I honestly don't know how you measure up in the "looks" department (YOUR #1 criteria).
And I have no idea how much money you have - though, since you have advocated spending $300 to $1,000 per night for accomodations in the past, its no doubt more than you deserve (trust fund baby maybe?). (Usually a "fool and his money are soon parted" so it won't last long anyway.)
What I DO know about you is the personality you have demostrated on this forum - and I have no doubt that has woman running AWAY from you IN DROVES no matter HOW you stack up in the other categories! You are so full of yourself and so wrong about EVERYTHING - and you don't even seem to have a clue!
I measure up pretty well in the looks department. I make around $200k+ yr.
So whats your point? You are a complete flake, your immature, you try to come off as a know it all. Yeah, you have some information for some of those reading this forum. Only thing is, you come off as someone who hasn't been successful in a majority of them. So if you call your information relevant for those who want to follow in your footsteps? Then they can fail as many times as you do.
Like I said, I think you best stick to your own problems rather than trying to take me on. I will definately keep putting a flake like you in your place.
Oh and I had successful meetings - lots of them - even in Ukraine. Just FYI - when I got conned into meeting a sociopathic young girl from Odessa - her own agency disowned her and set me up with the best other girls. To this day the other girl I met still asked about me.
I would be your worst nightmare if your girl was writing me... lol!
IMO, anyone that is happily married...right now...to a woman from the FSU, shouldn't be here. The last place you would want to be, while being married to a woman from the FSU, is spending time here. You've got the woman of your dreams, so spend time with her. If she ain't home, learn how to cook a new dish, take out the trash, pick up a book, cut the grass, etc. As I said before, I'm happily retired from this hobby. I visit this site now and then to read about people bickering back and forth as to who is the expert in this hobby. I didn't strike gold, but at least I was able to see different countries and get introduced to a new culture, in more ways than one. Best of luck to all of you are still laboring through this. I'm more concerned and happy right now being financially secure with no credit card debt. I'm not taking sides, but everyone seems to blast Apal because he enjoys telling his side of the story. Nobody here is better than anyone else. We all see things a different way.
Well said David. What are married men ( happily married to FSU woman) doing in this forum.
Surely the opinions and comments would offend the lady!
This is about the quest and search for the foreing girl ( particularly FSU women ), experiences and advice both positive and negative.
Some men here are looking at it through rose colored glasses! Everything has its good and bad points and everyone has a right to voice there opinions without being belittled or abused, even insulted!
If you are happily married to a fsu girl, then being here is irrelevant as your search is over and you are happy, so why are you here?
I have made no comment about FSU women here this post!
I agree with David, married guys to the FSU women, go mow the lawn or something, don't be here givng advice and pretending you's are know all, the masters of nothing, denigrating others here!
Be happy with your FSU girl and that your search is over and don't come here and stand on your pedestals acting like the high almighty, knowing it all!
Unfortunately, I can't relate any experiences to meeting real life FSU women in person because all I have meet, despite looking so true and honest on the surface in e-mail, been proven reported internet scammers in the end, which is sad, because its tainted my opinions.
Only one girl in 3 years of searching on the internet has been a real Ukraine girl but we did not proceed to the meeting..she did not really want to move to Australia because of huge distance and the limited likelihood she could go back to her country regularly to see family and friends.
I have been in paid agency sites as well as free sites and been around a lot on the internet and been in other forums too, over the years.
I can only personally comment on my internet experiences...it would have been a nice thing if I had meet a real girl on gone on a visit, but you don't fly over there and meet a girl when you know she is a reported scammer..nobody would, if they had ounce of common sense!
If a FSU girl you are writing to, you find latter to be a reported scammer, you can not afford to give them the benefit of the doubt and choose not to believe the report..too much is at stake here!
I have not made a comment tarring all FSU girls here!
David, at 5:00am when I do the majority of my writing the woman of my dreams is doing exactly that, dreaming. I still love your spiteful word hobby. I took this as serious as I have taken anything in my life.
Maybe if some of you guys would have taken the advice of others you wouldn't be sitting at home content with being financially secure and no credit card debt. If you're borrowing money to make this trip, maybe you should rethink making this trip.
Then again, we are usually smarter than others, and the one's that have succeeded just got lucky.
lol at Apal. Successful meetings, in Ukraine really how difficult is that. Especially using agencys. Isn't that the point? Wow funny how a one eyed man is king in a blind country.
We can't verify your income (but I BET you over estimate).
But we CAN read the ridiculous immature rantings of an idiotic social misfit. That comes across plain as day. Its clear why you prefer girls who speak no english - its best that they never know what you are talking about.
What is a "successful meeting" anyway. The girl didn't walk out on you once she started hearing your rantings? I bet you've had the "unsuccessful meetings" a lot.
Sorry apal - but eventually even a nonenglish speaker will understand you and realize what an idiot you are. Best stick with your dog, heidi.
I'm becoming a little discouraged about starting a search because of the negativity here. Of course I agree that cautiousness is warranted however some posters would have you believe the boogy (wo)man lurks around every corner in the FSU.
What is the problem with married guys in this forum?????? Is it jealousy????...you don't like them??? Who cares!!!
