I don't understand why you expect women to not talk to other men when trying to find a husband while you yourself talk to multiple women at the same time. A women would be a fool to not consider all of her options before making the most important decision of her life.
Most normal women Regardless of nationality, culture, and money will seek out at least some romance. They want to feel special and loved, especially Eastern European women. It is very difficult to make a women feel that way over the Internet without understanding her culture and language but it is definitely possible. There will be no more competition once she feels that way. It is however up to you to make her feel this way. Informing a girl about your plans to meet several more women, being extremely cautious, and approaching courtship like car-buying process will turn away any normal woman.
Just because he lives in Dubai doesn't mean he is necessarily a Muslim. He easily be Hindu, Christian, or even Sikh. Also, the marriage between a Christian and Jewish women and Muslim men is permitted in the Quran.
J-U,,, once again you’re not understanding it.
2009,,, I’m meeting 5 women for the first time,,, no conditions placed on them! Some asked me if I was writing to others,,, I didn’t lie to them. I might have asked the ones that asked me,,, seems fair don’t it?
2010,,, I’m meeting one new person,, but someone that I had wrote to for a very long time! No conditions placed on her. I wrote to one other person for a few months,,, and told her that I “might” be coming to Ukraine. She is the one that kept asking when I was coming to meet her,,, and the one that didn’t show up!
I found the number of a girl from the 2009 trip, and asked if she was still single and looking for marriage,,, she said: Yes. I asked her if she had dated others since we met the year before,,,, she said: No.
2011,,, I’m going to meet another new person,,,, and started to write to a few others for a short time, when relations with the first girl became strained. All of the girls were ONLY concerned with where I was staying! Hotel vs., apartment. I met with the main girl and things were only fair, so I had a short meeting with two of the other girls. No conditions were placed on any of them!
I left town a couple of days early to meet up with the girl from 2009 & 2010,,, I asked her if she had dated anyone during the last year,,, she said No! And no,,, I did not believe her,,, but I didn’t say anything.
2012,, I’m planning to see the main girl from the year before. Our correspondence was okay for a while,, we were both trying to learn more about each other for marriage. I asked her if she was writing to others,, she didn’t want to answer. I asked her again,,, saying it is important for me to know if she is serious about me or not?? How can two people be serious about marrying each other while writing to others?? The only answer I got was,,, I have no other correspondence as serious as ours’! Translation,,, she IS writing to others! She was either making money for the agency,,, or was having communication with other men for marriage. Our correspondence ended soon after.
A few weeks later,, I get happy birthday wishes from her,,, asking if we can restart our letters?? I missed her too, so I said yes! However,,, her letters were not the same,,, more pillow talk,,, making promises about our next meeting,,, including meeting parents and friends. I detected something was off from the beginning,,,, but flew over to see her anyway, and she never showed up. I truly believe it was the agency writing those letters during the last few months. But what pissed me off the most,,, is that the girl was never really available for marriage anyway!! She told a deal breaking lie in the very first minutes of our first meeting. Two years wasted! I didn’t ask enough personal questions!!!!
I also met with the ex from 2009 thru 2011,,,, but I was sick during most of that time,,, so it was only a brief meeting. I didn’t even bother to ask,,,, lies are a real turnoff for me!
How many of those women would you say felt a right vibe for you? I am not talking about a rational choice to marry in bad circumstances but romantic attraction? From this story sounds like none of them.
Are you looking for girls in their 20s without kids? If so, you will not be successful. No offense but you are too boring for them. They just get a kick out of messing with you kind of like some of the forum members. In Russian they call guys like you "Loh".
Don't use agency, learn Russian, make friends there, see if they can hook you up, if not join dating site, and Skype. And be realistic and focus on older women with children, they would want more serious guy and may even tolerate the personality of their grandfather.
J-U,, How the hell would you know if I’m boring or not,,, we haven’t met!! And your postings on the forum aren’t any more entertaining than mine!
How many of those girls felt a right vibe for me?? A couple of them,, and I felt the right vibe for one of them. What you aren’t realizing, is that “”” I “”” stopped the correspondence with most of them,,, and not the other way around.
