wasn't aimed at you Jet, was aimed at the author of this thread, not being judgemental, just saying the chances of it succeeding long term were slim. your age difference, while large is not in the same category.
Annika77, it's not bad, read what tradman says above, "the chances of it succeeding long term are slim" if the age difference is too large and that applies to all countries and cultures not only western.
jet, I agree with tradman, you've got at least a good 15-20 years in front of you (most marriages in the US don't even last that long), and by that time she'll be in her forties. If she was American, we've seen how they age, she could even look older than you:)
Wtrav,
The 'UNbuyable' factors you mention are all too real, but I stand by my opinion...they're secondary.
That does not make them UNimportant. Just secondary.
MOST women, regardless of their nationality or cultural background do not willingly agree to marry someone who promises them to provide a WORSE off financial situation than the one they can provide for themselves.
2005 has arrived Wtrav, and believe it or not, for some weird reason women these days do not get all moist and starry eyed at the idea of living 'in a cave'.
And on the other side of the coin, for men the proof is in the pudding. MOST men are visual creatures who get a shot of motivation, ambition, hope and satisfaction at the all too real prospect of finding, courting and winning the heart and devotion of a most beautiful and much younger foreign woman than they can afford to attract in their own countries.
Again, those very important 'can't buy them with cash' values that make the whole package workable for both western men and foreign women are highly important and often deal pillars or deal breakers all by themselves...but they're secondary.
Men who cannot even provide for themselves, let alone a family are out of the race...I welcome their competition..:))
Women who are not physically attractive rarely get a second chance to display any of their other character qualities.
Don't let the UNromantic, crude and oversimplistic manner of my previous 'toadish wisdom' presentation cloud the reality of the primary reason why we're so welcome among eastern, latin or asian women or why we are so attracted to the foreign woman.
It does not take anything away from the other secondary reasons.
"....Many women in the states have made that a career!..."
Nasfan,
That does not make them lazy. Quite the contrary, mate.
American women work VERY hard to make sure they take advantage of every single anti-husband law available in this country to get as much out of their men as possible before they throw them away like a used paper towel.
Selfish?
Yes
Unethical?
You betcha
Lazy?
No way, jose
jet, none taken, best of luck with your flight and hopefully she'll keep you warm in the cold moldovian winter. By the way, if I were you, I would have no trust on toad in the above proposal, he seems too crafty with the ladies:)
Eight hours and some minutes and counting.
Thunder - the presentation of the ring is actually fairly anticlimatic - she already said yes. It just symbolic (of an eternally empty wallet from here and forth - just sort of kidding). She already considers herself to be the possesor of TWo engagement rings - each bought from a local merchant for around $30 and each without diamond. (All we could find were what they called "zircons" or cubic zirconias).
But I will make myself scarce from this forum for the duration of the trip. Mostly because when we go to an internet cafe she reads everything over my shoulder. While I have nothing against that - in the proper situation - there are thing laready on this board written by me that I might not want her to see - as I have eluded to in the past.
If and when we tie the knot (I am a sceptic of EVERYTHING until it actually happens) I will probably rejoin this forum as a newbie. I don't know for sure.
Please don't beat the crap out of me - like we tend to do to other newbies at this forum who express divergent opinions too fast. :)
Seriously guys - I thank you for all your good wishes. Those were good wishes weren't they? Thanks Thunder and toad but I think I will keep my fiance warm against the Moldovan winter myself just fine......
Of course, especially when he talks some experienced sense - what do you think we are, a bunch of pliable sissies???
"I am a sceptic of EVERYTHING until it actually happens"
That, in fact, could be regarded a bit as a Russian character treat Jet, so I presume you're busy acclimatising - good going :)
All this relationships will work good the first year or 2, but when the aging accelerate it will bew like a zombie relationship i think.
So better be alone than be worried about my young excellent woman.
There's very few ancient Hermits here I think, especially of the kind who want to be worried about your young excellent woman.
However, if you by the sounds of it have one of those, why be here? A bit sour you sound indeed, so, to cheer you up, here's a tip - don't use lemon-juice on your herring, instead use Akwavit. Such just might keep her longer at home than only those 2 years also, one never knows...
you really should try that combination - a Dutch herring (salted, raw) with a sprinkling of Akwavit. Don't forget the finely chopped (and dried!) onions, serve on a mirror, and off you go.
I used to make large buffets and learned a couple of tricks, but this one I was taken aback by - absolutely stunning, worthy of any Sjmorrebrot!!
Hey, if you prefer it clean.... my my, my man, that's an instant recipe for a lasting headache ;-)
Thunder:
hmmm...that does sound interesting......why the mirror tho?....am I missing something here?
My only experience of this wonderful stuff was "clean".....and boy does it leave a lasting impression!!.......:))
Whoaa, stop the bus!!
The mirror (and let me stress there's no razorblade nor a rolled note required :) is for serving only. Looks stunning (and will also teach you to work literally spotless :) but served on a saucer will do fine. If you want to treat some people... buy a mirror!
Parsley and lemon as garnish (don't use/eat it), and if you really want to bowl them over some diced aspic.
If you invite the Queen (dunno your connections ;-) colour the latter with some parsley-juice (and then also hide that bottle really really well :)
Lmao Thunder......rolled notes!!!.....razorblades!!!!!........you kill me with sledgehammer wit my friend!!
Always clean in the kitchen TD....not so in other places...(not going there!!)...:)).
Thanks for the recipe......must go and ask Lizzie if she fancies a fancy snack!!!!
Lizzie? You royal baastid! First name terms eh? I knew it!!
Well, fact's a fact, but then don't hide the bottle. Those 'not so other places' are your best bed, eh bet I suppose. And talk about a fancy snack... ;-)