They post here to give their own experiences on FSU girls and to get where everyone here hopes to be at!!!!
Look who has a problem with it....two guys that struck out of FSU girls, I'm sorry, I meant didn't have enough luck
with FSU girls. I am here to find out as much as I can from other guys experiences, I don't give a flying beep about their personal situation....The question is..Can they help ME? And of course, Can I help anyone else with my own experiences?.....that is the reason for this forum...at least that is how I view it.
Batman, just remember that the complainers will always be the loudest. You will always hear more horror stories than success stories. This forum in particular is a den of negativity, and it saddens me that the moderators don't come down harder on the flaming and insults. It's harder and harder to find good information on this forum because the signal to noise ratio has become so low.
So don't be discouraged. There are a lot more successes out there than the naysayers would have you believe. My own trip to Russia was such an amazing success that I'm still reeling from it. Even if the K-1 doesn't pan out, I had a great time with a great woman. And the secret to my success (so far) was simply that I did my homework and didn't listen to the naysayers.
Good luck to you! If you have any questions you can email me at ulmo [at] spambob.net.
My dad's folks came from Ukraine so I always wanted to visit--finding a gal would make it extra special. I'm going to go within the next 6 months--we'll see what happens.
Thank God for guys like Ulmo! Which I have known to exist for a long time. The guys that either seldom post or don't post at all.
This is a mans forum, and bantering is common, though most of the negativity is directed at the doom and gloom guys. If you read in their posts, you will pick up small things that they say will give you an idea why they "struck out" Beemer quit being so damned PC.
Ulmo I wouldn't worry about the K1 process, it's a rather easy process. The difficulty is mostly on her side getting the documents required. All your questions can be answered by many of us or I just refer guys to www.visajourney.com. Great site, great forum.
What has hurt this forum in the last couple of years is the great scammer hunters. Hell if you have a problem with a lady, tell it to admin. We don't need to know that a lady is a scammer, we know they exist, at least those of us who have common sense, also in that same vein just because one person qualifys her as a scammer doesn't necessarily make it so.
I would worry more about how marriage agencies, the name in itself is a scam, perpetrates to the fools that use them as being helpful in finding the woman of their lifes.
Good luck, great women are out there, also ones that will willingly separate you from your money and darts if you are so foolish to let it happen.
Guys, the witty banter has been fun to read and in most cases informative, but please allow me to bring the discussion back to my original question. Is the money spent on a tour worth it, or does Jetmba have the best idea?
Its easy to get to the Ukraine. Check out the most suitable route you want on the internet then book it with a travel agent. I suggest using a travel agent as even though they may cost a little more they usually can provide real help if you hit a travel snag which does happen. Choose where you want to visit, a couple of cities is usually advisable. Book a local apartment, do google searches on the places you are visiting. Also ask here as people can usually diresct you to good apartments.
Go on the basis of having a good time and seeing some sights. My advice is avoid marriage agencies as they are in the business of selling services not finding you love, although some are good at apartment rentals.
Look up popular introduction sites and contact girls through these. If they turn out to be agency adverts drop them. My strongest recommendation is to search znakomstva in cyrrilc and you will get a lot of free Russian dating sites with literally millions of women to chose from. You can use translation software to get the gist of them. Then start contacting girls from where you plan to visit. You will be amazed at the number and quality of women there who wil be repared to meet and as these dont target foreigners there are few scammers.
Learn cyrillic, it took me a weekend, pick up some vocabulary, it helps when you are there and impresses the ladies.
I suggest going there rather than writing lots of letters but each to his own.
Tony asked: " Is the money spent on a tour worth it, or does Jetmba have the best idea? "
So the two choices he's really asking about - are:
#1. "the tour" which presumably means plunking down $3,500 or so for the all-inclusive tour (which includes airfare, room, and Romance Socials)
or
#2. "Jetmba's idea" which (I'll remind readers since it buried in the text above) is to pay the roughly $800 for the Romance Tour specifically and then to book your airfare and hotel seperately.
Tony - if you've NEVER traveled a lot before, especially in the FSU - I suggest that you go with the whole package provided by the Romance Tour company. They meet you at the airpost, take you by bus where you meet your group (the other single guys) at the hotel, there is always a guide there to help you out of a bind and to help you contct the ladies (most places have a hospitality room - an office set up by the tour company right at the hotel with catalogs of women listed by the cooperating local agecies). You won't waste anytime making arrangement in a strange place. They do everything for you. And you share a certain comradarie with the other guys as you meet for breakfast and dsicuss your experiences.
If you HAVE traveled extensively ESPECIALLY in the FSU - then book the place yourself as well as the airline. One thing I have found that works very well is to use a Ukrainian booking service to get the best price on the hotel you have in mind. They often have special arrangements with a variety of hotels and get you a much better price than you can get yourself, ot through any western travel agent. (I've gone that route twice, in Dontestk and in Yalta and local travel agents are the best at getting a great price.)
But I still swear that Romnace Socials are the way to go.
My first was an all-inclusive arrangement. ANd I would do that again as it was the best way to get my feet wet in this sort of travel. By the time I went again - I had been to the FSU some six times and so I bought the Romance Socials themselves and put the rest of the tour together the way that I wanted it.