J-U,,, I’m not going to be using any advice from you, so just save it. I’ve had the feeling for some time now that you are one of the old forum nutjobs with yet another new profile name.
Everything you write goes right where it belongs,,,, in the trash, virtually speaking !! And if you keep following me around with your trash,,,, you prove my case for me!!!!
Haha. Good. don't follow my advice. Save some desperate girl the misery of divorse In a foreign country and several years of her life wasted. I don't need to know you to figure out the type of person you are from the pathetic, self-pitying, long-winded crap you keep posting. How can someone travel for several years to a foreign country and have no clue about anything: language, culture, dating scene?
@Lonely:
“J-U wrote:"Don't use agency, learn Russian, make friends there, see if they can hook you up, if not join dating site, and Skype. And be realistic and focus on older women with children, they would want more serious guy and may even tolerate the personality of their grandfather." What`s wrong with that advice? Boring? Not! “
Nothing is wrong with that advice,,, I’ve been saying it myself for over two years!! I don’t need my own advice fed back to me. I’ve probably forgot more than you guys will ever know!!
“Haha. Good. don't follow my advice. Save some desperate girl the misery of divorse In a foreign country and several years of her life wasted”
I haven’t written to a new girl since before 2011, and I have no plans to return to anywhere in the FSU any time soon!! I won’t let them waste “MY” time!
“I don't need to know you to figure out the type of person you are from the pathetic, self-pitying, long-winded crap you keep posting”
You keep asking the same questions over and over again,,, constantly nitpicking on everything,,,, then complain about the length of the answer???
Are you F-ing brain dead???
Look at the people that are joining you with your harassment?? “Martin Smartshit” his very existence is a jab at a former member. He has never posted anything worthwhile on the forum.
Danny42,,, subhuman $hit!! Has absolutely nothing to do in his life than to annoy others on this forum. He has been removed several times by the moderators,,, but he keeps coming back. They just gave up?!!
Tells lies constantly,,,, now he denies that he posted a BJ video of his DEAD fiancée?! How do other people know about this video,,, because the DUNT told everyone!! He hopes other members will forget all of his BS!!
Because of the company you keep,,, and your total ignorance,,,, I believe you are one of the multiple posters,,, an old forum nut with another new name. Take my word for it,, things WON’T EVER improve!!
“How can someone travel for several years to a foreign country and have no clue about anything: language, culture, dating scene? “
I do speak a little Russian! I married a Russian woman!
I should learn the culture??? My wife and I had no culture issues!!
Let me guess, high school is not a good memory for you. If you still remember that is. How old are you again? I have never seen a grown man feeling so threatened by what some anonymous dudes post to him online. I almost feel like your mom is about to create an account to defend you.
Why you so concerned with my identity? Who I am doesn't matter. What matters is what I post. So far my advice to you was dead on and even you can't deny it. Lets think about it. You come here, crap on all FSU women, then people call you out, you say that you meant all agency girls and now we learn that you did everything wrong for several years, which you just acknowledged agreeing with my advice and you still don't have the balls to admit that you messed up. Not just messed up, you were practically swimming against the current in the ice cold Volga river arse naked for several years.
Send: 06.09.2011 10:59:38
Harvey/Ralph:
fuksing, whatever you think others' problems are should have no relevance to the fact that you continue to stab at them. do you have some profound inferiority complex? must you continue to drag this out until your last day? whatever it was that launched your career in forum fighting is beyond me. and don't try to explain it again, and again, and again...
it doesn't matter. do I hate my ex-wife? maybe. but I let it go. It consumed me for almost a year until I realized I was destroying myself over something I had no control over.
I became a better person when I just shrugged it off and felt pity for her.
Why can't you do the same to those who have crossed you with no ill effects other than they may have hurt your feelings? Think about it. Be a man and step down. If you do, you win. Simple as that.
