I understand that from time to time I will encounter people who will look down on my decision to marry an FSU woman as one of weakness or desperation and hers as economic prostitution, but at the age of 43 I have not yet reached the age where I start living my life to suit the opinions of others. That's just a different form of slavery and it is self-imposed.
My plan is to invite them over for tea. The men will see a woman that takes pride in keeping her house clean, her children disciplined and hard-working, and her husband supported in his efforts. He will also how better shape she keeps herself in than the typical Western woman. Jealousy will prevail.
The woman will see a man that shares his affections abundantly out of devotion instead of threat of lawsuit. She will see a man that longs for the moment he walks in the front door to be greeted by his wife, instead one that dreads the moment. Again, jealousy will prevail.
I agree, I think it is mostly jealousy actually. The only person I have till now heard any negative comments from is in fact my ex wife...
For some reason she call my new girl the Russian Wh*re.. She say it is all about money, not about love... My ex wants to make things good between us again, I am not at all interested. And I find her very jealous about this.. Could it be because my new girl is a gorgeous human being, and that my ex see her as competition? I think so... And I also think it is kind of frightening that she is a foreigner(It is something unknown..), and if that wasn't enough.. She is young as well.. Could it be that she will make me happy? Is it possible I was dead serious the day I said, Never a Norwegian girl again? I think this is questions she's asking herself every day.
Most men I have spoken to is thrilled, and would have done the same thing if they could..
My storyis an unusual one. My exwife and I were maried extremely young due to a pregnancy. That part is not the part that is especially unusual.
She was an avid church-goer who, to her credit, actually converted to my faith in the hope that we would attend church more regularly together. It didn't happen.
After our divorce she decided to attend seminary, where she became an ordained deacon, of my faith (Anglican). She met another seminarian who also became a deacon, and later a priest. They married and now are in charge of two churches and two congregations.
Given all of this information - the fact that she is a member of the clergy, married and happily pursuing a lifestyle that I could never have provided (I mean partners in the clergy) you would think that jealousy would not raise its ugly head. But it has.
My exwife's comments regarding my new fiance are much the same as yours, Nor.
Believe it or not, I was asked to be the vocalist at my ex-wife's ordination. (We remain friends.) In lieu of payment, which is tradtional, I (jokingly) akse that she perform my next wedding, now that she is "Reverand" and capable of doing so. She declined. How ingratious.
Ex-wives do not let you go even after divorce.
If they see you with a new partner and that you are happy they will do everything they can to sabotage it such as spreading rumours.
My ex-wife sabotaged my last relationship..she stopped my kids coming on contact visits because she did not like my girl friend ( we were engaged to be married ) as she was jealous of her and in the end I was forced to go to the family court and the court battle and all the other emotional crap and disturbnace it caused in me, destroyed that relationship.
You must be careful of ex-wives.
Norwegian, your ex-wife will try to make life hell for your Russian beauty..spread rumours and crap and do everything she can to de-stabilise and destroy your relationship.
Ex-wifes are the most jealous of women and they never let you go in there hearts..prepare your Russian beauty for a rough ride and warn her.
I am afraid you are right... She was the one being unfaithful in the first place, had a lover for a year... When that ends she want to come home.. No nerve at all.. Last time I had a girl, my ex kicked in the door on my car..
It has been peaceful for a while, so I hope it will continue...
May be what I want to say - is that it is possible not just to fell in love but really love person from another country. Even there are huge cultural difference. You can feel that someone would have become a really relative person to you. I was not lucky. May be I will overgrow the memory about it and will be able to smile again.
Jet- an incredible story with a twist! It seems only the clergy benefitted. Wonderful irony! I don`t mean to sound sarcastic,but it would make a heckuva miniseries. That it also may lead to your greater happiness makes it probably a divine blessing.
I dont think it is that they want to marry foreigners in particular. When I was in ukraine I noticed the men werent that bad but they did have it very good and they know it. The woman are basically in the american males position or having to hope to find a decent unmarried man or settle for being someones mistress.
Things I noticed.... If your arrogant your gonna meet some real winners.
If your reserved and polite this seems to make the women very curious about you... Assertive but in a polite way.
Yes your economic poosition is an added bonus but like I said if you are arrogant or use that as bargianing chip your odds of meeting someone sincere will probably lesson.
I think it is men that appreciate them that attracts them to us, We have it so bad that when we see what the women there are like we are blown away and for me even humbled. I cannot believe the quality of the women from there and the way they conduct themselves and how they have NOTHING but still use the little they have to make themselves presentable. Is it a wonder that they would like us for the appreciation factor? Isnt that why we like them not counting physical attributes?
So my theory would be that the reason we see FSU women wanting foriegn husbands is that fact that we truly appreciate them and show it.
While I was gone visiting Lena, my last ex-girlfriend called my daughter to find out where I was. She told her.
I came home this morning at 03:00 AM.
By 04:30 I was done noting all my phone messages, personal and business.
By 04:40 I was happily returning her phone call where she 'demanded' I call her the minute I got her message....:))
HER: "Who is this russian wench your daughter says you went to visit?"
ME: "She is a beautiful, educated, slender, multilingual, well traveled, family oriented...and 17 years younger jewel of a woman with whom I plan to start another family in the next year or so"
HER: "17 years younger??????....do you realize what a fool you'll look like with a woman 17 years younger than you. You'll be the joke of the town...hahahahahahaha"
ME: "....er....ahem....aahhh....I meant she is 17 years younger than YOU, dear. You're 45 next month, aren't you? See, she is actually 22 years younger than me and we have spent many hours over the last year discussing our age difference. In fact, during this visit to her home town, I had the opportunity to discuss this very topic with her 54 year old mother and her 21 year old brother....and everyone agrees age should not stand in the way of anyone's happinness.
- I must add this woman HATES waking up before 8 am....she even has her older sons take the youngest one to school in the morning-
Actually, Joe, my experience is the bulk of American's are NOT willing to explore the unknown. In this case, I mean leaving the country. Granted, some American's aren't willing to leave the county, much less their home city.
I agree with Joe on one point he made:
"You can bet that there's something else bothering an individual who can't say something nice"
On the other hand, venting in a resentful and vindictive manner is the actual spread of the misery that loves company so much and that we all try to avoid....even if we have to burn the witches!!