I am very sorry, but you look at everything only form one side.
You was make very big mistake . now, if you and your Lusy will like each other, and you will marry, she will be for everybody mail order bride. I don’t know , how your Lusy will take it, but for me will not be too pleasure such situation. You was can tell, that was meet her - at any country. Or don’t talk too many before meet.
I personally dislike the phrase "Mail Order Bride" and it's something that I am not doing.
Fiance is no different from any other dating site like Yahoo Personals for example only the people involved live a greater distance apart and likely speak differently. I have never contemplated flipping through a catalogue looking for a 'bride to order', but instead am looking for someone that has similar interests, passion, intelligence, honesty and other positive traits to enjoy life and make the most of it. "To order" for me, feels like the other has no choice when clearly they do like ordering a passive object from a retailer. Similar people are listed at Yahoo, seeking the same of love and possibly marriage but don't get labelled 'mail order' - why is that?
My family and friends are very understanding and good people. They are not the kind to judge and mistreat others. There will always be those who will stand in judgement, they do not really matter. In my posistion I can not de deceptive or to secreative If those close to me understand, and if my God understands, then me and whomever my bride may be will be happy. Thank you for your kind concern for me.
I dislike that phrase as well. I have met many women from my country online and I don't think this is any different. Yes, its true that if me and my lady decide to be together we must get married within 90 days. Thats not our choice, its the rule of LAW. If there is no compatability there is no marriage, simple as that. They make it sound like I'm ordering out of a catalog and I'm placing an order. How far from the truth that is.
By the way, if you have been following the threads I want to add some good news for me. I got my passport!! =)) Think I will get my airline tickets today and fill out forms for my visa and send them off.
Regarding telling people in my church about my plans, I will not be making an annuoncemnt in fromt of the whole church! I will simply be speaking to a few friends and church leaders whom I can trust, so they can answer questions as to why I am gone.
One of my cheif concerns would certaintly be Lucy making a good transistion here should it work out.
Thanks! Yes I sure was cutting it close. It was pressure on me that I didn't need. If anyone is considering finding a Russian woman and has never had a passport, I strongly suggest in getting one before you meet someone.
A side benefit in telling people who love you about your plans - their support. When telling my parents about my visit to Moldova, I said that if it did not work out then I would willingly consign myself to a simgle life. My mother insisted that if it did not work out that I would definately have to try again (start again at finace,com). I think the old gal wants more grand children out of me. How many will she be satisfied with?
Just dont tell Tesco`s !! They are into everything already, without getting into that too !!!!
"Similar people are listed at Yahoo, seeking the same of love and possibly marriage but don't get labelled 'mail order' - why is that?"
I cant say I had ever thought about it Del`, but you do have a Very good point !!!
People dont run other people down for looking for partners from their own country online, so why dont they leave us the f*ck alone !!!!
Crash, You dont have to marrry her within 90 days mate :o)) You could go to see her 10 times over 2 years before you marry her, so it doesnt have to be such a rush job as some dumb illinformed ignorant people think !! the ones who judge us for what we want and what we do.
You wouldnt marry a woman from your home town within 90 days although you could if you both wanted to. Dont let anyone rush you my friend ;o))
No reason why you cant take a few months to make plans, get to know each other, and then tise the knot :o))
Engagement is allowed too :o)))
I've always shyed away from commitment (marriage and having children) but have never minded living with my partner. Yet, last year that all changed. Now I want it ALL. Some sort of chemical trigger must have occured as it's made me chnage my whole life's priorities.
I know exactly how you feel dma. I was the same way about commitment all my life. Thank god I have been or I would have been taken to the cleaners a few times. Then like you, something triggered off inside that told me now is the time. I knew I would never find the type of woman I wanted in my little corner of the universe. My chances of hitting the lottery are greater I think. We must have had the same chemical trigger go off, lol
Yes, I know Tim. Problem is, I don't know how many times I want to make that journey to get there. Having a woman like Natalia is like a dream come true for me. If she is for real its not going to take me too long to know if I love her or not. We already know so much about eachother, its just the matter of seeing eachother in person to seal the deal so to speak. I'll know for sure one way or another very soon.
Crash I feel I am in the same boat as you. Lucy and I know so much about each other as well. The connection is strong, the emotions are flowing, the mind is fully engaged. For us it would be a sealing the deal thing as well. If what we have had over the phone and letters for what will be four months is there in person, it would seem to be a no brainer. Of course then there is the wating period of some months when we will still be developing the relationship. I have too many committments and limited funds, so while a few trips may be do able -there is a limit. I figure that we decide to be together that there will be at least one more trip for me, and a trip for Lucy and her daughter. And of course I would fly over with them.
But its cool, we all have them in one way or another :o))
I drive one of mine :o))
11 or 22 mate, with 22 you could play both games :o)) One as a whole team of 22 and the other as 2 teams of 11, the "Family Trophy game" :o))
Crash:
I had feelings for Natash` before I went, and she for me, but it took me a while to know that I love her, I have been burned so badly before I was scared, and to be totally frank, it wasnt until I came back here and had to leave her there that I realised just how deeply she has got into my heart, now I have no fear any more, I know I love her, and so does she :o))
Ens:
You are a true Gent mate :o))
That you will fly there, to fly back with Lucy and her daughter, Im proud to know you mate :o))
I would do exactly the same for my Natash` if we decide to make it permenant :o))
Hmmmm well I have been married, to western women, but if I hadnt, I still am certain that if I was looking to settle down now, it wouldnt be with any woman I have ever met here !!
Yes I'm sure thats the way it will be for me too. I'll really know how much I miss her once I leave. I'm going to keep that in mind though while I'm there and make the most of our time together.
Thats the only way to do it isn't it guys? Theres no way I'll let my lady fly here alone. She will probably be nervous enough as it is. The least I could do is be there for her so I can worry about getting us through the airports and all the security and checkpoints that go along with it.