oustabout thats the point is very little success from dating sights and agency. question for you why is that? all those women in ukraine all those men visiting and a 99% fail rate why?
Zarky,, i know you have a girl there and also a understanding of that world,, i was been a little sarcastic as you were, thats all, there was no intent of dealting you at all, and awesome stuff dude, all the best with her.
I had hoped more people would have read MS’s post of the Euro games in Kiev, the link is on the previous page. I think it is a perfect example of why it is so difficult to find someone in Ukraine. Men,,, “window shopping” and what I refer to as “test driving”, and women,,, strolling for husbands! They tell reporters, that they are looking for husbands, but after the meal and drinks, the girls disappear?!!
Maybe these girls should be renamed as “Menu advisers” ????
Several months ago, someone on the forum said it perfectly. He described the typical situation of the first dates between foreign men and FSU women. Both sitting at a table in a restaurant, thinking about the next move and wondering what the other is thinking. The guy is thinking,,,,, is she going to show some affection,,, or is she just here for the meal? And the girl is thinking; if I invite him to come home with me,, he will just leave me the next day,,,,,, but if I don’t, he will think I’m only here for the free dinner??!
While I don’t know anything that could change the way FSU women think and act, we the foreign men could do a lot to improve our image. Stop playing the dating game. Many of us see it as a challenge to con a woman into bed! Wine and dine her, tell her lies, and leave the next morning. I don’t know if guys like that get a big thrill from playing the game,,, or if they are too cheap to pay for escorts??
Escorts are cheap in Ukraine,,, even in Kiev!
When I was in my 20’s I dated 4 to 7 days a week. I didn’t know back then, that dating was supposed to be so difficult! There were two types of dates, one was for finding a mate, and the other was for a good time. There wasn’t any discussion about plans for the night,, you just knew what type of date it would be. Most good time dates carried into the next night, and after that,,, when ever we met again. I had years between some of these dates. No phone calls,,, but one letter invitation for a party or holiday.
I had many 48 hour days,,, get up, work, shower, go on a date,, get back as the sun is coming up, put on work clothes,,,, get done, shower, go back to the date, get home late a get a few hours of sleep,,,, and go to work. Now does everyone understand why I get so pissed over these FSU girls???? The reason why it is so difficult to find someone,, is because so very few are serious about marriage!!
Wish I had answer for you know first trip I went to FSU I was very serious about the woman, and 6 months of writing and crying later. You know end result. Am finding now went to wrong country for marriage. The lady I see now, mind you her english ability is big help, is very sincere fun get along with her great. Funny you say escorts are cheap in FSU. had a city map in my pocket from Kiev. when I got home. never looked at it
one of secretarys in office was asking me about trip. I found map in my pocket and said here. You know how city maps are bordered with adds in North America. This map was out of family hotel in Kiev where I met lady I am with now, soon to see again. Anyway border of Kiev maps advertising was all escort and massage services. So talk in office is I do not go there for marriage I go for fun. Me first trip heart ache, second still in game and playing strong. Sept new girl is not from Ukraine seems to make the big differance
"The reason why it is so difficult to find someone,, is because so very few are serious about marriage!!"
That is what browsing the mamba.ru site suggested to me; most listed their motive in being on the site as "friendship".
The rest of this is copied from other posts in a different thread; the first by smart a, the latter by myself....
"Hi oustabout,
Try this,
mamba.ru
A free to talk, free to use social website.
Talk to a girl who speaks english and say hi and ask questions.
Please, talk to someone close to your own age and leave the 19 y/o olds alone.
mamba.ru is the only site to get the real truth.
Best of luck ol' chap!"
Ok, went to the mamba website, registered, and browsed through like 50 pages of girls from Ukraine: It was eye opening. First impressions are:
1) Every beautiful girl in UA is on an agency dating site, 'cause the girls on mamba are altogether average... OR, what is represented on the agency sites is fantasy.
2) I can count on the fingers of one hand, out of 50 pages viewed, the number of girls who listed themselves as seeking a relationship. Almost universally their purpose is listed as "friendship". My point is, if they are not listing themselves as seeking a romantic relationship, they certainly aren't looking for someone to come there, zip them up in a suitcase, and take them 10,000 km from everything they know....
3) The maximum age difference any seem comfortable with is about 5 years. 19 y/o, lol nooooooo, no way; been there, done that, worn the T shirt (and the T shirt says, 'the sex is great but everything else is so irritating it just isn't worth it')... way to immature. I am 46, the age bracket I have been looking in is 30 - 40; given what I saw from the girls profiles on mamba, the youngest I should be looking for is maybe 37. The agency dating sites are full of 25 y/o saying they are looking for 30 - 50... however, that does not seem to fit with the mindset of the girls on mamba.
