I have also seen some of short vids and have to say I was quite embarrassed by the behavior and type of men I saw on those shows. Some were drunks others were losers being taken for a ride. It seemed to me most were narrow minded and inexperienced when it comes to foreign customs and culture. Virtual tourist web site should point you in the right direction for a place to stay in Odessa or you can try easyukraine links page (my personal site). If you are really interested in making or doing a guide for your country I have a forum for dating but just dont have time to do anything with it. you can PM me and we can work something out if your interested.
Im having a great day and week. Wife had her last blood tests and free flew shots and now its the final few months wait ... weather is good fishing on the comming weekend. Bloody awesome week
Danny,,, who is carrying on about looks??? You have insulted my looks on the forum for over a year! Remember ‘Leggo man” and my haircut???
I described your photo, red shirt, half bald, stupid grin, holding a girl,,,,, when did I call you ugly?? I never said that, but you just admitted it!!! Lol
You don’t find any guys attractive? Well I should hope not,,, but you do like those “Ladyboys” in Thailand!!
You insulted nasfan’s wife just the other day. You must have the memory of a goldfish???
I can’t help it if you find my looks threatening,,, I’m sorry, but it’s not my fault that an impeller didn’t explode in my face too!! I have more than my share of scars,,, just not on my face!
You and D-2 tell so many lies, yesterday he called me; short, fat, old, and ugly!! All lies!!!! So,,, who is making the big deal out of looks???
Abusing a new coming?? You never have?? BS!!! It is all you do!!
I do not believe he is a new comer, I think he is you,,, is working with you,,, or is just like you!!! Either way,, he 100% deserves what he got!!!!
I read his story,,, very long,, spread out over 3 threads,,,,,,, why? For attention!!!! He got it!!! I only got nasty after realizing it was ALL BOGUS!!!! I knew something was more than a little off about it,,, I think martin did too!! I’m sorry that the rest of you are so gullible! The whole story was full of absurdities, but missing key facts. But he was so eager to explain everything,,, after!!
Here are the first replies to A-I-L thread.
“ LR
Is it a pay per minute webcam??? If yes, find a deep hole and await death! “
Why did I say that,,, because if it was a pay per view webcam, he was about to die of embarrassment!! I wrote the word “IF” because he did not say! To anyone on the internet,, the term “Webcam” along with “Nude and Live” means pay per view!!! And Skype is Skype!!
“Rag N bul
I won't even bother commenting but I have a suspicion that the flood gates are about to open. :) “
“Ves
How many fotos were there in Fasebook? “
“danny
Hey digger..... awesome post.great story
I couldn't stop laughing... “
Notice how you are already his friend,,,, even before EVERYONE ELSE started to criticize him??!!
Why do I come to this forum?? Good question! Half of you are not worth the effort.
Remember something I said a few days ago,,, about new members trying to get info on me,,, my age, email, and address?? I thought most of them could be you,, or working with you??!! You called me paranoid! If they are not with you,, then they might be legit, and asking for MY help!!! How does the old saying go,, You always see things clearer with 20-20 hindsight??!! The new people have no experiences for hindsight!! I do!
And what is all the BS about your name and email address?? This is the email address you gave me!! Notice for your wellbeing, I blocked part of it out!
“snaper100@xxxxxxx.com is my email .. i met luba in russia ,”
Why don’t you end all of the games?! You have been here for how many years now??? Using the forum as your own personal playground!! The site already kicked you off once, but you just had to come back!!
You criticize martin constantly for a picture he posted how many years ago??? HOW MANY YEARS AGO?? Just because it might have been in bad taste?? Why did I say; might?? Because I have not seen the photo myself yet! If martin is so out to get you,, then why hasn’t he shown me????
Aussie, I don’t have anything against Greeks, not yet anyway. The guy who played Apollo in the original Star Trek was kinda cool though!! You are not him! Lol
Yes,, you are an Aussie!! Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise!!!!!!
