It was a bad situation dma. Truth is I am relieved it is over with her but miss mys stepdaughter. I feel bad for the life she will now have as I know her mother loves her but not as much as a mother should.
ID I also came across differenr woen her without children who welcomed a man with children. I had some correspondance with one. This may be a option for me if things don't work out with Lucy.
dma I beleive you are right when you say that there is a bond thst the mothr has to allow to be pushed back. This probably to different degrees depending on the woman's personality and experience. I think that this bond is stronger with sons (at least this is true in the U.S.) especially older sons. With daughters it seems that mothers earnestly (I won't say desparatly) want a positive father figure in their daughters life. Lucy's 7 year old girl has not know her father since a very early age.
It seems not much unlike my situation last year. Whatever you can imagine, happened. I tolerated more than any other sane person would and why I never walked away sooner, still puzzles me other than perhaps the fact that she was pregnant. A paranoid foul-mouthed offensive, mental and physically abusive schizophrenic doesn't go any length to describe the type of person she was and will continue to be. But then she's a mother, so that's okay!
Yes, even on the Lord's day I am a luck Devil! Why delay? Call her now! I found a phone card that allows me to call from U.S. to Moldova for 6 cents a minute.
They wont though Ens, because they are greedy bastards who still havnt realised that there are other cheaper options, personally I hope it drives these big companies like Bt to bankrupcy !!
I havnt paid a BT call cost for almost 5 years now, and I never will again !!
Think it might have been raised in another thread Tim but I'm not sure.
Calling from the UK to ANYWHERE in the world I use Telediscount and the rates are unbeatable,calling to Ukraine for example costs me about 7p/min,and to Russia 1p/min!!!!
Not sure if they run a service from the US but for our UK based members I have yet to find a better option..........And before anyone asks I'm NOT on commision.......:)))
Funny thing how interesting and informative topics like the original one here (older kids vs younger kids - or any kids at all) are almost always conquered by some successful or losing financial event.
In this case the cost of phone calls....
Please give it a rest. Just 'reach out and touch someone'.
Ensata,
May I suggest you send Lucy a copy of Bill Cosby's old stand up monologue on kids and parents...:)
It's such a clean classic. Every household with children should have a copy. My kids and I watch it together from time to time...
ID,
Sorry about your story, mate...but I stand by my opinions about preferring women with teen boy(s).
Not counting any serious mental illnes that may befall the woman or child after moving to our homes, their current health condition is part of what I call 'due diligence'.
It must be evaluated, disclosed and discussed openly by both and the doctor, if possible.
It isn't all about singing hopeful, happy songs about the temporarily 'brain damaged' brats....but I much rather deal with a teenage boy for a few years, knowing he will naturally seek the front door in a few short years (or I will show it to him).
I am more than capable of leading my entire houselhold with love, discipline, safety and security.
Any woman who decides to follow me into my lifestyle will have a perfect crystal clear picture of how I want things done, specially when it comes to handling children, hers/mine/ours/everyone else's.
After having raised my own quite successfully, I make no bones whatsoever about what I believe is right and proper and how to prevent the multiple risks kids & parents face these days.
Toad, have you met many Russian woman. You attituade about how you want things done may be difficult for them to take. Evey Russian girl I know is very head strong and have a few ideas of there own. I have even seen a few stories in magizies saying the same. Good luck to you though. My storie and my opinions are only offered as the question was asked. If someone already knows the answer, why ask the question. I hope that everyones answers had been useful to you.
The only FSU women I am currently considering for a serious relationship know, agree and are relieved to know what my thoughts are about family life in general and child rearing in particular.
Your point is well taken...
And I do know about FSU headstrong dispositions, specially towards family life, marriage and children.
Being headstrong is not a negative when there is agreement and we share common goals on matters of such importance.
Quite the contrary, it makes us both twice as strong because we can rely on each other to get twice as much work done under the same line of thinking.
That's why it is fundamental to find that agreement on things that are important long before anyone pops the M.... question.
Questions, answers and opinions are like noses in here, lol...everyone has one! And everyone blows it for free...:)
There is nothing negative about the occasional disagreemnts of opinions among us...nothing at all.
I, for one, welcome the opposing comment...how else would I be able to learn anything at all if everyone agreed with me and saw things the way I do?
I am not disagreeing with you toad. What you say sounds good and is how things should be. My Russian woman experience are only girls I did meet though my x, apart from the ones I didi meet in Russia. She was a difficult person and most likely made friends with similar typr Russain woman. But they are out there as much as the good ones so it is worth memtioning.