I haven't had the opportunity to converse at length with girls on mamba yet; I will follow up on this post when I have. Meanwhile, the above are my initial impressions.
And yes, the attitude of the guys outlined in the article goes a long way toward explaining why I have historically been viewed by girls in other countries as temporary: They have been taught that is the case when considering foreign men (by foreign men).
Dunt, don’t waste our time with your dis-information! You haven’t been to Ukraine, so you know nothing about it! But I have been to Russia, and it is also full of corruption!
The women you are able to get, are either old and ugly or mentally ill and on psychotropic drugs!
You are desperate enough to do it with road kill. Maybe you should take some of Irens meds,,, maybe the road kill will talk back to you??!!!
Who was more desperate, you,,, or your FSU rejects?????
"i belive the dream of a hot babe is just fantasy"
There are hot babes and they do go on dates. Furthermore, they also get married. Many of them are spoiled, but some are not. You can date and you can marry a hot babe. Just don't be a Dunt.
danny you are interesting to say the least. My lady right now is not inteerested in Canada. Relationship is about her and I read this last post of yours, am sure you have somthing interesting to say would like to hear your words. No crap please.
Danny,,, for years you have been bragging up Russia and Russians and putting down Ukraine and Ukrainians,,,,,, make up your mind!!!!
A large percentage of Ukrainians are Russian, and I don’t see much difference between them anyway! Other than the way they name their children, and keep the mother’s maiden name for the daughters, or the father’s for a middle name.
Danny am very interested to what you have to say. My lady sayes maybe she is not rich but she does have good life in her country. Her interstst in moving are not to leave her country. Her interests are to be with me. I have spent much time with her on skype. I cross the pond to be with her not to go on dating spree, or in many cases a spending spree. I am aware in order to keep our relationship alive and well.
Will be many trips across the pond in future. I leave in a couple weeks to be with her again. And make arrangments to have her visit my country. So as she will get a comfortable feel of this country. The things
I find great about this woman is she has been a wonderful friend in my life. And she is very honest is what makes her so great. have not had to play one game with her.
So lets hear what you gotta say
OK back to dating sites. I've been lurking and reading you guys bicker for a while but you put some really good info up here once in a while. My disclaimer: Everything will be biased no matter how hard we try because we always put a little bit of "us" into for better or worse. I've never been to Russia or any FSU countries. Been to Mexico, Canada, Costa Rica (lots of times), Tahiti (and 7 islands- Bora Bora, Moorea, etc) but never Ukraine or Russia. Marriage is done. Divorce was financially devastating but the thing died a long time ago and there wasn't any reason to keep it going. I have two nice kids from it.
I've used Natasha (natashaclub.com) for a couple years. Funny site. Lots of fake girls. They make it almost too easy to find the many fakes because they have a "viewed you" area as most sites do. When you get hundreds of letters, smiles, etc. it is fishy enough but then after some time (shorter or longer for some) you begin to notice that something like 1 out of 100 of those contacts has never viewed your profile then it starts to seem a little strange. Letters cost a lot for some and little for others and their (the operators or owners) rationalization for this seems quite stupid. I would, however, overlook all that if most of those drop dead gorgeous models (as most are) were real. Then it might be worth it. I think that I've tested them long enough and don't think it "real enough" for me.
Now I'm onto 3 free ones (used them for a while mixed results) that I have no affiliation with and I can give you a blow by blow. Can I post them here or is that taboo?
Motorbike little early but ya sounds cool for me is large part of reason I have looked to meet one great
lady. is to have a baby. Think kids are best part of anyones life. I have talked about this with my
lady and she for sure wants child
Skycaptain Blow by blow on what? think if girls are just scammers sure if you google names of these women you will find they have made it to scam sites somewhere.
Or is blow by blow prossess to find? Me I have only listed one she is really took me for ride and cost lots of money had problems with her and agent. Agent was busy selling her to others. while I thought I had sure thing. Then again she seemed ok with this so does not say much for her either. Have thought many times about listing phone numbers names and addresses. But writing all I did about her has done little, to stop her. Sept to warn next guy there is big problems in the wait. For me helped to ease pain. To just list scammers put them on scam sites sure you will find they have already found there place. Your letters will just make case stronger
I won’t ever know the difference????? But I’m the one who’s had both!!!
Me babble??? Look at what someone wrote above,,,,, now that’s babbling !!!
Send: 02.07.2012 21:59:44
“Lonly ... I dont want to get rid of my family ... my wife is very close to family and I want mum dad brother sister ect to spend time with our son ... if that a low life then yep im a low life.
Wife is busy now sewing like a machine ... not many weeks now check up yesterday was all perfect baby is head down ... funny thing yesterday I could push on his foot he moved it and then push it again keep doing it until I push his foot and he would just push back ...priceless how cool it was . I think today I will buy him a motorbike. “