jetmba
You are absolutely right.
But first three items are fair both for girls of the USSR, and for the western girls.
1. For short time it is impossible to learn the person. We can rely only on the intuition. We can live long time with the person and well not know this person. And it is possible to learn the person for instant. On his acts. And we completely change the opinion on his.
2. The economy, certainly, imposes the big role. It is not a secret, that girls search to themselves for more comfortable life in the West. but who wishes itself bad?-:)
But it is difficult to compare the salary of people in the West, and in Russia or in Ukraine. For the West 300 $, it is not enough. And for Russia, it is the fine salary. For Ukraine simply remarkable. And to speak, either stripping or getting married to a foreigner as her only way out is a hypocrisy. Here many live a high-grade life. It depends only on the person. From his private world.
For whom that ??????? night at restaurant, this happiness. And for another it is useless loss of time.
3.-:))))))))))
4. Cultural distinctions really big. But it is the smallest problem.
And in general, the marriage is the big lottery. And never it is impossible to tell beforehand, your marriage will be successful whether or not.
Earlier in Russia parents decided, whom their son will marry. And frequently young at all did not see each other before wedding. And divorces practically was not:)))))))
And many loved each other all life though married not on love, and at will of parents.
So expensive boys, marriages of convenience not such and bad-:)))
Only it is necessary to calculate correctly-:))))
Annika: $10 per day is about $220 per month or about $2,600 per year. Its a pretty typical wage for starting out, noncollege educated, young (20 years old) women in MOST FSU countries.
Un employment is high - so wages are low.
Per capita GNP (1999) in Latvia was $2,420
In Lithuania it was $2,640.
In Estonia it was a whopping $3,400.
Facts are facts Annika.
Not every woman has her British god to support them.
Annika - I am sure that the secretaries YOU know who make much more than $30 a day are OLDER as you are, than most of the women we refer to here. I'm also guessing that they would make considerably less stripping for the exact same reason. (I shudder to think of it.)
This woman - the 20 year old I refer to (now actually 21) has no British god, no flat of her own, does not live with parents and wants more for herself than to just "survive". She wants to see places and do things. She wants to enjoy a better life and there is nothing wrong with that.
Her optiona as she sees them are VERY limited - unless she strips or marries a foreign guy.
Harridan - Cultural problems ARE BIG. And they are FAR from the smallest problem. I just spent three months with a beautiful Moldovan - and that was by FAR the biggest problem that we had. MUCH bigger than our 23 year age difference.
Jetma
The latest figures will stun you.
2005 Estonia GDP per cap $US 14,500
No wonder Annika thinks $10 per day is so low.
Not all Eastern European counties have enjoyed such huge growth. Mondova still languishes below $2000 and the rest fall somewhere in between.
Actually GNP (Gross National Product) per cap isn't the same as GDP (Gross Domestic Product) per cap at all.
GNP measures production by citizens and local corporations domestically and abroad. Production done by foreigners and foreign corporations is subtracted.
GDP measures all production with a country whether that production is done by citizens and local companies, or whether that production is done by foreign companies (the procedes of which are sent to far away corporate offices and never made really part of the economy).
Because GPD includes the production of huge foreign corporation operating within developing countries (whereas GNP doesn't) it artificially inflates production statistics for those countries.
In any even - I am not sure where you got figures for Estonia's 2005 GDP - since its generally measured after the year is over (and the year isn't over yet), but the Estonian Ministry of Foreign Affairs quotes different figures on their webpage.
http://www.vm.ee/eng/kat_131/281.html
It gives the higher GDP (not the GNP) per capita for 1999 as 3799 EUR ($4460 USD) and the GDP per capita for 2004 at 6703 EUR ($7869 USD).
The variation of figures is interesting.
I got my figures from CIA.worldfactbook lastest imformation (2005). Most other sites on the net quote it. I have no idea why Estonia's own website should be so different.
www.nationmaster.com/graph-T/eco_gdp_cap gives a good GDP comparison of most countries, but I do wonder a bit, that they dont seem to know how to spell their own name. (natiomaster.com)
Im not secretary but I have some secretary friends. If secretary get 10 dollars a day in capital of Baltic state its means she might be beautiful but not good specialist and a bit dummie. To talk about no future for young girl its rediculous. So many cources and schools to develop herself, always possibility to go to work in EU country. So many cheap vacations in sale too, sheap tickets to London by Ryanair. Stripping and looking for foreign guys for husband in young age is really not necessery. What I would suggest for that girl is to go night school for secretaries and language school and her salary will double, actually 30 dollars is pretty average. Lots of companies educate their specialists too.
Jet, in my high age woman usually isnt secretary but office manager or personal director who command these girls who "havent future":):):)And when I was 20 years old I studied in university by correspondence and worked at the same time, I lived in my own I hadnt nice boots and I didnt thaught of marriage (domestic or foregn)!
I think its your opinion she havent future, Im sure she hang in parties have boyfriends and dont think about future much at all as normal 20 years old! And Im sure you havent told the trouth of possibilities she actually have.
My moral is : no need to belive every fairy tale what is told to a man to get new shoes, perfume or vacation in warm place! Yes, every woman need them, but use word FUTURE, is a bit ambitious isnt it.
Annika - as always, you make far too many ridiculous assumptions, and jump to far too many conclusions..
I've known this girl for over a year. She's NOT particularly interested in marrying ME because I am a few years more than TWICE as old as she is, so she has no reason to tell me fairy tales. I've never given or offered perfume, new shoes or vacations.
There is more to the story. And unfortunately I can only say so much. But for her the future looks bleak without the two options mentioned.
Annika - get a grip on what you do know about - and don't assume so much.
I dont discuss your realtionship, I just tell that in Baltic states young people have all roads open and if she moan about stripping and marrying abroad, its rediculous. Why she dont go to UK or Ireland as lots of young people. If she thinks she have small salary? Why she dont go to college, lost of colleges are free of payment? If you are so educated maybe you can advise your girl friend in her future education and planning her life. Stripping isnt lifetime career and 20 years old is to young to marry forigner or non forigner, isnt it. And I think she needs career advising and more positive attitude to life! At the same time I belive in USA are lots of youth who think the same, they are uneducated, they cant buy everything, they havent money to travel abroad. For latvian and estonian its really easy to go Paris or London or Berlin ..Easyjet and Ryanair prices are really cheap, ship tickets to Sweden and Finland are very inexpensive, I dont see ANY reasons why she cant travel at least in Europe?
When I read letters with moaning where girls write « Oh I am so unfortunate…oh I am so poor … my salary very small … ». I would like to ask these girls: « You have made anything for improvement of your position? »
I can understand when the woman (45-50 years old) complains of the life. She can not change something in her life, because this is very difficult in her age. To find work, to receive education.
For the twenty years' person there is many ways to receive good education and to earn. But for this is necessary work much. And the most important to wish the latter.
The young girl can go abroad to study and work. Now there is a set of opportunities for this purpose. In order to change one's the life, she is have not necessity in marriage.
Problem here in the other. There are people which want to receive all and at once, not putting to this of any efforts. And this people write letters: « what I unfortunate, regret me … »