Believe it or not,, but once upon a time I thought Australia was an okay place! But then I joined the forum and encountered danny!! He is just so special! He will change your mind about anything he comes into contact with! For one,,, the “Englesh” language! It will never be the same!!
Now that you two are such good buddies, you can look at each other’s videos!! Maybe if he is occupied with your girl,,, he won’t get bored with his own and toss her girl aside!!
You do know that his last girl (Ira) killed herself,,,,,, suicide!! She was mentally ill though, but I think she was on her meds at the time?!! Oh,, did you also know she had a miscarriage before that,,,, AND was pregnant when she jumped???!!!! These are the things he told us about her,, I never met her myself!!
The girl before her was killed too,,, her name might have been Tamara?? Then there was the girl who stole 36,000 dollars from him! He got it all back without calling the cops though,,,, he threatened her family!! Her mother, sister and an aunt!! He is such a sweet guy!!
You might be thinking;,, that I am a really mean and nasty guy right about now??!! Yes,, I can be,,, but I have told no lies!!!
Why am I being this way right now?? Because that’s how it works on this forum,,,, who started it?? Dig deep into the forum archives and see for yourself!!!! I only know a few of danny’s names,, he once changed his name like 10 times in one night,,,, I should have wrote them all down!! This started years before I got here,,,, he tricks people into feeling sorry for him,,, then he gets their name and email address. He is still harassing a member for sending a girl a box of chocolates?? It happened several years ago!!!!!
I don’t have enough time this week to tell you about all of the crap that he has done.
If you want to get out of the fight,,, then stay out of it! I’ll keep my end of the deal,,, a DUNT never does!!!
Aussie - About shoes, that shows she is very interested to please you. I can tell already by how you wrote that she is taking each word you write to her very seriously already.
Age difference? I have an even bigger gap, but looks go a long way. So if you look great, age has no bearing at all. In fact, I brought this up a half-dozen times to my own girlfriend. Even her friends told me that it is very accepted for younger women to be with older men for stability, sincerity and real support for all life.
For a girl to join the agency, it is for them to open up their possibility to have a real relationship with a caring man with real potential for marriage and a better life. As I mentioned before and seen first-hand... Ukraine men especially young men are not very sincere in regards to serious relations they cannot afford. My girl will not even look at a young guy. Her family trained her well that they will use her for sex and discard her. Her best example? Her own best friend who was disowned by her own family for having premarital sex against their wishes in a small town.
Your age gap? She is very lucky. Most men go for the younger 21-25 year olds without children.
Long distance relations? Yup, agree with both of you. Very very difficult. You need to meet in real life. It will be time when she will be even more nervous than you to make even the smallest mistake or saying the wrong thing. Make sure to treat her like a queen, and that doesn't mean to buy her anything... just means to be gallant and noble. Open doors for her. Let her take your arm (not hand) as you walk down the street. Make sure to walk around the best part of Odessa. There are some really cool restaurants in Odessa...
Falconi (it is open 24 hours I think)
Bulvar (the most romantic italian restaurant and great first meeting restaurant)
Columbus (near the black sea and during summer a high-light open air restaurant event)
If budget is getting in the picture, try some pizza places and some local restaurants. Ukraine food is very similar to western food. Lots of meats and potatoe meals. Lots of fish and salads.
Why ditch her? Don't listen to these guys who gave up and only can see scam artists and schemers. If you give up, you will regret it... If it doesn't work out? Then make sure to get back on the saddle quickly and meet as many other potential hopefuls as you can while you are still there.
Please remember that too... It is the most important thing. Because you will have to prepare for the worst and always hopeful of the best.
Software? Creating an honest agency in Odessa? Yes. Interesting sure. Perhaps we should talk?
I know some of you other guys have experienced a bad situation with a Ukraine girl. I have too. I didn't get spiteful, but at times I was more than a little "disappointed" with the scam agencies and schemer agency girls. Yes those do exist as do the man-eating player women, but those happen to exist down the street from each one of you too.
