Yes my x took my $600 a month child support for my kids I have half the time and went to Bermuda while she filed for bankruptcy. I asked my lawyer how and she said that the child suport is not covered under bankrupcy and she can spend it how she likes. Nothing like a $3000 cruise for your childrens mother to provide them with a better upbringing.
I did finally get the court to waive the child suport based on my time with the children and my improved income figures with my new small business.....HA Ha to her. It would seem my taxible has gone down since I do my own deductions...lol. Guess next year she will need a new sugar daddy.
its a joke. And people wonder why girls in my country get pregnant so young. They can live on social socerity and colect money from some man who never meant for this to happen and over all, they do OK, meanwhile the man has nothing. No child, no money, and not much chance of starting again with the burden of suporting a mistake for the rest of his life
Dude you are talking about the minority of women. I know very few that actually do that. Those that do are what we call "white trash" or ghetto hoochies. Most women with half a brain are wanting more than that.
This is all so incredibly scary. I am glad Shaggy won in the end. My ex wife every now and then tells me that as the 1st wife she is entitled to something or the other I can't remember exactly what. This is regardless of me marrying again or any subsequent children. However, I don't think she would ever push it she isn't like that.
I have already decided that should anything like this happen to me I and my money will just dissapear. Completely feasable, done it before. Just drop off the radar completely.
I have no idea how to construct a pre nup or how to word it. I am also very worried about frightening away a potential lady because of it. It seems to say I am failing before I start. It is very confusing. Then the actual broaching of the subject. How the hell do you bring this up. Excuse me love, I want to marry you but I need you to agree to go with only what you walked in with should we fail. I openly say I am completely lost. Anyhow that won't even help in the case of child support, pre nups don't apply I believe.
It will eventually change.
When all (most) men go fishing, hunting, sailing, mountain-climbing, motor-bike riding, etc. and refuse to have anything to do with women who do not 'behave', society will change.
you also build your own house? Or maybe you only fix your car, operate your family, or sew your own clothes?
A prenup, same like any contract, it is compiled by someone who's trained for that, I suppose a lawyer. Be advised professionally, have it compiled, and then you might see that what is actually in there is hardly hostile, however that depends on what you instuct the guy to put in there.
You can even have this done without a name specified, an 'open' one, to familiarize yourself with the idea you clearly have some problems with.
Up to you if you'll ever use it ;-)
I like Hoenissen idea, lol...
For further inspiration watch Jack Nicholson's monologue scene at the church in his movie "Witches of Eastwick"
"...you're all intelligent God fearing folk in here. Maybe you can help shed some light on something for me. Do you think God made a mistake when he created WOMAN....or did he do it to us ON PURPOSE???? ....I really need to know..!!!! Because if he made a mistake, maybe, just maybe we might be able to do something about. Invent a vaccine...build up our inmune system...exercise...20 push ups a day and you'll never be afflicted by woman again!!..."
Whenever any of my Xs acted her western bitchy selfs, I always walked around the house reciting Jack's monologue verbatum as loud as I could without getting complains from the neighbors. It drove them up the wall...;)
Everyone has different situations in their own lives but your optional "disappearance act" sounds entirely too drastic and dramatic.
I strongly encourage you to spend some time researching the nature and practical application of prenups, even if it costs you a few bucks to consult with a shyster about them.
To prevent the potential friction the mere mention a prenup may create when opening the subject to a woman I care about, I always lead the conversation towards the issue in the beginning when she invariably asks:
"why or what makes you think you're better off with a russian/ukraine/belarusian/moldovan/martian wife?...."
This question is usually presented early in the communication between the FSU woman and the western man. When nobody has done any 'feeling investment' on each other yet.
It is the perfect opening to explain some of the aspects about life in the west that are no longer attractive to millions of men looking for wives all over the world, including your state laws regulating marriages, abusive practices by attorneys, unfair assignments of monies after divorce/separation by the courts, etc etc etc....
Since early this year I started talking to dozens of FSU women, but only 2 of them did not ask that particular question in one form or another. So I asked it for them, instead...."Helena, aren't you curious why a man like me is looking for a wive from eastern europe?..."
Yes, several women were very emphatic and knowledgable about prenups in general and did not hesitate to say:
"any man who wants to marry me with one of those better look elsewhere for a wife"...so I did.
