My ex had a child and although we got on great I would be very wary of doing the same again it adds alot of complexity to the relationship. My wife is a only child and has told me she would hope that I would accept the mother moving in with us some time in the future I told her I have no problem with this I think of family as very important as maybe this is something we have lost a little in the west. Also my wife suggested as both of us will be working her mother would look after the kid etc.
Thanks for your best wishs ben
Ben,
I hear what you say, but I did not start this at all, maybe I should give some more detail, it all started when the ex Monada’s partner did posted a fake site using my photos and (in Russian) my description saying that I was looking for girls, this was at rambler.ru site, than he and Monada’s parents went to police and told that I was a pim looking for girls here and than turn them in to prostitute in the west, also they went and lodging a complain that I was trading in human parts and try to sell the little girl and also went to the tax dep (police) and say that I did trade illegally, they try to stop me entering Ukraine, try to make me arrested at the airport (based on those accusations) also they fabricate evidence against Monada by showing she was an immoral mother and try to take her to court to take away the girl, so they start procedure in court, for father rights and the rest, also they been stalking Monadas residence every day when I was not here, threatening her with violence, rape and to kidnap the daughter (sms as evidence). So I have entered UA, by “acting” with her ex that I was separated from Monada and I was not supporting her anymore. I got here in Feb, married her first in secret than we did invite friends in church, than go back to AU and return here after 3 weeks changing my long term plans and come to live here, set some business while court goes and than move to in Italy (I do have properties there). In the mean time the police have cleared all that so now it is my turn, putting pressure to make the negotiation reasonable…… and this is just without all details….an Australian friend of mine living in Kharkov for 5 years has suggested to call 60 minutes, because our story is quite incredible when I can explain all the details better and believe me it is a very loooong story….( I have been inside the police station quite few times) .. so… Ben and Colin…what I suppose to do? Also I cannot even mention the money gone, this “adventure” is not for an average earner… is all worth? Hell yes… I would not replace my wife and her little girl for anything in the world….. by the way, a lot of people on this forum make very wrong assumptions ….but we don’t care… we know we are right.
PS ....For all ...keep your comments about grammar and spelling errors to your self....thank you
Quasi, it sound like you are both going through extreme pressure.
For what it's worth I wish you both best of luck.
I went through something similar though nowhere near as bad as yours sounds.
Don't do anything you might regret in the future. Let the enemy make mistakes.
true monada at least you made the effort thats all you can do.
Her mum has a great life working in the college teaching music it would be hard for her to leave
though but she really wants grandchildren so that could persuade her also shes a big dog fan I personally
have a doberman and a german sheperd so that might be another lever lol
sounds like a tough situation quas at least you got through it alot of people would have thrown the towel in! you two must have something, anyways I dont judge and your english is excellent every situation is different. For me everything is going smoothly in the Ukraine my ex at the moment has come out like a tiger now I have married! We were never married but have one child shes very bitter,,maybe she had hopes wed get back together or something but its tough.
I think some people forget English is not everyone’s first language. I'm in Milan at the moment and I'm thankful a lot of people here speak English as I know only 1 or 2 Italian words. I'm always impressed by someone who speaks and writes in another language well enough for people to understand.
Quasi….60 minutes? I think 60 minutes is not long enough for this. A good story to tell your mates back home when you get this sorted out. The only winners out of this are going to be lawyers.
Ben...problem is not whether english is first language or not, it is content of words spoken that is problem...it shows the person's true feelings...it relates to any bitterness they have.
Doesn't matter what language you speak.....the venom always shows.
I don't speak italian and when my friends speak fast I don't get what is said even though I know much spanish and from this forum, i now realize the problem is because it is 'western' spanish.
If your ex, or your parents need any money to hire lawyers to fight against you, please have then contact this forum. I'm sue that many of us would be willing to contribute to have them win their fight and have you lose everything.
Jetmba: to call you an idiot will be to offend people like nasfan6 and martin, and if you think about read all your posts and there is absolutely nothing but crap, no imput, no opinions just insults for others for no apparent reason, hiding beyond the computer, seriusly... send me your private address and see what I can do for you to meet Monada's "parents"... I am more than sure that you will get along with them (they have been in mental hospital, and ready to go again) and Monada's ex (he has been in prison) ...your type of people...... go on and join them.
Martin you right, in your intimate moments you end up with 6 in one hand.... ...5 normal firgers and a very small one in the middle...don't stress ..I'll explain to Monada