FSU offers a man the ability to date many more available females than any other country I know and I have visited many. I travel 75-90% of the year outside the USA. I have run my own agency of 400 women in South America... dealt with divorced older women with 3-4 children dreaming to find the rich young hunky husband. I have seen agency girls I knew personally join other agencies and scheme on men and having no real intention of a relationship. I have seen married men and players join the agency to lie and scheme and try to bed each single pretty girl in the agency with words of love... and then leave them, trying to pay less than they would for an inexpensive prostitute... boggles the mind. I have seen very old, ugly men in horrible health trying to marry the young beautiful girl.
So when you guys come off to give advice that each guy going to Ukraine is a dumbass? It doesn't come off as wise advice. It looks like you guys are hurt and trying to get the other guys to go along to justify your pain.
Yes, I have seen many socially-challenged foreigners in Ukraine, trying to meet the young, beautiful, sexy playmate agency girls.
I rarely if ever talk to a foreigner when I am in Ukraine. The moment I hear someone speaking English I try my hardest to blend into the local population. I look Ukrainian and its difficult for people to know I am from the West. I like that a lot and it keeps the taxi drivers from charging foreigner rates if I keep my mouth shut while in the taxi. ;)
Apal,,, What gives?? Shouldn’t you show some respect for your girl???? You just called her a “air head” on another thread!! Some Ukrainian women do read this forum!!
“But just as bow said - there are no guarantees (success or failure). My flags turned out to be just my girl's inexperience and (not so bright) intellect. Heh, I remember meeting her mother and her own mother saying her daughter had wind in the brain (air head). ;) “
Lonely man....
First you thought I was Danny or DUNT or whatever... and now you know that I am not...
Then you "only got nasty" because you thought that my story was "bogus" and yet it is not... why would it be ? do you think that, just because you don't have a life, that we all have nothing better to do than to sit here and make up stories...? and besides I could EASILY prove that it is not a bogus story... all an intelligent person would have to do is read it and find ANY inconsistency... I tell you something... IF that was a made up story ... I should seriously go into the book writing business... LOL...
So now surely you must feel like the wanker that you are and YET instead of putting your tail between your legs and moving on, you continue....
A simple apology would suffice, but you are not man enough to accept when you are wrong and move on in your life... you sit there and you keep digging a hole for your self... and I do not mean just about me and my post here and my experiences and my seeking of advice from what I thought was a forum where men like us support and help each other as we go through this (for some of us still) EXCITING journey...
you sit there and keep digging a hole that engulfs your WHOLE Life... when I say get a life.. I mean it... you will die a miserable lonely old man unless you change your ways... right now is a good time to start...
think about it... what do you have to loose if you changed for the better...? and NOW....!!!
I am not interested in you or in your feud with whomever... I am only interested in learning as much as I can learn about FSU women and getting help and advice from men that have already experienced what I am experiencing...
would it help if I said "PLEASE" leave me (us) alone...?
Apal I really appreciate EVERYTHING you write... I am literally taking notes and will apply what you are saying... I am also going to follow your advice in terms of behaviour and places to go to...
And I agree with what you are saying about others on here... the thing that strikes me is rather than using their long and hard earned experiences for the good of many they would rather sit there and be bitter and twisted and abusive. And all to justify/inflate their huge shattered ego's...
If I ( a "newcomer moron" ) has success with my girl WITHOUT ANY experience or without ever being scammed or left at the airport waiting for the girl that never shows up... then what does that make all these guys that have spend thousands of dollars and thousands of lost hours of their lives?
Exactly... It makes them losers... so the best maybe even subconscious approach when one is faced with feeling like a looser... GO ON THE ATTACK...!
Waste of my time really... I should simply ignore them... and you know what ? I WILL...!
Promise to self... from now on ... IGNORE Lonely...! Done...!!!
