Kirk..that featured russian girls thing is a joke. Merely to amuse others. It was funny at one time all the girls were from either Nikolaev, Simferopol or Sumy, I like to call them the letters writing cities. Some of these girls send out tons of first letters in hopes for a reply, hence featured girl.
After couple years here I have looked at other avenues, mostly free sites.
" i belive any woman will live in any country if she loves you"
I agree with that completely, but how long does it take?
A lot of girls say this in their profiles and when talking to them (on dating sites here....not talking about marriage agencies)
It takes time to develop so, she has to give it a chance over here, not after a few trips. She can only see the reality and what the man is really like in his home.
But it is soooooo different from what she expects. she spends most of the time coming to terms with everything, there's no chance to develop deep feelings.
Maybe she starts to think "how long will I give this?"
Kirk> Expectations are the killer. A lot of these girls are dreaming the unrealistic dream unfortunately. The younger, prettier, and the bigger the city she comes from, the bigger her expectations can get...
But I've seen hearts change, especially if she's in love with you, because the reality is that major parts of Ukraine are a cesspool, even if you have money there... but their friends and family become the next obstacle they have to give up. Thank god for the boom in Internet technology (internet phones, videocams, emails, etc.)so they can contact them every day for cheap.
Danny> I write to both filter out undesirables and see if there's anything in their head. In Colombia, passionate pretty young girls are everywhere. In Ukraine their more closed off to complete strangers, so ever letter you write that they like is almost like one date further in the process if the first meeting has gone great.
You cant get that progressed in a friendship doing the sidewalk grab or Internet quickie meet. I've done all the above.
Yet, it all depends on personalities and level of mutual attraction and interest. If your just looking to go to bed with a cute young girl with no attachment issues, go to Amsterdam...
why do you guys think going to Ukraine and deceiving these girls is a good idea for a sex holiday? Do you guys need that sense of cheap thrill to satisfy some lack of ego or self-worth to prey on these innocent girls and hurt them by trying to deceive them? I feel sorry for you, but I feel more sorry for any girl getting a letter from you...
Good thought bassuk...attainable is not the problem..looking for a girl that matches your values interests and the attraction is mutual. I don't think 2 years is a long time....I was looking in US for 8 years and had a girl in Canada for a couple of those years, she was quite younger than me...I don't think age is an issue as much as a few other things as a mentioned before.
2 years is not that long, just keep your options open and do what I do and develop a list of what you don't want and it helps. ;p
Anyways Beem is too busy sowing his oats... ;p
That the other problem with these countries - almost way too many to choose from. Unfortunately most of these places have been overfarmed and either girls stopped using the agency system altogether or found someone or the local economy picked up - take Russia for instance. It's got a brand new middle-class and a resilient upper-class already in just one generation.