Send: 06.09.2011 11:10:08
ok ralph point taken ....i will step down with all exept one ! and its not forum fighting with the one! its life
 danny42
Member
 send PM
block PM
 add to buddies
 Send: 06.09.2011 11:25:22
sorry ralph i had to google ... i have read all about profound inferiority complex no i dont have this .
i fit into a few of the symptoms but not enough things to say ...yes that is the problem .
Send: 18.09.2011 3:02:01
Petty street crime in Kyiv 4/12/2010
Danny;
ok ralph i was talking to my friend today ,, soviet history teacher and we had a conversation about america .. she says the public in russia dont like americans politics or government at all . but as fur as american people they are welcome and there people are hospitable to all forighners .. but they do find many american .... well its no point saying what she thinks its only one persons opinion .. i think like all countrys there are bad people and sometimes when on vacation people let there hair down and sometimes behave badly . i have seen how the americans behave in thailand i guess i base my opion on what i have seen ... i have not seen american tourist in russia so i guess i have no right to comment .. i have been mistaken for an american in russia and did not enjoy it .
ok i cant resist ... she said generaly russian people think americans are stupid people but the good news she doesnt think all people hate them but many do
Mini-Cooper’s rebuttal 7/12/2010
I spent several months (total time) in Russia when I was married to my Russian wife. I remember walking on the street and asking directions from Russian people passing by and they were delighted and interested to help an American. This happened many times in Veliky Novgorod an St. Petersburg. In all, I never met one Russian national that was not helpful. Also, all my wife’s friends and family accepted me with open arms and gave me gifts every time we met. I think that danny41's woman is one of the "few" that are jealous of Americans.
In fact it has been my experience in travelling the Hawaiian islands and meeting many Australians there that Aussies are loud belligerent drunk people that don't care about how their behavior affects or bothers others around them. My guess is that Aussies are masquerading as Americans in Russia and giving Americans a bad name.
My comment,,,, "LR’s" Mini was spot on!!!!!
Danny,,, just how long have you hated America????? The forum is your tool for spreading your hatred!!!
Oh shiet this changes everything! Forget my advice I can clearly see that you are one awesome guy who is just exposing the truth. Practically a knight in shining armor. I sincerely thank you for your service to humanity without you we all would be lost in the sea of lies. Too bad that last post was a little too long and completely irrelevant to anything at all in any of my posts. Otherwise I would have read it. Good luck with your endeavors thou. Digging dirt on anonymous Internet users is certainly worth your time way more than finding a wife.
“What do you mean a scam? They already met and she is real. Maybe she wants to make sure that the guy knows how to take care of her and is not some broke and greedy loser. If I was a girl I would expect a guy who is truly in love with me to court me like a princess and if not then fk him.”
J-U,, you posted this on another thread just a few days ago! Everyone here that knows anything about FSU dating,,, knows that is stupid, ignorant BS! They met,,, so she is real??? “Real” on this forum needs to mean a little more,,,, that she is sincere, and really searching for a husband. A meeting with the women proves nothing!
“You come here, crap on all FSU women”
Once again you sound like one of the forum nut jobs! Telling more lies!!
High school wasn’t a good memory for me?? More BS and lies!
My age is none of your business ,, but I’m in my forties!
I messed up??? Were you there or are you telling more lies and BS???
If,,,, “if“ I ever go back,, I might do a few things differently,,, but I DID NOT MESS UP on my trips!
“I sincerely thank you for your service to humanity without you we all would be lost in the sea of lies.”
Actually,,, that pretty well sums it up!! Guys come here claiming success because a girl smiled at them,,,, so she must be real!??
Then,,, guys think they discovered the wheel, simply because a girl spends the night?? She spent the night,,, she did the deed,,, she is 100% honest and genuine!!?? It’s really sad when they learn the truth a few months later.
“Digging dirt on anonymous Internet users is certainly worth your time way more than finding a wife.”
First thing,,, how many of us on here are anonymous?? I know a lot of names,,, and some know me. But just because someone acts friendly one day,, it doesn’t mean that they are!
And since you seem extra dense,, I’ll remind you one more time,,, I’m NOT searching in FSU anymore,,, I haven’t for some time! I LEARNED my lesson!!
