Truck driver in his cab driving along, hauling a rig full of chickens.
In his cab lives his African Grey parrot.
As he drives along he picks up a girl hitch hiker,
after a few miles he turns to the girl and says,
"So honey, do you f*ck for rides ?"
"No !!" she says
He stops the truck and tells her to "Get out and walk"
He drives off. A few miles later he picks up another one, after a few miles he puts the same suggestion to her,
Again he gets an adamant "No !!"
He stops again and tells her to get out.
After a few more miles the same again, and he gets the same response from this girl too.
So he drops her off and goes on his way.
About 5 miles on he gets pulled over by the police,
"Is there a problem officer ?"
"Get out the cab and come with me" says the policeman.
They walk to the back of the truck.
There is the parrot throwing chickens out the back of the rig !!,
"Do you f*ck for rides ?" asks the parrot of the next chicken,
"No !!"
"Then get out and walk !!"
Wrote to all the ladies for whom I had no address or phone number (8 ladies). 7 have responded with the addresses and phone numbers and an invitation to call right away.
So the list is no shorter. I still have a few tactics up my sleeve. I can arrange phone calls with a translator, but will also do some on the spur of the moment to "catch" them at home. Wouldn't want the agency to be able to "arrange" anything.
I have 3 I am going to eliminate, simply because I am not getting any feelings being communicated in the letters, just "weather" stuff.
Any other tricks?
Trick is a good thing to find out whether it is a lady or an agency who writes/sends letters to you. You can call unexpectedly and start discussing things (some particular) which you have already discussed in your correspondence and you will understand right away by the lady’s reaction if she knows/remembers you or not, if she gives the same answers to the same questions or not … On the other hand it is not very fair towards the lady to use all these tricks (what if she is really sincere and will understand that you don’t trust her).
So you must Feel while talking to her if she sounds sincere, if she is happy to hear you, if she anxious to continue your relationship or not. If her answers are abrupt and short, if she does not ask questions about you, well you may draw your conclusions…
As for weather stuff - everything is in your hands, you can always change the topic, asking "not related to weather" questions...
Most important of all, Is she really interested in You !!
Does she ask you questions? When you answer them does she ask you another ?
Does she answer your questions properly, either on the phone or in letters.
And the best trick to know if she is real and sincere or not, Go there, meet her, talk to her face to face :o)
Its the Only way you are Ever going to be even close to sure !!
If there are twelve and there is not one that has your attention. You are looking at the wrong twelve. I write to one I told I was writing to others and did not know if I would have time for her. She said she understood, to write when I could. There is one that has many letters, she is very beautiful and sweet. I told her I was honored that she would write to me. She wrote back asking me, not to stop our correspondence, that she was interested in me. I have a lady I can not stop thinking about, I told her this and she said, she thinks of me alot also. Would you be open and loving to a woman that is going to come to your country to meet you,wait for you while you get a visa, that can be very difficult to get, write each other, call each other and get married in three years?? These ladies really have hopes of this! Do you??
Sometimes the list narrows itself, right now I do not know how many I have and the 1 I thought was the most interested has dropped of the radar, Maybe she will reappear again soon and has good reasons for her slower than usual reply but I thought things would be getting easier as far as this thread goes but now I am not so sure
I still have that 5 year peiod to wait before I can apply for fiance visa. Thats up in Aug 2006. I am starting to look now though so I have a buffer zone to stop be doimg anything silly like jumping to early, although I do wish I did not have to wait
Oh sorry ID, I didnt know you had some law to abide by mate, thats really too bad, because you could just as easilly find the perfect lady, who wouldnt be willing to wait so long !!!
Is there anything to stop you larrying here there and then applying for a wife visa, just in case you do find the right one qiuicker than 3 years and dont want to risk losing her ?
That's what amount of time I discussed with the lady that I shares interest with. We discussed other time frames as well, but she was not wanting to have her hopes to high. She was referring to someone she knows and a gentleman in California. Plus I wish to make a wise decision. How long has it been know for you and Natash, TIM?
If she's willing to wait that long and you are also, whose to say your crazy? I am a member of another dating site also and have been rejected by two women there just because the earliest I can take off from work is end of Sept. Everyone tends to think they're more special than the next guy, but if this woman gets any attention from anyone sooner, I would have to say that you are history. After awhile the relationship will turn platonic.
Tim, I guess you mean "her there". I think it makes no differnence where you marry and to be truthful I am not bithered by it. I knew my x for 9 months before I aplied last time and that turned to shit.
Dale, i do not plan to wait a long time to meet her, just a long time to marry her. I have said to a couple of girls that after we meet, and if things seem O.K. that it will still be a while before I commit to marrage. I think I was a little to keen to be happy last time and instead of the rest of my life, I got a couple of years. If the girl I like likes me ( we should meet in August) then it will only be 2 years after that. 2 years is little time compared to the rest of your life, and if they want to go sooner with someone else, then one can only conclude that it is a plane ticket she desires more than to find her true love. And there are plenty more over there so I will just enjoy the fruit for a while at the very least.
Again tim
I have told you this before but you only get 2 shots in Austrlia so I am taking my time. Stuff it up this time and I have run out of chances @ 32
Something else, the first time I was in Russia, many girls were looking who also had a 2-3 year time period in mind. This was mainly due to schooling they wished to complete but were starting to look now. In fact, one girl I am in correspondence with still has a little over a year to finish her schooling. So there are like minded females around on this subject also. I think that they should finish there school whether it is usefull to them in there new life or not.
idiotdetector I agree with you on the fact that many girls wish to wait before getting married, I know it was a long time ago, my parents are marrief for 25 years now, but when they met after 6 months they knew that they will get married, but 4 long years passed until they got married...so and now I know people who wait to see if their feelings strong enough to cope with anything...:)
Yes yes I know TimH that each case is different, but wanted to shw the example:))
By the way today I got an exellent news, my friend who went to the USA and who is married there...she gave birth to a child on the 8 of May, a boy:))) So I guess that soon all her friends here will gather and celebrate it:) At least we 2, me and nother friend will do it either this weekend or next one:))