Coop....we all have choices for ourselves, whatever you decide for yourself, great, happiness is the secret of life. We are all individuals, with our own likes and dislikes, so yes you are right about our own value on things. Your 'chase' seems to center on sexual pleasures, based on your posts from your last trip. Am I wrong in that? I call that a 'skirtchaser'. I have a friend that goes to russia for 18 year olds, for sexal appeal.
As for my desires, I want to find a girl that matches my desire for her and her desire for me. I am a different person than I was 20 years ago, more patient, easy going, less up and downs, just want someone to enjoy life together, that all!!!!
I am not a kinky guy, I can get a lot from a nice big hug. Yes I am divorced and hppy for the ex, she has her own family now, we both have moved on. If I had to do it over again, I would still marry her, it was not a mistake at the time, just a relationship that drifted, it had its course. Besides, I have 2 incredible kids.
I gave her a choice come with me or stay here and we divorce. She wants to stay there in crummy apartment no hot water shared with 3 others. Its what she is used to and dosnt know any difference
my place was brand new and everything was there. I realise now its not me and I got myself worked up about this. While I was there at least 3 times she agreed to go back then the next morning she changed her mind. They have a different mindset to us ,I am however glad I was cautious with my money and didnt spend much what I sent her each week was a reasonable amount for ukraine but nothing to me.
As said with many here when money comes into the equation theres something wrong. A genuine person will not look for money from you.
I know for sure I will hear from her again when I looked for marriage cert from her she disappeared and make it more complicated for me. But she will be in court next week and she will have to surrender it. It will sink in the man who supported her never argued with her treated her like a queen is gone.
Now she has what,crummy place no job nothing, no rich western husband. They are fooled by television
to belive all in the west are millionaires. But in every country there is problems no where is perfect.
Colin,
A year and a half ago my Russian beauty (wife) and I split up and she went back to Russia. We still had a good relationship throughout the breakup and divorce. I sent her home and gave her enough money (generous amount) to start her new business.
As a side point her my personal feelings are to send them back to their homeland and provide them with enough money so they can establish themselves to the same condition as when your found them … my personal feelings.
Anyway, I sent her money every month to supplement her income for four additional months. At the end of the last monthly payment... guess what??? she urgently needed to talk to me... she was very happy to hear my voice and wanted me to visit her... but now she urgently needed money to pay a debt she borrowed against to supply her business with products. In all her wisdom she thought of me... the lucky guy... I guess. I told her nyt, no I would not send her any more money ... and that was the last I have heard from her. Beware Colin, and I have told you this before, but she might make one last attempt in the end to "extract" whatever she can from you and she will use all the emotions she can stir in you to "get it done". For me I simply told her I would not support her because she was no longer my wife. I don't think she really understood me... she seemed surprised that I could be so "cold" and not look after her in her time of need. There is a definite cultural difference in relationships between Western and FSU women they (FSU) think differently they expect to be taken care of (monetarily) after the relationship has ended. Western women understand the divorce is final… FSU women still try to "get" something afterwards.
I am still friends with her I smsed her and said I forgave her. She never wished to leave Ukraine she thought what? it would be heaven here. But every country has its own problems no where is perfect.
They have a bad mentality in relation to marriage and dont put a effort in my lawyer told me its 50 percent divorce for first 3 years. For me okay she drove me crazy sometimes but she was my wife I would make a effort and in time we would be tolerant she wouldnt do this.
I understand the kind of situation you are going through, although not a divorce but a similar situation of one that came to live with me, to subsequently marry, in UK some 7 years ago.
From day 1 in UK it was clear that she had an attitude problem, disagreements started and reached the level whereas I didn't relish going home, to my own house, after I would finish work and that is just the tip of the iceberg.
Particularly with hindsight, it was apparent that she was going out of her way to pick disagreement(s) with me and as much as a heart wrenching decision it was for me to make at that time one has to realise for how long they will continue to flog what is a dead horse.
You, and only you, can realise if something in your relationship, your marriage, is worth trying to rescue or if indeed it is a 'dead horse' that you might consider continuing to flog.
Wife buyer
Colin and his wife got married, she moved to be with him in Ireland and it didnt work out. It happens.
For what part of this should she be blacklisted??
Moron Asshole Danny, I've been married to my wife longer than you have been with your partner so shove it in your ass pal. So who is paying for who. By the way how is Tamara, another women you sucked off of? Interesting email.
wife buyer
You sound like the clown on here that blcklisted a girl because she wouldnt introduce him to her mother.
Colin has said little about her wanting money.
Plenty of people have woken up in Vagas, with a ring on their finger, wondering what the hell theyve done. It happens with whirlwind romance.
Personally I have never had time to read blacklists, or post on them. Whats not perfect for me could be perfect for another.
Wife Liar, not according to someone she isn't dead? Maybe another one of your fabrications? Another partner and Soulmate? Poor Ira, she isn't your soulmate just someone you happened to knock up along the street of lies.
I agree with Adman it was a whirlwind romance, they are fooled into thinking all in the west is paved with gold. But we still have problems and the west is not instant happiness.I went out in the capital last weekend hit it off with one girl 34 a accountant no kids and blond we had alot in common and meeting her again next week. Fsu is too much work for me I have no problem meeting people here I fell head over heels for my wife but it was wasnt visa versa. I got this letter last night from her mother btw. The wife is not talking to me at moment she probably got divorce papers but I dont see point being married and her in Ukraine.
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Hello dear Colin,
How are you now? How do you feel yourself?
Dear Colin, I would like to thank you for understanding and would like to ask you- for the excuse for my daughter. I saw you made all possible to clear up the situation and to develop it in the most possible better way.I think it was good and honestly that (your wife) said all she thought, at least it was honestly. The fact that there are some misunderstandings between you – nothing strange is here, it could always happen at the beginning of the family life! And I will always think and consider it is always possible to find the wise way out from any situation if only two parts want this.
I still with take you as my son-in-law and I do believe you tried all possible to make my daughter be happy, unfortunately life turned in another way. I respect you and am really very sorry that it happened the way it happened. I really appreciate you how much efforts you made in order to solve the situation the in the most positive way.
Dear Colin, please if possible pass my best wishes to your parents, I really wish them much health and all the best. I am very thankful to all members of your family for their support (my wife) when she was there in Ireland.
I thank you for you visit to Ukraine and I know you have done all correctly.
Once again- I thank very much to you, Colin, to all your family and please belie me- I am really very, very sorry for all that happened here in now, when you were here with the visit.
With all the respect,
Basically my wife fell while walked my doberman she developed a pilionous cyst at the base of her
spine. The type caused by ingrown hair the fall seemed to make it worse. In Ukraine she said
it was all my fault? So my fault she has ingrown hairs.? I said okay I accept all faults come
back and make a go of it .NO she said I dont believe you. They seem not to trust people at all
maybe just their own mothers is all I have never lied to her.
Godspeed to you my friend. You are truly one of the more honest people to post on this forum. Stay in Touch. I wish you all the best in your search for happiness.
Sincerely
Mike
"May your soul be in heaven a half an hour before the devil knows your dead"