The six lovelies I still talk to, including the ones I will soon visit were open minded and wanted to know more about it before taking a position on the topic.
We can be 'grateful' to the idiotic western men who travel the sex tours with blank prenups in hand asking FSU to sign them that casues some of the misconception perceived by eastern women about these documents.
In general when the topic is brought up, I explain this is one of many documents she will need to understand and get familiar with if she is serious about starting a new life in the west.
To name a few: health insurance, family trusts, life insurance, bank accounts, investments accounts, home owners insurance, mortgages, leasing contracts, club memberships, subscriptions, credit cards....and that doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of the massive amount of contracts involving what I do for a living for my clients and the companies that provide the products for them.
I don't plan to delegate managing all of these things to my new wife, but I need to know I'm married to someone who is willing to do the work to understand them in case of emergency or mere convenience.
"...If I'm 2 hours away from home visiting a client I want to know you're comfortable pulling their file to give me any particular piece of information I may need on the phone..."
for some reason, the more I explain these things to the ladies, the more interested in it they seem to be...:)
Thank you. I still am lost on this subject but will investigate it. Which kind of attorney is the best to talk to? Will any attorney do? I have someone already that I have replaced the lady from Mariupol with and it is starting to look really really good. I must say I don't know what I am doing right but I find these ladies very easy for me to get along with. I am very afraid to spoil this by the suggestion of a pre nup and also I don't really have too much in life. Not broke but I'm by no means wealthy. I'll probably be working until I am physically incapable or drop dead. That clues you in to the state of my worldly possesions. I'll call an attorney I know right now and run it by him.
oh boy...chasing a neurosurgeon??? (That explains a few things, lol..)
Make sure any attorney you consult has no less than TEN years of practice in your state in the field of Family Law and Estate Planning both....but don't let him sell you a Will.
I had a spinal spur in my cervical vertebrae. My spinal cord was restricted down to 7mm. Compression is considered to have begun at 13mm. One good case of whiplash would have paralyzed me from the neck down. Chris Reeves country. This SOB put me through surgery, placed a plate fusing my 3 vertabrae but failed to remove the spur. It was the whole point of the surgery. 3 months later I go to Italy to forget about my upcoming divorce. Long flight. I was in a lot of pain by the time I got to Rome. Spent 3 weeks in intense pain with no idea what was wrong with me. Got back to the states and the pain quickly increased. He gave me pain pills (eventually). Took more xrays and an MRI. Went back to his office and my insurance changed by one day. He refused to see me and I had to beg for more pain medication.
Lived on painkillers for 3 months until I played through the stupid medical insurance system and got to see another neurosurgeon. He ordered a catscan and immediately got to the bottom of the problem.
He couldn't get me into hospital fast enough. He removed the spur and got me safe. Now I have loss of feeling and strength in my right hand and some constant aching in my neck. Nothing I can't live with and the 2nd surgeon says there is a good chance that in time I will possibly get back to normal.
Hence the attempted law suit.
Unfortuantely the law is quirky in Florida and the attorney told me some horror stories. Ulitmately it was not wroth his while trying something that could have a very iffy judgment. So the bastard got away with it.
This is the only attorney I know.
Forgot to mention that on the 1st visit with 2nd neurosurgeon he prescribed steroids and got me out of pain immediately. The other bastard could have done the same thing but couldn't be bothered because there wasn't any money in it for him. I was defenseless. So much for doctors, so much for attorneys and so much for the almighty dollar. Partially this explains why I feel so weird about prenups. Money does not come first with me people do. However all avenues must be explored.
I just read a few web articles and I understand a wee bit better now. It is definitely going to be a make or break subject.
Luck isn't in it. He gets away with it because of the stupid laws in this country. If I hear one more idiot saying we should cap awards to doctors I'll puke. Likewise with the "best medical care in the world" nonsense as well. You could bleed to death in a waiting room while they have lunch and they will dodge it in the courts. Sue 'em then just to make sure sue 'em again. Then kick them where it hurts.
Welcome to the world of socialism in democracies and 5 generations of welfare receiptiants. As for legislation, it depends on the state, in Indiana it depends on the county, where I used to live it is pretty much a stacked deck in favor of the women.