I agree with you apal about timber's siuation. Too much too soon!!
I do wonder sometimes how girls that are students can afford anything. I don't know where they get their money to
buy their extensive waredobes. Surely from idiot guys who lavish girls to hopefully buy their way in. I think
many girls must get kick backs($$$$) from agency for letters. Someone is making money from all those letters. No
wonder I have gotton many more consistent responces from girls with agency addresses. Every private e-mail I have gotton in over a year has lasted very long.
It is funny Ben, I couple girls I correspond with have come back from turkey, supposed to have gone with family.
Should I ask how things went? Or just ask if she made a killing????
FSU girls can easily visit places such as Turkey,Cyprus, Eygypt, Thailand and some other non western countries easily as tourist visa is relatively easy to get for such countries. They can even go to China without too many problems. I heard of some who went to the United Arab Emirates, Dubai in particular to work as hookers.
A paid vacation, paid for by a Western stupid guy, is a common scam for a free holiday.
IF SHE DOES NOT WANT TO MEET YOU IN HER HOME COUNTRY BUT ANOTHER PLACE INSTEAD THEN ALARM WARNING BELLS SHOULD BE RINGING IN EVERY GUYS HEAD EXCEPT THE STUPES OF COURSE.
Meeting must be on her home turf where you meet her friends, parents and relatives so you can sus the situation out with her with subtle hint, if you cheat me, you will regret it.
Timber is running into this business faster than a tree falling, that has been chain sawed down..its nuts!
She owns her own local agency and makes good money translating emails for sister agencies.
I know because I sent her flowers there before she had given me any address. I "googled" her name, saw her listed as the manager of the agency and sent flowers there.
She owns her own new (2007) car, speaks almost perfect english, is very well educated (She will write at length about philosophy, cultures, religeons, history, etc).
And she will answer and elaborate on anything I ask her.
She has traveled a lot to europe, thailand and most of the places that FSU women do not need a visa. But this does not surprise me as she has had relationships with other guys from Russia and afar and she makes very good money herself. Like many FSU girls, she will recycle her wardrobe as evident from her photos (63 and counting she has sent) so she doesn't seem to be running up a tab at the fashion mall.
I want to reiterate that she has not asked me to pay for any of her trip. Only that we meet somewhere soon that she will not need a Visa. She sent a very long list of countries since she has an agency and knows where people can go with which Visa. When we both have the time available, she suggested we chose a place and she will buy her tour
When I asked her about visitng her in her town, she said I was more than welcome and she wanted that too. We just started talking about places in the caribbean since the weather would be nicer (barring hurricanes) and we would be meeting half way more or less. I think I am going to let her buy her own ticket, but do not mind paying for lodging, food or fun.
If things look bleak and I feel like I getting worked, I'm not afraid of making an early exit.....phukit.
I have read many posts here and most say to kind of "use your gut" and honestly this one feels pretty good. All of the little details have checked out with her.
We have been communicating daily, via email now for 5 weeks and have spoken on the phone several times. We plan on meeting in October.
We have talked a little about money and she doesn't seem to be too interested in a "sugar daddy" but just expresses that she would prefer to work and have her own income in a relationship but would prefer not to be in the position to financially support her man. I think this is true of most women from FSU and that she is just honest about it.
Sounds good to me Timber, If it feels right go for it. Not much to loose, a whole lot to gain. Even if it all turns to custard you can still have a good holiay.
She was gone probably 2-3 weeks, I'm not sure exactly. She is a lawyer type, as well as her Dad, as far as I know.
Her family is well off, from what I gather.
Use your gut then. This girl has all that material wealth and is talking about you joining her on a vacation. If she thinks your a rich gentleman she will (like 100% of all women) pretty much want you to offer to pay her part.
Test it out, let her pay, she if she actually shows up... or do what the others say here. Meet her on her home turf, meet her family (if she isn't serious she won't -- rule #1). Then meet one of her best friends (Also in Rule #1).
Too many red flags timber... This woman OWNS her own marriage agency and you should not doubt for one moment that she knows how to work the agency system -- and apparently you too.
Buyer beware... You have been warned. But maybe she's a careless dreamer and dreams of you and you only... after a few weeks? You must have a big gut... and a very strong stomach for BS.
She was real, we met in the caribbean for a week. I covered all room and entertainment expenses since she paid for her flight from Kazan to the carib.
We had a great time, did tours, wined dined and spent a lot of time in the sack. In the end, about two weeks after our trip, she said because I wasn't ready to drop everything and marry her, we were not meant to be. That us meeting every 6 months or so would not work. I could understand that.......
I would have liked to spend more time to know her for sure but there is just not time for that in this arena.
Also, alot of what I have read about FSU girls was true. Very forward, a little tempermental, strong willed, elegant and no nonsense.
There were a few surprises though. I think many of the girls are getting away from the traditional values they have been stereotyped in by some of the older dating sites.
All in all a great experience for the $3,000 I invested. If I could do anything differently, I would have gotten to know her longer than 2 months before meeting (but she was fired up to meet) to make sure she was a better fit for me.
So, its back to the drawing board. I have another one I really like so we will see where it goes.