Your questions, opinions, and advice are not needed, wanted or welcome!!!
Do you understand, or do I need to get some crayons and draw it out for you????
Wow don't get to exited there. Spear the keyboard it's only the Internet.
What I posted in another thread had nothing to do with your failures with FSU women which was the topic here but since you have a talent to bring up irrelevant crap I can respond. If you read my post again without any foam coming out of your mouth you will notice that: a) I was asking a questions, not claiming anything; b) I used a word "maybe". If you were a little smarter you would have problems accepting a one-sided story from a guy who has nothing to do with a relationship in the first place and may simply be jealous of his buddy. If he is disclosing her full name on a public forum behind his back - that is messed up and none of his business in the first place.
Most single women I've met almost everywhere are interested in serious relationship with a right guy. A key word in here is right. She is under no obligation to marry or even have any kind of a relationship with him if she at any point decides she is not interested. It makes no difference how much effort this guy put into it. Any man who is worth anything as a man understands that. Could she be interested in a husband that is going to be supporting her financially? Sure. Could she just be using him to have some fun at his expense and than dump him? Absolutely. Either way it is not a scam. She is not hiding anything and is pretty open about her materialistic needs. You think it's a scam because you think a girl should just want you for your outstanding personality and whatever other imaginary positive attributes but in real life many women, not only FSU, are practical and if they going to marry some older tool he better be able to provide.
"I would have done few things differently"??? That's the best you can do? Come on. You were being owned right into the anus without any lube for a few years. It wasn't a minor screw up. Your entire ordeal at FSU was a massive long-term disaster. Man up to it and stop whining. It's not girls fault that you had a "screw me" sign on your back. Btw I am pretty sure at least a third of the girls you've met were able to find someone to marry from another country. I highly doubt all of them were scammers.
“Wow don't get “to” “exited” there. “Spear” the keyboard it's only the Internet.”
Hey look everybody,,, we have another DUNT!!!!
No,,, I don’t think I’ll spear my keyboard!
J-U:
“What I posted in another thread had nothing to do with your failures with FSU women which was the topic here but since you have a talent to bring up irrelevant crap I can respond”
No,,, my failures are not the topic here! The OP wants to know if his girl is a scammer or not,,,, and if he should send money to his girl??
Your reply to his question was:
Send: 19.04.2013 1:49:34 Report to Moderator
“Don't be cheap send her 2 or 3k at least and buy her a ticket yourself. She can buy some nice crap for herself. “
A guy is asking for help and you answer with sarcastic BS??!! That shows everyone the kind of prick that you are!
“If you were a little smarter you would have problems accepting a one-sided story from a guy who has nothing to do with a relationship in the first place and may simply be jealous of his buddy”
Is that what you really think??? I see a buddy looking out for his friend!
“a one-sided story from a guy who has nothing to do with a relationship in the first place”
He seems to know a lot of details for someone who has nothing to do with it?????
“Could she just be using him to have some fun at his expense and than dump him? Absolutely. Either way it is not a scam.’
“IF” the girl has done this before and is using men to support herself,,,, then YES,, it IS a scam!!
“You were being owned right into the anus without any lube for a few years. It wasn't a minor screw up.”
Wow,,, another queer DUNT!!!
Believe it or not,, I’ve gotten along a lot better than most men going to the FSU!! I spent some money on one girl because I wanted to. Since the beginning of 2012,,, the FSU dating scam got 30USD from me,,, and that was with a 20USD tip!
“Btw I am pretty sure at least a third of the girls you've met were able to find someone to marry from another country. I highly doubt all of them were scammers.”
WRONG!!! None married a foreign man,,, and only one is married. I know she is married because of her photos on Vk. Some of the other women are still on the dating sites,, one is still on the escort site.
“I highly doubt all of them were scammers.”
I usually refer to them (my ex girls) as “chair fillers and time wasters”! Any girl that allows an agency to use her photos,,,, knowing it is dishonest,,, should be called a scammer. Why are you making excuses for them???
J-U you are batting zero here,,,, you really don’t belong on any forum.