wtrav02 - Thanks for the constructive criticism. I post my questions to Olga here with the idea that someone else may benefit from the answer. I would assume others do this for the same reason. Isn't that part of what a public forum is about? With respect to my comment to Olga about her English, I simply meant it as a compliment. I think she does a great job here and was impressed by her written English skills, that's all. As for the harassment from other members, I find it's best just to ignore it, and the author as well. I'm sure if it gets too bad Olga will take care of it, as she has done before.
I think Olga addressed this before. As I remember. Why is it so hard to find a topic and stick with it and keep personal comments to your self. Why is it so hard to address the forum for answers and let Olga chime in as she see's fit. I mean it seemed to work till now. Address the forum with your topic and question and allow the forum community to respond. Hence Forum! Novel idea is it not? Olga will chime in and do her job of keeping it on the right track. Hence Moderator! The forum is a community to help eachother. Maybe if you could follow these simple guidlines you would not get harassed. As wtrav02 stated: Customer Service has its place, Personal comments has its place, and the Forum has its place. If you need to direct a personal or customer service related question directly to a manager then marriage@dating-ru.com . If you want to address the forum community with advice or a question then your in the right place. I am sorry if I have offended thee. However, it gets rather frustrating to have to explain this all the time. So please address the community and allow the community to respond. It a way to get fast response to questions with out having to wait for an email reply from a site manager. its a way to benefit from those who have been here for a bit and know the ropes. And Olga will Moderate as she has done for the past 3 years. When the community does not have an answer or she has additional information she will chime in as she always has done. To address questions directly to her is great, thats what emails and customer service is for. So lets get back on topic here. Good luck to all.
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accessible through a dial-in BBS (e.g. GEnie, CI$), a
mailing list, or a Usenet newsgroup (see network,
the). A forum functions much like a bulletin board; users
submit postings for all to read and discussion ensues.
In Contrast to real-time chat or point-to-point personal e-mail.
In Contrast to real-time chat or point-to-point personal e-mail.
In Contrast to real-time chat or point-to-point personal e-mail.
In Contrast to real-time chat or point-to-point personal e-mail.
Wow: A forum functions much like a bulletin board; users
submit postings for all to read and discussion ensues.
Guys,
Really.....everyone should be able to ask an honest question without being judged from on high. At the same time, if someone says they're sorry thats the end of it.....We are proposing to marry some beautiful woman from Russia and understand and cross cultures and exercise tolerance, care and give love and affection and we can't even write to a bulletin board without getting into a fight??? Back to the topic. I have not had a bad response rate from this site at all. Further, every woman who has written to me seems so nice and has her own story. I think it has to do with the way you decide which woman to write to....what they say about themselves and whether that appeals to you personally and whether you tell her how you feel about what she says. The problem I have is that you really don't know until you meet her and every line of positive correspondence ends up with "How and when can I meet you?" It is a long way to travel (30 hours by plane from here in Australia to some cities in the Ukraine) so what if you meet them and things don't work out??? Should you arrange to write to a number of women and wait until you meet them to see whether you really both get on? You have to be honest......So I guess if she does not reply in the first place......it may be the cheapest way to decide!!! Look on the positive side!!!
Stephen, very interesting comments! I agree every bit! With regard to 30-hour flight, I think you either make it a two week trip and make arrangements to meet with 3-4 girls or you make it a five day trip and you focus on one girl. I had the very same dilemma a few months ago and finally decided to make the first trip a short trip and if things worked out, i would follow with another longer trip. Depends on the person. In any event, it doesn't hurt to have handy a couple phone numbers of marriage agencies in the city you visit as back up ammunition. Usually local agencies can arrange meetings for you in a snapshot. Any girl you would like to invite from their catalogue would normally accept to meet you if you're in town.
Thank you for your advice wtrav02. I think you have outlined the most logical course of action. Of course, there is the other issue of whether you meet more than one and like them both and they like you, but, of course, you have to make a decision. I have told the women I am writing to seriously that I am planning a trip. They all want to meet me at the airport in Kiev or arrange my hotel etc. I can see your approach is the best one. I am very excited about the whole thing because they are so nice in their letters....anyway, we'll see what happens!!!
Stephen, I agree with wtrav02. It makes sense. I have never been in the situation of meeting more that one girl on a trip. I found my wife and we chatted for many, many months. Then I took the first trip to meet her. We confirmed our love and that was history. We are now married for many years. However, I would suggest using an agency to pick you up at the airport and setting up your hotel. Give your self a day for jet lag then call each woman from there. That way if the first one is the one you fall for you dont have to go calling the others. Then no hard feelings. Dont know if its the logical course but seems I would do it like that.. Then you don't have to make two trips. Good luck and let us know how it goes..
Thanks CodeRed....I agree with you it takes time and I certainly will take up your suggestion of getting over the jet lag before meeting people....after a 30 hour flight I will not look like Prince Charming (not that I really do anyway!!!) and certainly will not be thinking rationally. I also agree that its a long term commitment so it takes time to reach the point of making that commitment. I will certainly let you know how it goes...thanks.