Sorry my friend but I don't agree. The women I have been involved with wanted the same things I did. There was no following involved. At least none I was aware of. I'm not turned on my someone I have to guide. I will guide and mentor/parent my children not my wife.
All interesting pointas, except fjaeril or just plain ferril to be truthfull, but toad I have told you before, I think ehat you realy want is a pet dag LOL
I already told you....I'm done with western female canines.
What QC mentioned in the last post of the previous page is what every woman I currently talk to from FSU reflects.
They want a man who not only knows where he is going, where he stands on and where he comes from...They also want him to make it safe for them to walk along the path HE's chosen for himself and those willing to follow him.
If this sounds too strange for you, I strongly suggest you reconsider your quest.
It's just plain dumber than dumb to get away from the western women who want to lead men at all costs, only to look for an eastern woman without being prepared to lead her, provide for her and cherish her.
Watch her initial respect and deference to you go poof in thin air when your FSU pretty bride painfully discovers you do not have a "life plan" to love, support and provide for the family you promised her.
Men, you cannot have it both ways....Take your pick, boys. You will either be respected for your thoughts, your decisions and the way you assume responsibilities for your actions as a family leader...or you can be cherished for your emotions, your needs and protected from the things you do not want.
Western women currently demand you give them both, thus turning the men in their lives into little more than floor mats to use and step on at will.
Please do not do the same thing to your eastern woman.
An example from my soon to be ex-wife.
She is HEAVILY into wicca. A wacky wannabe throwback to the ancient druids etc. So when she married me and introduced me to her little friends I was a hit because I am English from a little village and those things are practically taught in school. To us it is just a bit of history, the village is full of references to it.
This 'religion' is a womans religion, along with a bunch of 'guys' (I use the word loosely I think you know what I mean) who want to be women!
Goddess this and Diana that. It is the daftess pursuit I have ever witnessed. I used to go along with it and justify my visits with little personal platitudes about intellect etc. Then one day I woke up and said you know what if I see one more fairy dancing around a maypole in what definitely looks like a dress I will vomit. I told her this and the rot set in!! They actually believe in magic (spelt in half a dozen different ways to add color) and if you really want to know what that is all about it is about exercising a womans power over any given situation.
In '98 I said I wanted a divorce after she tried to out silence me for 6 months, I won by saying lets discuss the divorce:). Eventually there was weeping and she even took one of my guns and I thought she would do herself harm. So I agreed to give it another chance by less than the thickness of toothskin. One of the main stipulations was that I as her husband was her primary responsibilty in the world just as she was mine. The one way street would stop. If it was a choice between going out to dinner with me or attending one of her 'meetings' it was not even to be a decision. It was automatic - husband comes first.
So here we are in 2004, she broke every one of the promises she made to get me to stay. She is even hanging out the divorce. Notarize them papers bitch I have a honey waiting in Odessa, Moscow, St Pete or similar :)
Do you understand anything I just said fjaeril?
Incidentally it was then in 1998 I discovered A Foreign Affair. I also dated a beautiful Colombian girl from AOL. She didn't like the situation and took off to a guy in Sweden. But man she had great legs. Ah yes I remember it well!!
Now it is full circle. We are getting divorced, I had a go round with Yahoo personals (food for another string) and I am ready for Russian love. :)
Glad- What you say is true to some extent, but you too should be careful not to take it to far. Yes they want a confident man but they have wants and desires also and if you do not return this respect for there thoughts, you will be out in the cold. If they wanted what you say, they would just stick with local men as they are great at telling them what to do.
Glad I am super curious. Were you joking or was your wife into this daft witch thing also?
I am so happy to see the back of that nonsense. It is the best part of the separation/divorce:)
Iz:
no my ex wasn't into the dark side......or even the pale grey side for that matter!!,but the way she acted on numerous occasions had me wondering,if I was with something supernatural.
The broomstick remark was often followed by another that rhymed very very closely with witch....:))
"So when she married me and introduced me to her little friends I was a hit because I am English from a little village and those things are practically taught in school."
Say again?
"...druids..." ???
-gives an interesting insight into your country's School Curriculum!
ID,
The only way a man could take it too far with any of the adorable FSU women I am corresponding now is if he reneges on his promises to assume responsibility for what he promises.
Otherwise these women are 100,000% willing and ready to follow a man of integrity.
It must be worthy of some note to remind everyone here, specially the green newbies, that will find scammers, ball teasers and women who simple do not like you past the purchasing power of your wallet.
It is ALWAYS your fault if you fall prey to anyone who wants to take advantage of you. Period.
There are a gazillion warnings on this and just everyone other east-west romance site online.
ID,
The only way a man could take it too far with any of the adorable FSU women I am corresponding now is if he reneges on his promises to assume responsibility for what he promises.
Otherwise these women are 100,000% willing and ready to follow a man of integrity.
It must be worthy of some note to remind everyone here, specially the green newbies, that will find scammers, ball teasers and women who simple do not like you past the purchasing power of your wallet.
It is ALWAYS your fault if you fall prey to anyone who wants to take advantage of you. Period.
There are a gazillion warnings on this and just everyone other east-west romance site online.
It is also worth noting toad that each and every person is different and wants different things. You want what you want and it is correct for you. I too have some direction of what I want and hope to find a girls to travel with me on that path, but I am not closed to slight changes to please her also. I wnat a women to share my life with, share my and her disissions. Make new ones, together. But what I do not want is for her to only think of herself like my last one. I seek a balance Toad. Everyone is different