Who's next on the "ignore" list?
Lonely - those were her mother's own words in front of her daughter (my fiance) when we I met her mom for the very first time at dinner. It was funny and my fiance was laughing when her mom said it too. I am being honest. No disrespect when you recount the real event is it? ;0
Aussie - Thanks. For all intents and purposes your pre-meeting relations look great. You don't have anything to worry about age gap, sincerity or schemes. Your girl isn't on a pay-per-minute video chat site. So that counters all the nay-sayers.
Yet, the optional advice now: I do think that having backup options will help if something does go wrong at the last minute (no-show, argument, murphy's law, etc). You have an extra month. Don't think it is cheating or betrayal at this point. You can write other women because you never know what will happen. There are no guarrantees, but there is nothing gained when nothing is ventured either. ;)
Above all, make sure that whatever happens, you will always respect this girl. Ukraine women can sense in a heartbeat when a man loses respect for them. And one negative can linger and haunt an entire relationship for all its course. I have said before that Ukraine is a harsh world unlike USA, UK, Australia or Western Europe. There are many women who don't want to leave Ukraine who join the agency to try to find a good man (for life). But once they are in love it changes everything.
Regarding the heart-broken and down-trodden - I understand them all. I not only heard of the scams, but experienced them from both angles (seeing it done to other agency men in front of my own eyes) and having to deal with it real up close and personal.
I have seen the agency employees chatting instead of the agency girl I had just had dinner with. I have seen them try to block relations if you try to circumvent the agency and hire outside translators. That happened one time a really beautiful girl I had met in the past was reunited again with me. I was chatting with her on a pay-per-minute chat site and we argued and stopped all chats (I wanted my own secretary for all future meetings). Next day, she emails me and wonders why I haven't called...
I have seen bad agencies, and bad agency girls. Generally the very pretty girls are the ones who are the ones to watch out for. Not only photoshop photos, but the fact that some agencies do pay employees to chat as the girl and write/read all letters. Girls who will get paid each hour for meeting a man and all gifts purchased become her own. So a prostitute with no morals can enter the fray and yes, it does happen. All girls do this? Not at all!
Not all agencies let an agency employee chat as the girl. It depends on the moral values of the agency manager/owner. And it is a hard scam to address and counter. Although HRB does contact the girl when complaints are issued and ask questions about certain chat subjects to make sure it was the girl doing the chatting... I had been refunded several times in the past years for such scams. But lately that website was 100% sincere as to ensure that I was chatting with the actual girl.
I cannot say this for Anastasia or Dream-marriage. I don't use those sites because scams are more common on those sites just for the reasons mentioned.
Mark-- I said it before that you write some very good realistic knowledgeable advice. I probably worry more when I see your testimonial on HRB/RLM-- I really hope it is genuine and we can be happy for you/.For the record-- I do know that some girls there are real-- and genuine.Some are not even getting payment!!!Some who do get payment--are still interested to see what can happen.Generally -- profiles will be on a number of sites. While I think of it-- profiles can be very hard to get removed-- read that again for those that think profile removal shows someone being serious.
On Profiles--- many variations on this-- profile might be then used by agency for its own purpose ie-- earn income from letters and chat. The photos in profile may be image of someone who has never been on site-- that is never.It is possible that girl gets paid for photos to be used .Video chat does not help here either.Let me give you an example-- girl comes in for an hour or so a week to do chat.Then the tape is used repeatedly--endlessly!!
The person doing chat can be chatting to 10 at once-- do a quick calculation on the $ coming in!! that is a serious earn per hour.In fact--it could be and probably is a guy that is doing the chat-- that is an absoloute fact!! I actually got one to appear on screen!!
