The idea that occured to me was that if you get yourself a strong healthy nursing sister, who is much younger than you are, you have somebody to lift you from the bed to the bath to the wheel-chair when you are old and decrepit. -One who can push the wheel-chair, even up-hill.
dear men!!! there is no tradition in Ukraine or Russia to marry much older men!! i think that man should be older, it is normal for relations!! ( older is maximun- 10 years)!! Every women wants to have a husband, but no father!!! I am from Ukraine, i can see it every day!!! All marriages in Ukraine are with minimum age difference or same age men and women- it is true of ukrainian life!!! I know many women who prefer even younger men ( she is 25, and he is 23)!!
Why does such women need men of age 45-65?!! it is just games of marriage sites, that is all!
I wish everybody happiness and to meet a nice partner of life!! Just do not be funny, always remember about your age!! Old wine is good, but not old men!!!:))
Does that mean I am in trouble then? My gf is 34. I am 52. While I was there, people told her look 40. She now shows my picture to people and tell them I am 45.
Old women are often a pain in the arse too. Young lady, next time you see a bitchy Babushka arguing the point over something, remember, that is your future. When making sweeping generalizations it’s wise to frame your words more carefully, particularly when dredging up 4 year old threads.
Now please excuse me while I unravel my aging body from this rocking chair, collect my walking stick and stagger back to bed where my young, hot wife will close her eyes and think of home whilst a grunt my floppy body all over her because she knows I will die soon enough and she will then inherit all. Ah, that saint who created Viagra!!
To my knowledge, the info from 'real girl' is correct. Most women in Ukraine prefer to marry a man a little older than they, just like in America. And it is not customary to have a big age difference.
This being said, only a very small percentage of American women are willing to consider a man more than 5 years their senior, whereas 10 years is not so unusual in Ukraine, so there is a real difference in attitudes "over there."
As for me, I'm a poor dumb bastard just past 50, who hopes to find a woman who will still be young enough for a safe/healthy pregnancy after the couple of years it takes to go through the international dating & marriage process... For my dream to work, it will be necessary to bridge a gap of 15 years or so.
But I wouldn't be making the attempt, if I didn't think it possible. Anyway, I understand that I won't build the family I dream of, by chasing girls in their 20s. When a woman of (for example) 25 says she is interested in men more than twice her age, I understand this to mean that her intentions are not serious.
But with women in their 30s (especially if they already have children), I hope it can be quite different.
That's my situation exactly, durak, only I believe I found my woman. I hope I can pull it off. Business is so bad right now, but I see improvements lately.
There are no hard and fast rules. People are all different.
There IS certainly some resentment among Ukrainian men about older men (perceived as well-to-do) being with young ladies. (ON two seperate trips I had trouble with local men for that very reason). I've been moaned at that "Rich foreign guys come and take our women and leave none of the good ones for us!"
And now with the comments of "real girl" above it is clear that that resentment transfers to Ukrainian women as well.
You'll find similar sentiment expressed by western ladies who resent "Pretty young foreign women take all the best men!" And jealousy among your peers (asuming you are an older western man) when he sees you with a pretty young thing attached to your elbow (and they recall what they are stuck with at home).
The fact remains though that there are no hard and fast rules. What works, works. What the ladies like, they like.
Its all about personality and perception and how they feel about you YOU as an individual.
I'm a 51 year old man - my ladies (yes, still sigh, plural) are 29 but look younger. There are no compatiblity issues at all.
My American wife was 11 years younger, my Russian wife was 12 years younger, my current Ukrainian girlfriend is 20 years younger. To attract younger women... I think it is important for an older man to have a young "attitude" and he must take care of his appearance. Fat, bald, wrinkled and angry will get you nowhere...