Well, I would never let my 21 year old daughter travel to a strange country to met a man I've never met (that is if I had a 21 year old daughter), never mind if her age makes her an adult in the eyes of the law, so this story about her father putting his foot down could be true. But... NEVER send any money to someone you never met in person. I myself would meet my (maybe to be) Father and Mother in law before I drag their daughter away to an unknown fait.
Wessman, groon, and worldtraveller,
I don't know what you guys are talking about in your replies to my post? This forum has been dead for over 2 years. You are talking to Henska and not me. I have made some posts about other women I have meet over seas to warn people. There is something fishy going on with these forum web sites. I wouldn't be surprised if you guys where really in Russia as employees of some marriage agency using these forum to manipulate the business. I don't know that you are and I don't know that you are not.
I agree with much of what WorldTraveler says regarding Moldova - but i also feel that the originator of this post has a good point in claiming to watch out for "special" relationships between a woman and her mother.
I also know two Moldovan women - both EXTREMELY attached to their mothers. I have met both women in person and have spent a total of four weeks with one one them. I origianlly met her in Odessa Ukraine - after a few days she returned to Moldova and brought her mother back with her to meet me in Ukraine. While in Moldova recently this "mother" was with us almost all the time and complained bitterly when i asked for time alone with the daughter. It happens that the father is not presnt in this home having passed away when my lady was nine years old, and having no other brothers or sisters - the family consists of just my lady and her mother. Not much oncome between the two of them (neither has a job) and obviousl if i bring her to America I will have to bring "mommy" as well. Most of all i am amazed at how the mother tries to dominate everything her daughter does.
The other Moldovan I know wants her mother married off in the US as well as a condition if we were to get together. It may be comoparative poverty that makes the bonds so strong but the bonds and control that these mothers play in their daughters lives are different than anything I have otherwise experienced.
Just out of curiousity - WT - have you every been acquainted with a girl now 24 years old - from Orhei?
you are right - I was talking to Henska and not to you.
Also I can assure you, that I am not involved in any kind of marriage agencies. I discovered this site 2 months ago and my only intention is to support the gents here with information about Moldova and Eastern europe, īcos I am doing business there since couple of years.
You shouldnīt think too pessimistic :-))
Jet, honestly said: I donīt know. Seems, I was a little bit too busy in this field. I know 3 girls from Orhei, but didnīt had any relationship with them..(?). But as you know the ladies move quite fast from one place in Moldova to another. If you want you can send me a email and give the name of the lady. Of course I would answer with a clear information.
By the way: have you any news from ensata?
world2004 are you really so suspicious???:) And are you going along the street and think that "this may looks strange he must have done something bad"..:) Just kidding of course:) But if you don't trust people who are here and who have been here and did nothing wrong but just give imformation and share ideas....then who do you trust????:)
It was said here that "parents don't allow their children to grow up"...well I have to correct, life here is not that easy and parents want their children to stay children for a couple more yers (for example) and not to go into this hard life at once.
My parents didn't want me to start working at the early age, (I started when I was about 20 - they thought it was too early), but as they couldn't provide me with money I had to do that myself. Also my mother always told me "please don't wash the dishes, or do anything else, I can do that myself, and you will have your amount of work when you will get married or when you will live away from us"...you see doing things about the house is not that easy as well, as all the things (at least the majority of them) I need to do with my hands, and this is not too good for the skin on hands...
But I also think that it depends on a child as well, if he or she (usually boys are very independent), shows that he is a grown up with the his behaviour, with his ideas, responsibility and so on, then parents do trust their child more.
Somewhere in like 2002 I met Oksana in Poland and we hung out for a week. She was a nice girl. But a "girl." Her teeth and gums were in horrible condition! I was nice, and we had a nice time. I went back to the USA. I wrote her that the $10k or more that it would cost to fix her smile and her teeth were a big problem for me. And we broke things off. I think in retrospect that she is or was a puppet of some mafia guys shaking every one down they could. She was sincere with some guys, but overall was a puppet.
I totally agree no matter what girl you are interested IN, IF SHE DOESN'T INVOLVE HER PARENTS TO INTRODUCE THEM TO YOU, YOU ARE DEALING WITH F****** SCAMMER FOR SURE!!!!
WARNING:PUSH HER TO INTRODUCE TO HER PARENTS & FIND OUT HER REACTION. ANOTHER SUGGESTION i THOUGHT WAS BEFORE YOU MAKE YOUR TRIP, ASK TO HAVE A WORD WITH HER FATHER? LETS SEE WHAT SHE SAYS ABOUT PARENTS, IS TRUE OR JUST MAKING UP BULLSHIT IN LETTERS?
I am already talking to one girl & lets see what she says after I ask her to speak to her Dad???
It is easy to get picked off by a scammer, i had a girl who said her father is dead and her mother wanted to see me on my visit and was very excited. You get it into your head that if the girl wants you to meet her parents then she is serious and trustworthy. On my visit it turns out that her mother was sick and i can not see her but hey it wont stop us going to the shops. I met her sister or someone that she said was her sister. I wouldn't put it past a well oiled scammer to get friends to pretend to be family members. Problem is if you are there and all plans go out the window when you are there you can do nothing about it. I just milked the rest of the week and treated it like a holiday and if i got lucky then good luck to me.
I have spoken to her mother, albeit clumsily & brief. Her (my lady) father passed away not too many years ago & they all (mother, lady, young son) all live in mothers pensioner flat. I have pictures of mother & have traded a few words. She is a stern (chiseled out of stone actually) but also a kind woman. Rather conflicted about this whole foreign man on internet venture her daughter has set out on. Of course she wants her daughter happy, but on the other hand the whole notion that some foreign prince charming is going to write letters from across the world then come whisk her daughter & grandson away to happiness seems a fools game to her. Can't say I blame her.
Personally I feel that if you have any chance of long term happiness w/ the lady you must win at least some respect from, approval of & hopefully some affection from mother. The cultural bonds between mother & daughter are that strong. And if all works well, I intend to use calling cards, email if mom can learn...some line of communication. If you want to keep a lady happy, she needs the security of mothers ear when times are difficult. And it deepens the sense of just moving to something different, not losing all that was before.
Just my thoughts.