"If I had a chance to redo it over again, I would have taken a different route over a decade ago and that would have provided me more flexibility than I have now"
Doesn't everybody?
My grandparents also raised 8 kids but those were the days when a kid was happy with a bicyle only and not playstation/iphone/wii2/fancy clothes/holidays abroad/etc.
Maybe in my grandparents' days it cost 1/40 of a million dollars to raise a child.
You say that you will take a brief shot at it but I think it will take more than that, remember persistence.
There are too many profiles with nearly the same interests and desires. It is like trying to find a needle in haystack. There are many single ladies with children and that seems like a shame that so many have broken families.
Has anyone had someone tell you that they have given you their "heart and soul" and that they are bonded to you for eternity? And there has been no direct face to face contact other than video chat.
Let us be honest, the reason you have a chance with young and attractive girls is that there are so many young women with children (some are only 20!) as local eligible (probably the ineligible ones too) men will not touch a woman with one or more children with a barge pole, especially if she is around 30 or over.
The thing about similar profile descritions I believe is for these reasons:
- On the pay per everything agencies, the profiles are written for them
- The girls who write their own profiles are told to write what they think the Western men want to hear
- When they are writing their profile, they look at the other profiles and then write the same kind of thing.
- The ones that are not serious and scammers will use cliches on everything: profile, messages, skype conversations, etc.
I do not have a problem with ladies who say in their profiles that they are prepared to give themselves fully and love and be faithful to their man forever. I say the same kind of thing to them providing they reciprocate.
However you get the little gems in some profiles:
"If you are looking for a baby factory and then a nanny for the babies, look elsewhere"
No profile has mentioned about being a "baby factory" that I have come across, but quite a few say they want children (at least those not over 40). The ones who already have children are looking for a "father figure" for their children. I have come across quite a few women much closer to my age who already have grown up children previously. I am sure there are also those who don't have a great desire to raising children.
You will never find profiles saying things like "If you are looking for a baby factory and then a nanny for the babies, look elsewhere" in sites where the ladies have their profiles written or redacted for them by the site staff.
You should see the things they write in sites like mine:
No Arabs, no Turks, no Muslims, no time wasters, no sex tourists, no married men, no men who want to buy a woman, etc.
Do you think that the owners of dishonest agencies want to scare off men like these and their money in pay per everything sites?
I do not recall reading any profile making those type of exclusions. Maybe all of my contacts are just scammers or looking for a sponsor?
Some of the initial messages that I have received are rather odd. One wants me to write to her and tell her where we would make love when I would be her travel guide in my country.
Another one wanted to ask my advice about her very young friend in her late teens who is getting married and she wanted to know my opinion about marriage at such an early age. She disagreed that her friend should marry that young. In her first message, she makes no mention about herself.