Ah well. I started a thread on best breakup stories. This one was pretty good. Mum (42) goes back to her lazy, drinking 26 year old ex-boyfriend after he cuts himself and threatens to kill himself. I obviously did not love her enough. I will remember this as one of the best two weeks of my life.
Daughter, daughter's boyfriend and I are going out drinking tonight.
btb754 wrote: "Saw Bruce Willis on a billboard advertising something."
the billboard is an advertisement for Russian "trust" bank which, ironically, became the first bank that needed bailout
from Russian central bank last month.
So drinking was only daughter and me. I met daughters boyfriend and he likes me and trusts me to be a gentleman. The fact that he is a mixed martial arts fighting champion here in Ukraine may have something to do with his confidence in my propriety.
She and her extended family are determined to make sure I am not suicidal. Fat chance, but I appreciate the effort. I really loved mum, despite her turning out to be a whack job. I think she may have spoiled me for all other women.
However, daughter introduces me to her tall, slender second cousin (American term) tomorrow. Daughter also knows a few of the Nikolaev fiance.com woman who write to me. Very interesting commentary. When in doubt, check VK.
It's kind of my own damn fault. I have a weird attraction for "bad" girls. My first marriage lasted five years then my oh so exciting Irish wife left me for her cocaine dealer.
So of course, mum's cousin turns out to be the complete opposite. Devout Christian, good job with a business on the sign she started for when she becomes a stay at home mom. Tall, slender, good looking. Would be hot if she wore even a little make-up. She is a health food nut who would help me live a long time. Went to school in America for a year and speaks great English. And she wants at least one child. She is also a control freak and already planning the rest of my time here in Nikolaev. We spent a fair amount of time together and she was honest about how hard it is to meet a good man. My little friend says she wants an American husband but she is not on any dating sites. As a devout Christian, of course, God will provide.
And it gets even more interesting. One of the twenty somethings who had been writing to me sends me a very nice letter this morning. Of the twenty somethings, she was the one I was most interested in - already had a kid, cute, dances, and a subtle flirt. So I write back and we end up meeting tonight. She asks if she can bring her sister and of course I say yes.
They have the same mother but different fathers. It turns out her sister is another fiance.com lady in her thirties. She and I corresponded a lot before I got distracted by mum. This could have been awkward but older sister thought the timing of younger sister's letter to me was an "omen". She hopes it works out with me and I become part of the family.
My date is wearing form fitting leather trousers. After a light dinner and a couple of drinks we go dancing. They both look pretty good on the dance floor but the younger is just plain hot. I was honest about seeing mum's cousin and just wanting to have fun for my remaining time in Nikolaev.
Neither spoke English very well. Both were amazed by my voice recognition and translation technology.
So, a 31 year old who wants a kid and a 25 year old who already has one both want to build a relationship.
That is a big swing from 60 over to 26. But I guess the guy who gets there first has more time spent with the lady and has the advantage. She may still have emotional ties to him, so that may always linger in the background.
Most of you know this. When a relatively well off westerner starts dating a Ukrainian girl, it becomes a family affair. Mum, mum's sister and husband and daughter and boyfriend were all my new best friends.
So when mum dumps me for her whacked out former ex-boyfriend, it was like a hand grenade landing in the family dynamic. Daughter has a screaming phone fight with mum and deletes all evidence of her from her VK profile. Mum is worried daughter's MMA boyfriend is going to beat up her former ex-boyfriend. Sister wants to meet with me and console me in my period of distress. Daughter suddenly starts spending a lot of time with my to "console" me. Daughter immediately hooks me up with mum's attractive but tightly wound 31 yo cousin (who wants a baby) and cousin immediately starts planning my time.
The entire family does not want their newly single American friend wandering around on the street. God knows what might happen.
I suspect this dynamic would occur with any girl I dated here.
So for me, the family "takes over" my time from arrival. I know what is going on. I am having a great time so do not rock the boat. I had things on my Nikolaev agenda that kind of fell off when mum dropped into my life. I can do those now.
Given my recently single status, mum was really too much too soon. I had to give it a chance, but I am not very sad that it is over.
The Nikolaev agency is pretty aggressive about editing the girl's profiles. They take a few pounds off. No girl smokes or drinks. Smoking and drinking in this context has a loose meaning. They also do the photo shoot.
So far, the girls who actually write to me are and I respond are who they say they are. No Boris's in the bunch.
Maybe this one is a Boris. She pops up every few weeks and sends me a letter like this. Today, I was able to respond "my place or yours?". Did anyone else get this form letter?
Hello my dear!
I dreamed today that I am your girl and waiting for you at home after work and cook you dinner! And you know what would lo for
dinner? That's right - I !! I covered my body cream and strawberry sauce. Posted himself on the bed with satin sheets and spice
added a little rum to further drive you mad!
Want to try?
Watch out that all of this does end up as a soap opera.
I am not too surprised about the profile "editing". They try to play into the "family values" and "old fashioned" image.
No, I have not received that kind of form letter from anyone. Some have mentioned about being affectionate with me, but nothing racy or "kinky".
Most of the recent messages I have received have been about what they did for the New Year and Christmas holidays. Some went into detail about the food, family gatherings, and holiday traditions that they have in their country.
The letters from some of the scammers that I received have been racy. They progress to sending more racier photos until they say they need help to pay for their correspondence.
I think when you are in country and a girl "really wants to go dancing" but cannot because a family member is sick then what it really means is the girl cannot get away from her Ukrainian boyfriend for the evening.
Hello my dear!
I dreamed today that I am your girl and waiting for you at home after work and cook you dinner! And you know what would lo for
dinner? That's right - I !! I covered my body cream and strawberry sauce. Posted himself on the bed with satin sheets and spice
added a little rum to further drive you mad!
Want to try?
Ive received similar and have often been able to reply "how about tonight?"