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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > I'd like to know the truth Author Post shaggy47435 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 1:19:46 PM   After all you met and crossed oceans to make this happen I think that you could make time together as well. Again in takes time and effort but your focus will pay off. I know your point well as I have three children and spent 9 years looking for the way to get more time together. It is shameful but the Barney TV show theme gets me excited even though those days are gone...lol (yes just the sound as you learn to get everything in that 24 minutes of mind bending babysitter). Good luck I am sure you will find a way to better your relationship! QuietCharm Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 1:49:41 PM   'What is amoral to you or anyone else is nothing more than pleasure and harmless sexual entertainment to just as many others who have absolutely no obligation to subscribe to your or my set of self chosen moral values.' Agreed. But this post is about a lady who feels she has been betrayed, talks of her husband's guilt and clearly she has HER set of moral values. Whether she is wrong to hold them just because U.S. society has moved the bar is irrelevant. She feels what she feels. Women are emotional not logical and reasoning may not be the answer. I don't always hold that principles, codes, mores, etc.. are useful. It is people who have lost confidence in their own decision making or who refuse to take responsibility for their own actions that tend to trumpet principles. Every woman seeks romantic love and sex and marriage can be SO much better when that love is present. There may be nothing wrong with her husband sitting in front of a computer screen but she knows and I know that it could be much better... as good as it was when they first met. Maybe he just needs to sweep her up in his arms, hug her and tell her how much he loves her. End of problem. GLTALLTOAD Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 2:18:20 PM   Martin, I inhale and exale comfortable with every breath I take knowing I will never be accused of hurting anyone's reputation. Everyone who's been scammed by any FSU woman is mostly responsible for their own loss. Period. You send money to someone you have never met in real life and you are asking for it. Ask and you shall recieve. Period. During this search process, I've learnt that among the gazillion cultural value differences between east and west (US), the mere act of sending money to strangers is sinonymous of slightly less than plain idiocy and worthy of disrespect and sustained fleecing...while in the west we call it an act of 'charitable compassion' Despite all the warnings available everywhere to western men, they keep doing.....and what's worse, they expect the eastern woman to RESPECT and appreciate them for it with western values perspectives. Does that make sense to anyone? This is a simple concept to understand... Is it the pig's fault for being a pig....or the one who feeds it and keeps it in such messy living conditions? toad GLTALLTOAD Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 2:19:55 PM   ooopppsss...damn, the paste memory is FUBAR in this damn machine Housewife Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 2:25:14 PM   QC your posts make me feel very confident – thank you very much. And I do wish my loved one “just swept me up in his arms, hugged me and told me how much he loves me” and would be nice if it’d be his desire, not my request. “Women are emotional not logical and reasoning may not be the answer.” – brilliant and SO true. Majority of us thinks with our hearts and sometimes it doesn’t reach our brains. As I noticed men think with their heads (unfortunately not always with the one on their shoulders) and it not always reaches their hearts. QuietCharm Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 2:42:57 PM   Housewife Don't you know that some men need to be hit over the head with a spade to realise...!! If you can't wait... A few tears should do the trick... ;-)) shaggy47435 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 2:53:12 PM   Just something I have learned. Every day we earn the love and respect of our soul mate. Don't believe that a piece of paper or a promise will last you the rest of your life. Share with each other how you feel as if it were your first and last. Take the time to be sure that the one you love knows and understands that each day you make that decision again to be with them, love them and honor them. Love is not magical and unless it is fed with the basics of many relationships, honesty, understanding, forgiveness, and communication it will dwindle and die. The day we decide that they will love us as we are and as they have in the past regardless of our actions is the day that the relationship is over. We earn that respect and love every day and every day they make the same decision to respect, love and cherish us as well. Regardless of the standards or norms it is our decision to continue or end a relationship. Sometimes we do it passivly and sometimes with trumpets and fanfare but in the end it is our own decision and it must be both ways. As nice as it would be to have them do as we would like if we have not communicated our expectations to them then we cannot expect them to act in such ways. Patience, faith, understanding and forgiveness and honesty. No way you can go wrong with any, least not in the long run. Housewife Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 3:47:31 PM   Very BRIGHT Shaggy. My husband and I have already realized that love is what has left from passion. I’d compare it to fire. We started with a huge campfire and now it is a very cozy family fireplace where sometimes