Yeah I view casual sex just a more complicated version of masturbation. Teh whole point of it is to just get yourself off. Has nothing to do with the other person.
We're talking about different value systems altogether. It sounds like Bagira was seriously hurt by someone dear to her.
Some people put their hearts and souls into a relationship - I mean they really do and when it ends it hurts bad. Really bad.
Russian women have emotions that run deep.
She makes a good point though. If the sex is just meant to be casual - then be upfront about it. But when someone starts to use another only for sex and nothing else... you can leave a lot of carnage in your path. No matter what side of the ocean you tend to reside.
jet,
Sex is never casual, it's always intimate, unique and a private experience both partners deserve to enjoy equally regardless of the roles they choose to play when they do it.
Men NEVER know if having sex with any woman will lead to a long term commitment or not. But if the sex is good, it has a better chance of making it.
Women ALWAYS know ahead of time what they want, whether they have sex with you or not. And they are rarely upfront about those plans.
Let's not fool ourselves about these things.
"Dear, I can only fall in love with a woman who enjoys sex as much as I do. I cannot guarantee that spending the night in my bed will give you everything you've ever dreamt of....But be certain that if you do not, you and I will be little more than a fleeting memory in our life paths..."
I listened to some elderly ladies being interviewed recently. When asked why they had married their husbands, one of them started laughing happily. 'For the sex, dear boy. He was a great lover!'
Some live their lives believing that the intensity of sexual ecstasy is the greatest physical experience possible, leading to higher states of consciousness (Or God) and others think it is just emptying their sac.
Much prefer to treat it with a little reverence myself and I certainly would want to know that I was sexually compatible with my partner before committing to them for life.
I have tried the celibacy route in order to be spiritually pure and couldn't stay the distance. Repression of sexuality is the fastest way to the funny farm I know. Catholic clinics are full of priests with phsychological problems who just need to get laid.
Treat it and your partner with respect and you can't go far wrong.