive on stressful situations and this allows me the luxury to observe carefully how she behaves when faced with the unexpected. This has worked excellent for me, but I understand that not everybody can be comfortable traveling this way.
I brought up the trip idea because it worked for me. Somebody asked a question and I answered based on my experience. I have no need to gloat. You do not even know who I am and you will never be my friend (we are too different). Therefore, what benefit do I derive by gloating? If you think that my opinion is not appropriate, express yours and disregard mine. I am here to communicate what I know and not to start a confrontation with anybody.
This reminds me a phrase from Michael Jackson: "I'm a lover, not a fighter." :-) Better yet, I'm an FSULover :-)
Baron, I'm kind of curious where you think I contradicted myself. I pretty much stay on message. Unless I wasn't making myself clear or typing too fast which is entirely possible.
Bottom line no matter how hard you try to see the character in her comfortable environment the change for many is drastic. Vacations are fine, but you need to spend time together in a day to day environment. How she handles stresses and pressures there are different when she is taken out of that environment. Another country, another language, another lifestyle is a pretty heavy change for many. Though the many Ukrainian and Russian women I have met through my friends on here, they all have excellent adaptation skills. Maybe that's a cultual evolution living under the stress of the former soviet lifestyle.
FSULover if being called a girl or idiot here you might rethink the whole FSU thing altogether. This isn't for the Holy Sister of the meek. If you're not careful you will get ground up pretty easy in this search.
Also FSUlover one of the more outstanding contributors on this forum was a youny Lady named Ptichka. She was an excellent help to me in learning the culture and the care and feeding of a woman from Ukraine. The expectations, the patience she told me I needed etc. etc. It might be worth your while to go back and read some of her contributions. Absolutely one the the best forum members that was here when. She was one of the great reasons for my success with my wife.
You need to spend time in her environment. Though in some cases it will give some indications of her reactions it won't give a clear cut one, especially if she is relocating to the USA. It's a whole differnt story there. Things will be totally foreign and even at her home, these issues will not arise because of cultural and language issues she will face in a foreign land that she will not have in her home country.
So you say visit in her country unless she is relocating. Well, aren't most of the ladies we hope to mesh with going to be relocating?
I know some gents to move to her country but I think in the majority of cases the lady is moving to the man's country. And I wouldn't single out the US as the only where it will be totally foreign to the woman.
I agree with your points but if the lady is relocating then as I've stated FSU's comments about a trip together to see how both handle that different environment MAY yield more information the other person. All of these tools to see get to know more about the other person are good to have in one's tool kit. Each case is different and having many methods is only smart.
Baron they are relocating most, but I think the transition to a European nation verses the US or Australia would be easier for many. I was using the US for my example. My wife told me many times the transition would be easier in Europe than the US, though that may be here viewpoint. She was looking at it culturally, logistically and the potentional of running in to more people from her society than where she is now.
Spending time in her environment is fine. Though it really isn't going to give you the reality of when you are together where ever that may be. My wifes transition was pretty smooth. Yeah there were a couple of snags here and there. Comparatively speaking and this is her input, our cultures, American and Ukrainian are diametrically opposed. They live for the moment where many here plan for the future.
Unless I've lost the knack of my national language of English what nasfan actually said was "especially if she is relocating" and not, your mis-quoted, "unless she is relocating"!
'I make other plans according to what is available at a specific day/time. That is probably why I am usually faced with crisis situations when I travel.'
fsulover, you want to put women in a frying pan, turn up the heat and see how they react.
how do you think the woman feels about being put in that position unnecessarily. If i was a woman, who worked hard all year, i wouldn't appreciate a man who didn't plan my only vacation so i could relax in peace.
FSULover,
Quote: “When I am angry, I am usually scary, reason why I prefer to be very patient 99% of the time. I do not want problems with the law“. It sounds to me like you cannot control your temper, what should your woman do when you go into a rage... run from you so you don’t hurt her? You appear to be an emotional time bomb, perhaps you should take some anger management classes?
Your posts remind me of the “jetmba” who became “julia”, who became “Andrew” fiasco from a few months ago, are you back again but this time masquerading yourself as... FSULover?
You are funny Cooper. You don't know me and you already have a full psychological profile of my personality.
Maybe you are short on your assessment. Maybe I have already been in jail many times and it would better not to try to provoke me because I am capable of just anything.
One thing though, I never hurt women. All my crimes have involved only people who like to call themselves "men"
Wow! How did going to Odessa-Nikolaev lead to my personal criminal history? This topic couldn't have gone more off topic that it just did :-)
Smart Martian! How would you know... are you jetmba or julia or andrew? Anyway, their style of letter writing was just too similar and they always echoed the same lame emotion filled messages... not a coincidence.
Just trust me that I know, perhaps because I communicate with certain forum members in private. Whilst jetmba. might have posted under a different identity or few to wind the forum retard up, you know the retard I mean, if someone, who I consider to be a friend, who has nothing to hide by admitting it to me assures me that he is not Julia or Andrew or whatever then I trust him.
I think your last comment was extremely immature and in bad taste regarding something that, despite varying opinions, was never proven nor was he convicted of.
But perhaps you know better than the US justice system!
Cooper: Pedophile or not, nobody can deny that Michael Jackson is the King of Pop music. Besides, in the eyes of the law, he was never convicted. Therefore, unless you have proof, what you are writing is hearsay and you are just slandering another person.
However, that behavior does not surprise me, because your ego is so large that you need to resort to slandering to claim your domination over others when you feel threatened. Once again, I am glad that you are NOT my friend. Otherwise I would be very worried.
Friends like you are worst than enemies.
My gender preference is irrelevant to this topic. I live in a free country and I have the right to decide the kind of person I want to join my life. That would not change the value of my experience and my opinions here ... unlike your slandering behavior. A behavior like that really puts in question the value of what you write.
FSULover... this forum is for MEN seeking WOMEN, hence the heading above "Place for men to get questions answered and share experiences in dating" understand? If you are looking for a same sex partner then you do not belong here. Or perhaps you could start your own topic called "women seeking women" ?
Michal Jackson may have had a song like that but the name "I am a lover not a fighter" was a song done by Lazy Lester in the 1950's. Jackson just took Lester's title. Aw he probably wasn't convicted of that either. Money does strange things to the legal system but I don't think I would have chosen him to baby sit my boys either.
QUOTE: "Smart Martian... shut up. "
Hey MINI, it is time you followed your own advice: Who needs Anger Management now?
I perfectly understand now why you chose MINI for your nickname and logo ... it reflects the size of your p...
... personality (the whole word did not fit on the previous line. The word is too big for you - pun intended)
Anyway, you are 100% right on something: if you represent the typical man, I will only love women forever. No need to experiment with men, especially if the majority are like you. Fortunately I already found myself a lovely FSU lady who I plan to love forever. She's from FSU and I am an FSULover.
Oz: I was referring to a phrase on MJ's song titled "The Girl is Mine" with Paul McCartney. I know of no song from MJ with the title you mentioned. I searched the Internet and there is no song by MJ titled as such. So, why should MJ have been convicted of plagiarism?
fsulover, does your girl know of your criminal history? i'm sure your only beating 'men' really comforts her. you DO sound like another member of this forum, but its not jetmba.
Don't let Mini get to you, he doesn't get to us, we understand that he is a pauper that couldn't afford a real BMW and had to settle for his (BMW) Mini as a poor man's alternative.
A criminal history will be a hurdle to clear with CRIS if you try to bring her to the united states. Not that it cannot be done but you will have to declare everything to them and they will decide if you are eligible to bring a woman in.