Let me explain my little trip into pain and diaster. My nightmare started 4 years in Moscow. Married what seemed like a decent woman with good intentions. Fianlly after parting with a fair amount of money got my "SO CALLED WIFE" into Australia, set her up in a new home, gave her a $50,000 car. Well things were going good...but she always complained how she wanted to live in a big city. After all i come from a country town, mind you its modern and has all facilities. Anyway i decided to send her on a hoilday...BIG F**King mistake... She actually left me took a lot of stuff that didn't even belong to her. While i filed for divorce and am going to make sure she does not recieve one cent from me. Well why should she, being in Australia the goverment here gives her $500 a week plus pays all doctor bills and gets rent assistance as well.... I am not communicating with somw women on this site. I know the mistakes i made with my first attempt..hopefully this time things will be better!!
TD has some excellent questions. I know your girl was from Moscow but do you think it was a good idea to bring her there and set her up in a new house and give her a $50,000 car? Guess we all need to keep in mind that girls from big cities may have great difficulty adjusting to life in small towns.
Thanks for sharing your story, and sorry for the outcome of your relationship.
Gee, maybe I should have sent my American ex-wife on a holiday alone to a big city 10 years ago!
Idiotdectore:- She was from Moscow, would love to talk...
Tunderdome:- Shit does not happen. She went to Cairns and she was alone. She left apparently because she didn't like small country towns, but she did offer me a chance to go with her.... One big problem i own and operaate 3 orchards....age difference of 8 years...Not an Australian Citizen but an permanent resident...
Neonred: She was more than happy about the small town. I explained everything to her and she agreed. The car was for her to get around town, and get her child to school... She wasn't happy with the house i was living at the time and so got into a new one...
hate to break it to you but things like this seem to happen more often than you think, and if you search the web you probably find plenty. Big city girls apparently will adjust better in big cities, and keep in mind that Moscow is huge. Similar stories for small towns, and I remember to have read somewhere that adjusting from a small town to a city tends to be easier than the other way around.
Age diff is normal, a holiday alone I think also except when you're the classic workoholic. And if a PR is entitled to state-maintenance then she literally can be on her own, especially so if you're married without a pre-nup.
Keep in mind however that a couple never splits for a single reason, and U2 did after 4 years with a good beginning as you say. Probably most here would like to hear her side as well to see if the subject of this thread is warranted. Wish you good luck.
Don't even think of it!!!
A board like that is nothing more than a venting tool for men who want to demonize the women who rejected them.
It ALWAYS takes two people's choices to get married and both of their faults to get divorced.
Like TD, said, a well prepared pre-nup could have prevented some or most of the concerns Firstknight had or should have had before getting married. But even the best prenup will not give you guarantees that the marriage will succeed long term.
FirstK, hats off to you for chalking this one to bad luck, mate...
The vast majority of the ladies you find in this website seems to be honest women, not scammers....Olga, the moderator with the hammer, seems to do a reasonable job keeping proven scammers away.
Good luck next time.....and do not send any money to any woman you have not met in person!!
To me this is an absolutely vital thread. This or something like it is what floats around in the back of my mind all the time. I think the prenup idea is extremely good but I can see how there would be an insult factor. Rough territory but not impossible to bring up.
TD is right there must be more to this story. 4 years is a long time, perhaps it was brewing from the beginning though. A child is mentioned. Did the kid come from Russia with her or was it FK little girl born in Australia?
Personally though I would not want to lay any blame on this at the feet of FK. It has been my experience that women are to put it mildly fickle. I only speak for myself. Their follow through is often very lacking. I have too many examples in my life to cite. That is why I am done with western women and am being very cautious about FSU women. At this point in my life I don't want to make yet another f...... mistake. Don't have time or resources. I hope this all works out FK.
It would be an absolute insult is you force-feed a pre-nup on anyone, lol....I can just imagine you saying something like: "Here, sign this quickly, you female canine.."
It's an agreement, mate...nothing more.
Many men have a terrible time talking about it to their women in many cases because they simply neglect to address the sticky issues that concern them BOTH.
"...OK, Elena, we have a long list of things we agree on, how do you feel about putting them in writing in the shape of an agreement that can help reminds us of all the good things with which we start our relationship?..."
Does anyone see anything wrong with that presentation?
If you think you can find a pretty FSU wife and be happily ever after just because she agrees to come live with you with no due diligence on your part, you're just out of your mind and living in a fantasy world.
Forget for a moment what a hard, crass and brutal ass I am to every fellow male here....I do treat my ladies with soft gloves when I discuss important things with them.
But I do discuss them, without failure...and you should too.
I don't disagree with anything you say. If you think for one moment that I would risk the little I have achieved in life over this you'd be terribly wrong. I am not sure exactly how I would handle it but I assure you handle it I would. Just leaving this up to chance is nuts.
Sometimes I overemphasize to the point of absurdity (and beyond.:)
Over the last 9 months more than a few forum newbies have asked me in private if I honestly truly practive in my own personal life the seemingly hard ass bullshit that I preach on the different topics that I've vomited my opinion.
And the answer is a categoric YES...regardless of the consequences.
The difference, as I've told everyone before, is that when it's time to practice it with the ladies, I present them with a huge dose of honey and patience.
I'm not trying to seduce any of the men here, lol...so you all get the raw version.
Just keep in mind that at this stage of my life, the only thing I've grown to deem worthy of taking seriously is my sense of humor.
Be well, laugh often..:)
Thats ok toad, I find straight stuff more to my taste. I am quite capable of it myself as you might have noticed from some of my posts. the only thing that pisses me off with this forum is the inability of some the folks here to read. I make a post that I think is straight forward and then it gets totally misinterpreted.
"I like Russian women"
"So you are having fish for dinner"
"I live in Florida"
"Why do you hate your mother?"
This keeps happening over and over. The other thing is 'search the posts'. This is assinine. If you plug in 'phone calls' it will pull up every single post since forever with the words 'phone call'. You then plough through and on page 10 find a brief reference to it that has absolutely nothing to do with the question, only another 200 strings to read. Pointless.
However I am not bitter. I just look like that in profile shots. Mostly it is just gas though.
LMAO, Izi....I hope it's not the same damn block you've been going around and around all these years, lol...
If you have a horror story, post it...get it off your chest.
but encouraging people to do so is detrimental to the overall purpose of the site and forum.
We're here to help each other make it happen, right?
In most cases, east/west match horror stories are partially or completely self inflicted.
"I sent her flowers and she never even said thank you, the bitch"
(You sent WHITE flowers, moron)
"I sent her the visa/ticket money and never heard from her again"
(You sent her MONEY, moron)
"She left me after she got her citizenship, now she has the house, half of all my money/future income and she started banging the pool boy"
(you married without a prenup, moron)
and on and on and on....
Misery loves company...Be well, laugh often and stay the hell away from those who preach misery