And if you really want to impress her, cook for her !!
Ive never met a Russian woman yet who has had a meal cooked for her by a man who wasnt a chef or cook in a restaurant ;o))
It goes without saying that I love to cook and I'm a great cook. [I know, modest too..shy too! ;)]
She already knows that "if" I plan my visit longer than her holiday from work (when she's working) that I will do the "house" thing - go shopping and cook her meal for her when she returns from work.
btw: I don't need to "try" to impress her...it just comes naturally. ;)
...if she's not totally smitten (almost a certainty) she must surely bat for the other side.
Oh yes a man cooking a real good meal, is a rare person here:) Though everybody can make such small things like bringing tea or coffee to the bed, or make some sandwiches and some other small dishes:)
dma You make a good point in saying that months of relationship compatibility stuff must be packed into a week or two. The letters and phone calls are valuable in getting to know one another, and seeing if there is a viable connection. Certaintly these make up for not being able to be together in many ways. But there is so much more that can only be known through direct experience.
Would the Babe approve of you babe? If so keep him away he was a dirty lecher.
I can't see it any other way - this type of relationship surely has to happen much faster than any of us is accustom to or not at all. You have r-e-a-l-l-y got to want it, want to try hard at it and in many ways that's a good thing where normal relationships are less serious, in effect casual without trying to demote them which by comparison "thought" I have been in serious relationships but have not because I was not prepared to go ahead with total commitment.
Whilst the bulk of the time is fun and exciting, it's equally serious and nerve racking with major life-changing decisions to be made, none of which can be taken lightly.
Letters are step 1 of finding that connection.
Step 2 of calling and hearing each other is the next.
And with each step, if carefully and successfully taken, both get closer as every word melts you from inside out.
Step 3 and the biggest so far, is being together for that relatively brief time when real decisions and judgements are made.
Step 4. OMG. Step 4 needs no other words.
dma well said! That melting away from the inside-out thing, I know what you mean. Its hard to contain. When Lucy and I talk, I feel the melting warmth, it is so consuming, I sit in my chair afterwards and don't want to get up. It lingers through the day. It is such a unique sensation. It is akin to, but somehow unlike sexual passion. Maybe this is just a normal part of the dating/mating emotions of us homo sapiens. But if it is I somehow missed it in all my past experiences.
"it's equally serious and nerve racking with major life-changing decisions to be made, none of which can be taken lightly" a hearty amen!
> I sit in my chair afterwards and don't want to get up
I "can't" get up. lol
...and that's "get up" not "get it up". ;)
Sometimes the experience is all to encapsulating that you feel paralysed; hopefully not stung by a black widow. And I cannot write what warmth I feel...use your imagination! But there are moments when I am lost for words (surely not?) as my breath is taken away, stolen by a moment of ethereal pleasure. This is starting to sound like one of my letters...I better stop NOW. :)
Can't get up from the chair more acurately describes my condition after our talks. The other I won't touch!
"ethereal pleasure" nice words - does your Russian love understand the nuances of your vocabulary?
When I started communicating w/ Lu I kept my vocabulary simple. But I have expanded it, but I'm not sure if she appreciates my specific and intended word choices, or if she finds it a nuisance to have to have to look up new words.
> does your Russian love understand the nuances of your vocabulary?
simple answer: generally not but she has a good understanding of what I'm writing/saying, but 'oh yes' (capital letters would be appropriate here) when she does - either having to look up the word(s) and what better way to learn? or; have me explain these words which is just as much fun that I try to make little games out of. :)
I started writing quite simple but that's now well and truly out of the window - anything goes!
She enjoys translating my letters and the passionate expressive way that I write holding very little back about feelings, emotions, desires, dreams. etc etc. and probably as much as I prefer translating her letters devouring and savouring every word that aren't relayed and translated through the agency.
Appreciation is one way of describing it. :)))
And I'm about to send another monster of a letter off...
A relevant question would be, how much (total words) do others write?
The one I wrote yesterday was 2,300 words but I won't write another like that till Wednesday.