I have many examples-- some of you may say I am dumb!! to believe any of it in the first place-- but I am not fussed to spend a few bucks to get where I am trying to go.One more ( one of many I could tell !!)--I got on great online-- with what I know now was someone who was very clever and smart.Even when I said I was coming soon it was handled skillfully--I still had too little info-- that was what made me think more.In due course--I found the person in the photos--relatively well known in Ukraine!!--- I thought-- I will surprise her and phone her for fun.Phone was answered and voice said it was her manager and could I call later.Phone did not answer-- so I sent email( I had found all info on her--including address ,email,phone numbers-- and much more). A day later I got Skype request-- I answered.When I finally got her to put on webcam--it was her in disguise!!!She is actress/model--I recognised immediately-- but played along as if I did not realise.In reality-- at this stage-- she only knew that I came from website-- but knew nothing more at all-- so she was being very carefull to establish who and what I was.In due course-- she became comfortable with me and told me the whole story from her side. I only realised that she did not have a clue about me after I spoke live to her.Out of all that we became friends!! Her photos(real) and so called profile-- are still on website .So in a roundabout way--I did meet a real person thru that site!! But--hardly how you would expect to.
Aussie/D-2 When did I say, that you weren’t the dunt?? If it acts like a dunt, walks like a dunt, sounds like a dunt,,,, it’s a dunt. Are you the same Dunt????
I could have reworded the “sick fxxx” line, but you are still a classless lowlife!!!
You had an intimate time with your girl on a webcam,,, so you need to tell the whole world about it??? It makes her sound really trashy and cheap!!! But you are proud of that,,, just like D-1!!!
You could have wrote something like; I’ve had a few hot and erotic times with her on Skype,,,,, and no one would have said a word about it!!!
It’s been said, that we foreign men have created the scammers?! They mean by spending so much money on them, that we have trained them to scam!! Men are flying over by the hundreds, and spending thousands on them,,,, and all they have to do is smile and look pretty!
I think the same can be said about WHORES,,, are we “you” creating them???? Once they learn, that all they need to do is strip,,, and the guy is buying plane tickets the next day??? What does that tell them???
We foreign men, have turned the Ukraine into the sex/porn/dating cesspool of the world!!
I have never, and will never, ask a girl to strip online, webcam or skype! For one thing, are the two of you truly alone???
I have a little more respect for them, than to ask them to degrade themselves in front of a camera, to someone who they haven’t met!
AN APOLOGY????? You need to apologize to your girl and her child!!
Hey Aussie,,, I just turned my webcam on,,,, can you see which finger I have up????
JayH, yes its a legitimate real relations I have. Yes, I have brought up the issue of encountering many scam agencies, scam translators and game playing insincere agency girls to my fiance and also our personal translator. They understand the difficulties I endured to create a real relationship.
JayH. Re: My (our) Testimonial on HRB
Katya (My fiance) was the first to write her own testimonial a few days before our reunion. We had broken up in emails after our very first meeting because I didn't trust her enough. I caved into the mindset of all the hurt men who write all over the internet about how everything regarding meeting a girl through the agencies is some sort of big scam.
What made matters worse, was I kept my profile on the sites and emailed girls about their opinions of my first meeting with her. Each had negative things to say about my fiance. (ie. She is using me, just for gifts, money, support, etc.). If I had come to the Forum here, I'm sure everyone of you would probably have agreed. Not one of those girls I emailed believed my Kate was pure of heart, good intentions. They all told me she was using me, and how sorry they were for me, and how much better they were for me...
What I didn't know that I know now? Katya was very inexperienced about relations. She was extremely sincere, but she didn't trust men at all, let alone completely trust a foreign man with sincere intentions she had just met.
All those problems (the breakup)were the reason behind her saying that there were difficulties. It took a while for either of us to wish to speak.write.chat each other... but we did after she understood, and I understood I had mistaken her sincerity.
But our reunion was perfect. And now it a year later worth of more meetings, more trust and newer even more beautiful memories.
Can I abandon her and meet someone else? Yes. But I don't want to. I will see it through to the end of our courtship, and the beginning of our marriage. ;)