It cracks me up when someone asks me about what will happen in 15, 20, 25 years when there is big age difference between guy and girl. Trouble is, since when are we guaranteed to be around that long....live life more in the short term I say...have that great short term life and worry about later when and if it comes. Find the girl that matches you best and vice versa and go from there...happiness can be utter bliss.
Of course I am only talking about relationships, fiscally, do the opposite!!!!!!!!!
beemer,
You're not one of those guys that spends their entire pay cheque/check as soon as they receive it are you by any chance?
By your philosophy why bother to spread your pay cheque/check out to see you thru until next pay day, since when are we guaranteed to be around that long?
There is only one guarantee in life and that is that we are going to die!
Martin...if you read my WHOLE post( last line), you will see that fiscally(ie. money) should be a long term plan. Relationships are what I think is different.
Actually, there are 2 guarantees in life...the other is a posts by you correcting spelling!!
beemer,
One guarantee in life else I'd be correcting the last line of your most recent post :)
I consider relationships, well marriage anyway, to be far more important for the long term than money, call me old fashioned but I love my wife by far more than I love money.
I usually look for someone in early 40's as I am 49. But I have found many ladies in their late 20's and early 30's who have a child who seem very
interested in a relationship. Anyone else find this to be true?
Ladies in their 20's and early 30's who have a child are interested in a relationship. But I'd be surprised if she would look at it as anything other than on the short term.
Who's to know whether a relationship will last a long time or short time? It doesn't matter the age as much as it does the individuals. Anything dealing with emotions and feelings can change in a short time frame. Here are some statistics for you'all so worried about being the 'right' age between men and women............
Median age at first marriage: Males: 26.9
Females: 25.3
Median age at first divorce: Males: 30.5
Females: 29
Median age at second marriage: Males: 34
Females: 32
Median age at second divorce: Males: 39.3
Females: 37
Median duration of first marriages that end in divorce: Males: 7.8 years
Females: 7.9 years
Median duration of second marriages that end in divorce: Males: 7.3 years
Females: 6.8 years
Median number of years people wait to remarry after their first divorce: Males: 3.3 years
Females: 3.1 years
Percentage of married people who reach their 5th, 10th, and 15th anniversaries: 5th: 82%
10th: 65%, 15th: 52%( barely half last 15 years).
So all you guys worried about finding girl your own age......doesn't seem to last either. Short term seems to be normal for many.........
Hello MaryLou,
It looks like it's been just me and you...
I am planning to move to Ukraine, as I have far too many "prospects to be able to decide without personal meetings...and I don't mean for sex.
Most of them are from 23 to 25, with some as young as 19 and some at 30...
I am 59. Been married once, when I was 17 until I was 31. We "outgrew" each other, different directions.
Decided on Ukraine, for several reasons which have only been reinforced by others since the past year. Yes, they are exceptional ladies each, not just physically, but the of course within as well. I do write letters designed to evoke extensive expressions of depth in character and morals. More fall off than remain.
I am not a dumb jock, nor an dirty old fart. It is only natural for an older established man to "bless" a younger woman with what she most desires in life. That is, to be fully loved and appreciated for who she is as a woman, and when his time to "exit" this life, it is with her in the prime of her life ready, willing and able to live a financially independent life in her motherland, as a "gift" from her late husband. She doesn't have to be unfaithful or not devoted to him, as she knows that when God wills it, she will be free to move on to the next stage in a fully enjoyable life. Time flies when you are having fun, and it shouldn't seem to be a prison sentence for her.
Safety and security, and if fortunate, a couple of children that she doesn't have to work to support. She can spend all her time with them, or else shopping and simply being a happy woman.
Not only that, but I would also like to set up each lady that I had serious feelings towards, with a monthly income from a "small" business I set them up in. That way, they can continue their search, only have much more fun doing so. Be able to help others, and have the time and inclination to grow in spiritual understanding and maturity. Those are a small part of my plans.
By sharing much, I will have much more than when I got there, in spite of the initial amounts spent in doing what I propose. I guess one must have big visions, if they are to accomplish much. Shoot for the stars, for even if you fall short, it will still be much higher than if your just sat around not doing so.
Why worry about the future, live for today, I knew an 80 year old that ran the new york marathon faster than a man half his age, and to quote "its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"