we forget to put new logs. At the times it’s barely noticeable and sometimes it’s very jolly and alive. With arrival of our children the meanings and priorities have changed their shapes. We get stressed and tired and often forget to take care of our relationships. At this moment I feel it needs almost like a “sticker on a windshield to change the oil”. My man had a busy week and it gave me some time to think and come up with solutions. Hopefully we’ll find something that will fit us both. BIG WEEKEND. Honestly I can’t thank you enough, gentlemen. And I reserve rights to come back any time and ask for advice. QuietCharm Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 3:51:42 PM   shaggy Did you copy this from a 'lurv doctor' site. :-)) I am not here to 'earn' the love and respect of my soul mate. I am here to be who I am! I do not want to have to tell my wife every day, that I love her or sit down and discuss 'how was your day?' It ends up becoming just another ritual devalued through overuse. Some things don’t have to be said. They are IMPLICIT. Most of us are just trying to put food on the table. We are exhausted by the pressures of modern life and our emotional resources become depleted. People can be just too tired from running on the mouse wheel to feel romantic. Forcing them by telling them what they MUST or SHOULD do, doesn’t encourage love but creates resentment. Sometimes I don't want to ‘share’. I want to retreat to my ‘cave’ or go out and drive the car at 100 mph and then that is my problem dealt with. Nor will I buy into the BS from our extrovert society, driven by commercial interest… “Show her you care. Buy her a diamond/Syrupy Card/Box of Chocs”. Your stoic, introverted male shows his love in other ways. Words are not always necessary... and if you need to be told or shown constantly, then you should examine your needs. Just be yourself. QC QuietCharm Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 3:58:30 PM   Housewife Your husband is a lucky man. Would be interested to hear how you get on. Good luck with the oil change!! :-))) shaggy47435 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 4:18:43 PM   QC you are wrong about that. Left unsaid it becomes forgotten or twisted into our perception of how they feel. We have a tendancy to create how we think someone feels when they don't share it with us and usually it is far from the actual truth. You also misinterperate that I mean you tell them with words. It could be that look from across the room. It could be a hand on there shoulder when they need help or comfort. It could be in the way you remember that she does not like socks wadded up in the laundry or the way you greet someone after a long day. IF you love someone you make sacrifices in your personal life and behaviors to make sure they know they are special. Going out of your way for someone else does not change who you are and if it does it is for the better anyway. IF you do not feed a relationship it will die just as any other living thing. The perpetual motion machine has not yet been discovered and neither has the perpetual love. Love without sacrifice is empty and shallow. Simple truth is love is sacrifice and bending of our selves to incorporate another. Sorry this is from no book but my own from personal experiences good and bad. shaggy47435 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 4:27:02 PM   Thanks housewife. I am one of the ones that used to be in your shoes. Trying everything posible to save a once very fruitful, happy marriage. I lost in the end but not as much as her. I at least have my children and my sanity and the knowledge I did everything I could to save our marriage. But again in the end if you don't earn that respect it will leave you in the end. I never got it back and not because of anything I did wrong but what I failed to do enough! QuietCharm Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 5:52:13 PM   Ok shaggy You're probably right. Hope it all works for you next time! :-)) Housewife Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 6:04:26 PM   I’ll stop by And good weekend to everyone. Do svidaniya shaggy47435 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/17/2004 7:25:41 PM   Thanks QC! I know to much Dr. Phil...lol Housewife Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/19/2004 4:03:48 PM   Hello everyone We are back in business. I’m glad I have a SMART husband. He apologized again and after initial resentfulness accepted my plan of action. All I suggested is once a month time for two of us (a date to go out or just play cards). At first he said it wouldn’t make any difference for him – he knows that I love him and he loves me. But then he agreed that we don’t spend time together and it would do us good. I am sure that happier I’ll be – easier for everyone and myself. I think it is better to take medicine before you are pronounced dead. Well, gentlemen, my business here is over. I appreciate everybody’s input. Thank you all. My special thank you to QC – I was relieved to hear that IT is not OK for everyone and I’ve heard a lot of wise and kind things from him. I wish you all luck in your search for a special person. May you all be as wise and understanding as I found you here. Teach you ladies to communicate with you, as eastern women do not have experience at it (majority). And as said Shaggy: “Patience, faith, understanding and forgiveness and honesty. No way you can go wrong with any, least not in the long run”. QuietCharm Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/20/2004 2:49:23 PM   Nice 'meeting' you too Housewife. Don't be fooled. My moments of lucidity are few and far between!! ;-))) QC Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > I'd like to know the truth
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