I've reaad and even commented on this forum. Even before the comment is posted I would like to comment again, there are so many things floating here it is tough to cover tham all. I think Adman is very imature and running in his own fantasy world or he is a complete atheist. He needs to grow up and be serious be cause if he does not then he will lose the special one when he meets her. Bagira, I believe has a deeper matter that clouds her judgement, though I commend her on her honesty and self respect as well as her self disapline in holding herself for her marriage. I would explain that American men have a traditional partner with better morals than what the modern American woman ( as largely preceived ) have. They wish for a partner that will treat them better, with respect and with honor, which they, in turn, will bestow on their woman. American woman have lost that. Yes there are some that have not, just like there are some men in the FSU that treat women properly while others do not. Viva..... if you are sick of sin city then get the hell out and don't look back and to answer your question ; "but if ever the time comes when i do find one whom i think is Ms Right.. then the question becomes... Shoud i ?? ..."
I would advise you let follow the ladie's lead.
I, myself agree with papagoose4.....were I to actually correspond with any lady in the FSU and to travel there it would be for serious relationship reasons and having sex would not be a top priority but I would discuss the topic with my lady friend. You can learn enough through confersation....being honest and open .... to determine that this person is the one. If they are not then no hearts are broken or scarred.
Can you really appreciate a woman who thinks that it is inappropriate to go to sex before both of you have decided that you will be a couple for all you life.
Do you think that she will not understand that now it is only a test?
You can manipulate a woman and assure her that you are absolutely committed. But will you really feel good after that crap behavior?
Postman
My comements were intended to be a little tongue in cheek
On the other hand, of all the hundreds of thousands of women on dating sites, how many do you think are virgins? I think the answer would tend towards zero. So who is living in a fantasy world?
For all those wanting to live by the "good book". It says "if you divorce and get married again, you commit adultery" Mark 10. 11,12.
Please dont just pick and choose the bits that suit you.
The reason I make joke of this "sex tourist" idea is, I have this picture
of the average guy, from the US or NZ, going to the FSU looking for a bride.
He travels around the other side of the world, tots the girl all over town buying her stuff and because hes moralistic and showing his future bride great respect, or she is holding out on him, hes not getting any. All at the same time shes bonking the local boy at home. I think this is quite funny and a far more likely scenario than that of the sex tourist deflowering young maidens from Moscow to Vladivostok.
Am I wrong? I bet it has played out that way, thousands of times.