Ex girlfriends who have over time become close friends with a man can jepardize his marriage if his new wife is uncomforable with them. THe man is forced to choose between his wife (and children) and old girlfriends. How many old boyfriends are you going to have hanging around you by the time you get married, Ptichka? Sooner or later your relationship with them will have to end. ..............So, in my view, when you end as lovers ..........you end!
My ex boyfriends??? I never dated with my friends, it's not in my rules. I don't have many ex boyfriends. And I don't keep in touch with them, though we may meet in the University or in the street and we keep rather normal when talking.
it should not be a problem at all, I keep in contact with many women. all my best friends are women,
...................................................................... .....Hey Trad, I hope your future wife handles them better than my ex wife did mine.
thanks man, maybe the trick is to get a wife that trusts you, I only live 30 meteres from the mother of my daughter, although if I get married, I think I would move for my wife's sake, however it is great as my daughter just decides on the spot, whose how she is going to eat or sleep in
can't say I am keen on old boyfrineds.lo...I meant that most of my friends are girls/women, there is no sex involved, so don't see why I should give them up
I cannot speak of how the social laberynths of FSU work, but in the US a woman who thinks she has male friends (unless they're gay) is living in denial or flat out lying.
Western women, specially attractive ones, do not have male friends...only males who want to get inside their panties and who keep hanging around waiting for an opportunity to do so.
She rationalizes it in a million different ways, but it's all a smoke screen....if the awareness of the situation is mutual, she uses these men to intentionally cause friction with her current boyfriend/husband if she does not get what she wants from him at any given time...
I have had to let go of friendships to former lovers who simply could not accept or respect the boundaries of my new relationship.
If the ex does not become a 'friend of the couple', letting him/her hang around is only going to cause trouble.
I will explain about the situation here:) I have a boyfriend. We have our common friends, and at the same time I have my own friends and he has his own friends. Among the friends there are girls and boys:) Actually I have 3-4 friends wo are girls, the rest are boys:) But the relations between us just friendship, and never went over this boundary. OK kiss on a cheek and friend's hug is OK:) Especially when you don't see your friend for a long time, but not more then that.
Actually as a girl, I'm very proud that boys call me a friend, it's not so easy for a girl to achieve this:)
Pitchka,
Have you ever asked your platonic male friends if they would like to have sex with you?
I have lost count of how many smoke screens I have cleared for western ex-wives/girlfriends when I asked them to ask that simple question to their so called 'platonic' male friends on the phone with me listening, lol...
"snakes in the grass"...That's all they are ,lol..:))
Never asked that question, and it never came into my mind...and how it oculd come, if they are my friends???? It's like to ask your brother if he wants to have sex with a sister....brr don't understand that.
firends are not family, Pitchka
Brothers are, though...
Like I said earlier, I only know how this things affect relationships in the west...
That simple question lets you know if your male friends are nothing more than men waiting for an opportunity to 'step in' should things go sour between you and your boyfriend
Friends are family....at least here. friends are family really!! They are included into the family. How can it be a different way??? I think that I just got so used to it that I don't imagine how can it be another way???:)
Yes Tim, kisses on a cheek is ok;) With close friends (either girls or boys) it can be a kiss on the lips, but just a short, not real kiss. Just touching each other with lips.