Your guys story is freaking me out! Exactly the thing I worry about. Just for a little vengence, I think it would be nice if you both wrote her back explaining that you're both coming on the exact day, time, and flight no. Tell her you both have found a friend to travel with from this site who happens to be seeing a girl from the same town.
Hi dale, Well, at least this experience proves the value of these forums. To think I was actually looking for ticket availability in June. I was even going to call tomorrow. Sheesh.
This is actualy the second I've found to be in contact with in the last 3 days. I've had a bad week. :(
Michael- Don't be a quitter. I give you a hand for your diligent reseach, and sorry about the outcome. I've had my heart broken many times before. But that won't stop me. You've just passed the scammer test with flying colors. There are plenty of good and honest girls on this site. You'll just have to weed out the bad ones. I'll say it again, DON'T GIVE UP!
Michael:
sorry to read about the situation,but as Dale says....don't give up,dating through the internet has it's pitfalls,and as I'm sure you know experience makes you a lot wiser second time round.I think you'll find the majority of guys taking this route have had some sort of scam played on them in one way or another.In my own case I travelled to Ukraine before I found out I was scammed and beleive me my friend I do my homework too!!!
If you search the forum you will also find Tim's postings about going even further and things going t*ts up.
The bottom line is not to give up no matter how down you might feel right now,research,care and above all perseverance WILL pay off.In all it's taken me the best part of 4 years but I am now due to be married late next month.
KEEP AT IT MATE.......AND BETTER LUCK NEXT TIME.......:))
Guys, guys... We have all been through this, at least those of us that are very serious about all this. Its happened to me 4 or 5 times already. Believe me I know how you feel. You guys have got to realize these girls are not here just to talk to one guy. Just like we aren't here to just talk to one lady. They are going to do just like us. Correspond with a handful of guys trying to fing the right one for them. At least thats what I did with the ladies when I was a member here. If she is serious about you she will want to go into private correspondence with you. Get her and her profile off this site as soon as you can. Then if she is willing she will remove her profile off the agency site. Shower her with attention and affection, but DONT tell her you love her yet. She may become defensive if you say such strong words without meeting in person. Just be her friend and treat her like a lady. And remember, I had this advise given to me by people with experience in this. Dont think about other guys writing to her!!! Make believe they dont exist. Be yourself and be honest and maybe she will fall for you. Its times like this when we worry about other men talking to our girls, everything falls apart and you may lose the woman of your dreams!! PERSEVERE and move on if you must. There are many beautiful women in the FSU looking for men like us!
I've only just caught up with this thread and this seems to be one of the ugly side-effects of multiple dating when you're a sensitive person and a reason why I do NOT do it. It's hard to not take it personally but I know if my girl was having the same conversations with me but with someone else, I'd be pretty * off. She's knows I write to no-one else (I made that decision and told her a few weeks ago having already gone through the REJECTION process) and her stats tell me that is although she gets the odd letter, the bulk of letters are from me. The terms that she know uses leads me to believe that we are 'together' and I know that if those terms were written and said to someone else, I would feel dishonesty and seriously considedr packing the whole venture in.
Rationally, Fiance.com for me have done nohing but tried to help under at times what can be difficult circumstances. The forum is EXCELLENT (bar an edit feature) without which, God knows what kinds of trouble we all could be landing ourselves in. In the first instance, use Fiance to probe for you, then the forum and then based upon that use what information is "real" to approach her if at all.
Do you want to send me her ID via email (confidentially)???
As I also up till a few weeks ago phoned a girl from Yoshkar-Ola; sent presents too, but dumped her as some of the things she said (slipped) didn't add up to me.
Micheal, It's ok to feel a bit down. I feel it to. I'm just really dissapointed that it turned out the way it did. As for feeling the way you do, Why?
1) You have never met this woman
2) Letters from foreign men in the FSU are like a$$h@les, everyone seems to have them
3) Mind Reading is difficult enough, let alone doing it from 1/2 way across the world.
Feel better about it by thinking that you saved yourself alot of pain and money for the sake of feeling a little embarassed. You have nothing to feel that way about really, no one here is judging you to be a fool. Least of all me.
Could you imagine how stupid we would have felt if we both showed up to her home at the same time??? LOL
Anyways Mike, good luck in your search and remember that this forum can be an excellent tool, as well as Fiance.com's customer service.