Hey Tim, interesting that you brought up the point about oral sex on the woman. Apparently, this phenomenon is not unique to only Russian women. From what I've heard, this is also quite common with Eastern european girls in general. If I'm not mistaken, I think this phenomenon also applies to asian girls, but not south american/brazilian girls (apparently those hot latinas love it just as much as western girls do!)
I'm just speculating here, but I think the reason Russian women are like this is because while they themselves enjoy the sex, it is probably seen more as a traditional wifely duty to satisfy their husband's physical needs. And in order to do so, their focus during sex is to maximize their husband's pleasure in a selfless manner and placing less importance on their own pleasure. They probably feel uncomfortable with the role reversal. Just a guess though.
BTW Tim, how did you manage to get your X-wife to be lubed enough for sex if she didn't let you go down on her, or vice versa? Oh, and please tell us more about your marriage (like how long it lasted, what problems you ran into, how she changed over time, why it didn't work out, stuff like that).
Amen to your theory SS, I think your guess could be close to the truth.
I have posted wayyy too much about my X in these pages mate, most of the info is here already, in one place or another, and to be honest Im really getting a bit fed up with repeating things, so nothin personal, but I will add bits to threads as they are obviously helpful, and answer most direct questions, but I dont want to just rant on for pages about it OK ? ;o)
Regards "lube her up" !! What an awful way to put it !!
I nevere found the need to do so, there was never a problem in that department.
In my experience Tim, my Russian ex openly stated that she liked to give oral sex, she liked to be prompted but always obliged, she had no problem with me returning the favour, in girls I just think that is a personal preference, I do not think it varies between east and west, some girls are just uncomfortable with it. I agree with your other comments Tim, I think for an fsu girl, she appears to think her husband has conjugal rights ( haven't spelt that correctly.:) and feels it is her duty to give her husband physical pleasure. I don't mean to give the impression that they do this under duress, they are raised this way and they see it as part of the interaction between man and woman, and don't hate doing it, they just accept that this is the way it is, and embrace it wholeheartedly
With your last remark in mind mate, Guys I suggest when you get your woman back to your contry that you keep her as far away from home grown women as you can !!!
It wont take the bitches long to turn your good wife into as moaning bag who wont come near you unless you hand over your wallet first !!!
It would be a shame to let this record breaking thread go into hibernation just yet. Though no doubt some one 2 years down the road will bring it back to life.
I am looking for feedback on a personal question. (I must confess that I did all kinds of internet searches first without success - checked such things as Moldavian/Romanian/CIS sexual morays - sex and culture searchs etc).
I am a man of the cloth (seriously). Not a puritan type, I appreciate the value and joys of sex. But, I would like to suggest to my Moldavian Lucy, when I visit, that we abstain from the big bang until we should marry. This must sound absurd to 99.9% of the members of this forum. However, I am looking forward to a good measure of intimacy when I get there should it all work out. Just don't wanna 'hide the salami' quite yet. (I have two gorgeous engaged virgin daughters and a teen virgin son.) It wouldn't do for the old man to be a hypocrite!
What I am concerned about is whether this would be a turn off to my gal. Would she see this as a lack of man hood or virility? In cultural and practical terms I wonder what see would think! She has suggested that I stay with her when I get there, and I would like to. Hey, I may not be able to hold out any way!
Your remarks do not sound absurd !!
Everyone is entitled to their views on this very important decision my freind.
As to how your lady will see your abstention, that is something only she can tell you. She may agree whole heartedly with you, in which case all will be fine, but you Must disscuss it with her to ensure that she is under to missaprehention that you dont fancy her !!
On the other hand, you might expolain it to her and she will try, and possibly succeed in talking you around :o)
Whatever happens, you just need to talk to Lucy openly and honestly about your views, and everything else will take a natural course from there :o))
He is probably lurking, waiting to be number 5000 to read it and 300 to post mate ;o))
Ive sat back long enougth.
1. Girls are girls the world over. Some good some bad, all your personal experieces were just that, personal which is how she personally was in bed. Oral sex or whatever, some like it,some do not. Mine did not and she also used sex as a weapon, what a bitch she was come to think of it.
2. Please please please, all you Americans get over yourselfs and your world statis, comparing yourselves to the roman empire and that, I thought we were talking about sex here. Unless you screwed you way to the top, whats your point.
3. I like sex and next time I get married so will she, if she don't, no marrage this time. All that partership stuff is realy importantto me, it really is, soul mate and all that, but sex is up there on my priority list. maybe its a personal preverence but I like sex, i like it a lot so the first question was fair to my mind, how sexually active are Russian woman in marrage?
I have appreciated many of the comments I have seen in this thread and I am in complete agreement with idiotdetector. My first marriage left me with a desire to make sure that the next one is enthusiastic for giving and receiving. The question I have is: If any of you broached the subject with your intended, how did you do it without offending them? Secondly, how would you do it without a translator or are the translators cool with this conversation?
I feel personally that its something you cannot and should not do through an interpretor, if you need to, use a dictionary, or take her in your arms and kiss her moving on to trying to go further, if she doesnt resist then who needs to know how to speak Russian to carry it through to the desired result ???
I think its up to each person to know and to "feel" that the time is right and go from there. No one can advise you when you should or shouldnt try to bed your intended !!!
A word of caution:
Rape in Uzbekistan can carry the death penalty !! Be sure that you do Not force any lady from the FSU into anything she makes it quite clear she doesnt want !!!
Im not sure about the rules in the other parts of the FSU, but be careful fella`s !!! You dont want to find yourself in a cell answering charges that you dont even understand !!
Hi Ensata, I think you are to be commended for your views, I would explain it to the girl though, whether or not your girl will allow you to sleep with her or not, they can get upset if they think you do not want to sleep with them, they think men are men(outdated idea in the west) and can wonder if you find them attractive if you don't try, so I would advise you to tell her the reasons early on
One thing to say, I have never had a sex conversation before the first time I had sex with any girl, it just happened and the same goes here. You will not really need spoken lanuage if you understand me. For all you first timers, the lanuage barrier is a difficult thing sometimes but other time it makes things a little easier. You will understand what I mean after you meat the girl of your dreams.