Yes but that only applies to the agency you are using. None of that happens to me. My agency clamped down on scammers approaching men in the first place and now I only get approches sporadically.
Well, since fiance is an aggregator, I am not sure how the relationship between the Agency and fiance plays out.
In the case of the Zhitomer bunch, the profiles look realistic. Unlike all of the "age does not matter" profiles.
This is an example of a profile where I think the agency initiated the contact - not the girl.
https://www.fiance.com/agency.asp?main=page&id=138125
I guess I'll write back this morning and see what happens here.
Young women constantly ask me to talk with them on chat. I tell them my web cam is broken. Why would a 25 year old woman want to talk with a man my age on the video? They must be getting paid by the site to do this. Some of them do email me, and I write back. No problem. But I have found one who is in her 40's and seems more appropriate in age. She writes regularly and seems sincere enough. But who knows? As for opinions that a woman in her 40's or so could not adapt to life in the West, why not? What is your proof? Could you adapt to life in her country? If you really wanted her?
"Forget those Zhitomir bunch.....lots of letters come from there along with Khmelnytskyi."
I think are right. That girl had the sweetest demeanor in her video interview.
So I asked if she really send the extremely flirtatious contact request and her reply was short but flirty. These girls are heart breakers for sure.
last year I went out with a girl from Nikolaev from this site. After a couple dates we decided we weren't
a good match but that doesnt mean she was a scammer. There are probably many legitimate and good girls on this site.
In defense of the ladies here, they get emails from guys also who are flakes. Less than 10% of the guys registered here
actually show up ever. They dont want 6 months of correspondence, they want a guy who will actually come and meet them.
Im sure the girls on this site dont trust the men anymore than the men trust them because you guys NEVER come. The girls feel scammed
by you! nothing but lies and empty promises made by the majority of men here. how often do you visit the women's forum here? They talk about
losers who make promises but dont deliver on them.
I have got trouble travelling more than once a year and I do get most of the girls asking me to come and visit them. Some insist on that happening even 2 weeks after we start talking and that is a no-no. The difference is I tell them from the beginning that I am not going to make empty promises about when I can come to visit them. Some just stop writing. It shows me immediately which are the selfish ones and/or potential professional daters.
Others keep asking me if I have a date when I can go to them and I will never give a date until I am sure. I have been talking to a couple of girls, for a few months now, and they are being nice still maintaining the contact, they ask me if I can come but do not get angry when I say I still do not know. I have told all of them: if another man can come to see them before me and they like him, there is nothing I can do about it.
But I agree, for most 6 months of correspondence is getting too much, especially when they have constantly read and write in English.
One of them has not been to the dating site now for several week and I feel a bit guilty about it. I do not know if it because she tells me she has 'chosen' me.
From some of the correspondence, I sense a hint of desperation in their current life (unemployed, unstable economy, getting old, etc.). In my previous relationship, I made a hasty decision even after corresponding for several years. I had to "pull the trigger" or "head into the sunset". I will not make the same mistake.
Greek? OK. Well, an unstable economy in that area.
""how often do you visit the women's forum here?"
Where is it?"
Found it, not very active. But none of the abuse against members of the forum I see here.
http://naydimuzha.com/forum/forum2.asp
"especially when they have constantly read and write in English. "
Why would you feel guilty about that? They are getting to practice their English which is a language presumably they will require if they move to an English speaking country.
I would say that the optimum length of correspondence with someone is 3 months. Then you should go and see them.
Back to chat. My young friend assures me there is no incentive to the girls to get men into chat. Since I am dating her mom, I think she is telling me the truth.
She said paid chat is a good way to know if a man was serious. It gives them a better opportunity to know the man. That kind of makes sense to me. I did not spend that time in chat with a my of the girls.
Plus there are the not serious girls who are just bored.
There are some profiles who want to go to video chat and bypass the regular text messages while some have gone on months without asking for video chat. Some may not find it convenient to do video chat (use of a smart phone or accessing a work computer).
As for sharing any profits, some companies may not be willing to share them. The cost of the phone conference call with a translator is even more expensive.