I have never been asked how much I earn, whether I own my own house, never ever one question about money, I do tell them I have worked for the same company for 10 years(this is what I mean by financial security) a girl I have been writing sent me some pictures, she is very elegant well dressed and the picture was taken in a beautiful flat and was furnished extremely well by western standards, this concerned me a little, so I told her I was not wealthy, that I had an average standard of living and that she should take that into consideration as she may actually have a lower standard of living with me, here is her replyI read already that you are not rich in your questionnaire. But I am not rich too. When I have seen your letter and your photo I have thought that already saw you where that earlier. So sometimes it happens. You see the person and it seems that is already familiar with him. There can be we were are familiar with you in the previous life? I do not put to myself the purpose to find the rich husband abroad and to leave to live for other country. Because I think money it not the main thing in life. Here in Russia too there are rich men but I have not met here loved. I think that on the first place in family there should be not money but respect love, the general interests, children. It is certainly difficult to be happy if there is nothing to eat or there is no place to live but if to have standard to live it enough. I think if in family the woman sees what the man does for the family, Works a lot, he is not lazy, cares of the wife and children and it is not important that he is not rich. I want to write to you about the family, and that looking on a photo you for some reason have thought that I probably a daughter of the president. (on a photo we celebrate new year in an apartment of my parents.) At them a good standard apartment.)
This sums up my experience of Russian women, they want security, love and care and respect, no more.....of course there are exceptions
Well said trad,
and I think perhaps the greatest confusion arises when reading so many of the ladies profiles when they state financially secure,its quite often taken by men to mean that they are looking for untold riches when the truth of the matter is they only seek the qualities you mentioned.
Old info perhaps Trad but always worthwile.
Of course, Russian woman are materialistic. Every normal woman first think, then do. And every normal man first think, then do.
Boys ;) at your letters you trying to show very much, that you have this, and have that.. So funny to read. My opinion is that if you will talk some smaller about that you have, you will have smaller problems, and will not think , why your girl like you - because you are , as you are, or because you have this and that.
But I understand, that to boast always very pleasure ;)
Especially when girl like listen about it ;)
And when you come, don’t show, that you are king of America ;) simply look more and think more. And at place you will understand yourself, what and how.
Yes, at Russia people usually don’t go at restaurant to eat ;) girls cook at home ;)
Incidentally, you will can see, can you eat, what she cook, or not :)
And will look at her parents. Here people talk - what kind mother is, the same will be daughter.
You will see how they live in family.
At all, will look at girl - will you want to live with her or not.
And one more big mistake. Many of you think, that Russia and Uzbekistan is nearly the same. It is if you will tell, that China and America is the same. There people and here people - nothing more ;) if girl was grow at traditional family, it is very different from that , what you see every day. Even Russian people cannot live with them. Too big difference.
And, at all, wish you good luck.
Thanks for a different perspective Rina.......nice to hear from the "other" side,and laughed a lot thinking about just how many boasts you must have read.....:))
Yes thanks Rina, nice to get another perspective, I am English, I try not to boast and I try to play down whatever I have, so she will be a little surprised and not disappointed, reminds me, I must meet her mother.:)
Trad:
"she is very elegant well dressed and the picture was taken in a beautiful flat and was furnished extremely well by western standards, this concerned me a little"
Time to do that long left washing up and get the iron out of mothballs mate ;o))))
Financially secure to a Russian woman translates to "Must have a Job, and not be a low life Bum !!" Thats all they mean by it !!
And Trad, Here here mate, My Natasha is the same with me as your girl is with you, I hope it works out for you both mate :o)))
Don't pay any attention to CG, he is probably a cross dressing nonce who`s boyfriend dumped him and his adultfriendfinder account wouldn't work last night !! We get lots of saddo time wasters dropping in here, but fortunately they never stay very long :o))
Thank you for posting Rina, very interesting for the not so FSU wise among us.
I personally Do Not talk to my lady about what I have, it doesn't matter what I have, what matters is how we get along together and is her interest in me for me, as we have Never discussed money or material things in out letters, I believe we have a relationship based on spiritual things about each other and not financial. It was lovely that you came here and wrote for us, and please do so again any time you have the time :o))
AYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAY....!!!!!
I'm in trouble if Rina is right, lol....
I was born, raised and educated in Buenos Aires, Argentina, and now I live in southern California, land of the eternal sunshine, perfectly enhanced boobies and most prolific breeding grounds for the lowest form of human life.....(divorce lawyers)
My friends of the longest time (25 years) tell me I have not lost my Argentinian ways....they're a French/Russian couple currently living in London and Barcelona.
According to them, people from Argentina are Italians who speak Spanish, drive like Germans, think they are English and act like French...I think I'm F.U.B.A.R, lol.
Thanks buddy :o))
Wiil be there in 9 days time :o)))))))
Off to London 6am tomorrow to get my visa, and thats everything sorted ;o)) Taxi to H`Row is booked, and everything else is in place, Ive even packed already ;o))
Marsh, I know Russian women and I understand all you say. What you say is very true to some. I know more than one russian girl here and I have some insight, god, I was married to one but I am not judging all russian women by my last desarter. I judge them on the facts of all of them I have meet. I chose badly when I was there and there are more bad ones there. I am not talking about scammers, I am talking about bad tempraments. If it is possible, choose one from a good stable family. Mine was from a single mother and had about 4 differnt fathers, it had to have an affect on here. Because of the state of things in russia, some of these girls have lost respect for men although they still wish to be with one, they do not always return the treatment which they seek. Look into her backgroud, no father figure makes a big difference. Once again I will state, ther are good one out there, I think so or I would not be looking.
Damn mate, your X`s story reads similar to my disasterous Russian wife`s !!!
Single Mum, since my X was about 3 years old, real Dad vaished hasnt been seen since about the year 1993. Mother remarried (dont know when) but that failed too, Mum is an alcoholic, and had a very good man she was seeing when I was there last year (so thats at least 3 Dad`s my X has had !!) but the nice bloke thing has fallen apart too !!!
Strange also that many people I spoke to there after we split and while I was doing the divorce said to me "Now she repeats her mothers mistakes !!"
My current lady, Natasha, has a complete family, Mum and Dad still hapilly married and her Sister at home too, so Very stable :o))
My X had no brothers or sisters, just a waste of space cousin who has had a kid by a guy who isnt about either, and to top the lot off !! My X got herself pregnant by a 20 year old kid (she is 27 nearly 28) during the time we were Supossed to be trying to sort out our problems !!
now now now....let's not bash the poor old souls with the less than ideal family backgrounds.
SPECIALLY after our own failure to see the problems before it cost us time, money and energy spent on them...
GLTALLTOAD
You some don’t understand a problem. For first, if girl is Muslim and really believe in it - (even if she don’t believe, but her family do ) very different from that girls, which you see usually. First of all , she cannot marry at you , if you aren’t Muslim. And, I have few girl-friends, Muslims - that , what normal for us , is very strange for they. And that , what normal for they , often is strange for us.
If you will see any girl-forum , you will see, that more then 90 % girl, which marry on man - Asian, was divorce. And they remember their marry as terrible dream.
Simply absolutely another culture. And Spanish , Italian or French - we aren’t very different from they. As minimum, not so much.
So , you have all chance. ;)) but, if read about your harem…..:)