Tim, if women did everything suit us we wouldn't be launching rockets into outer space just to get away from them. do you think they suspect anyhting yet?
How often do you encounter western women who have a hard time finding men to appreciate what a wonderful "catch" she is?
"What's wrong with men that can't appreciate an independent, self sufficient woman like me??"
I get a morbid kick out of answering their statement/question by putting on the dumbest possibe expression on my face and saying:
"Well ", I don't know really...but I wonder why do you wanta man in the first place? Doesn't 'independent' mean something like "on your own", "without assistance from anyone else"....Do you want a man so you can stop being independent or are you trying to fing a man who wants to be dependent on you? I don't really understand your dilemma....sounds to me that you already have everything you want..."
I have something to share here that has been bending my brain for almost a year now, maybe someone will be able to shed some light on this, or maybe knows about some taboo or viewpoint which may have brought about this strange behaviour.
This an adult forum so I'm not going to muck around with trying to hide what I am talking about, so please you younger guys, keep your tittering to yourselves !!
OK, here in the UK we have a quip:
"How do you stop a woman giving you a blow job?"
"Marry her !!"
Now this is Not what I found with my Russian X wife !!
We slept together many times before we were married and never once did she even make any move to perform oral sex on me, (and to be honest i didn't ask, hint or try to have her do so as I believe its something that a person must choose to do themselves, or not if they wish) and when I tried to do so for her she refused me completely, and wouldn't have any of it. Her only remark was "after wedding". So I waited.
We got married, suddenly, wedding night, she was under the covers like a ferret down a rabbit hole !!! Came as almost a shock to me as I had not expected it (A VERY pleasant suprise of course !!!) what a wonderful wedding present !!! And she went a few times, in the months we were together after the wedding, to completion without any reserve whatsoever !!
After that night it was a regular occurrence with no need for me to ask or prompt or anything, she just did when she wanted to and all was rosy in the garden as they say.
But here is the brain bender !! Even after the wedding she still wouldn't let me repay the compliment (because I believe it is a great compliment when someone does this act just because they want to) I only managed to get her to agree to it once, but I knew she wasn't enjoying it or comfortable with it so I stopped and never tried again, she really did Not want me to do it for her.
Can anyone shed any light on a possible reason for this rather strange behaviour ?
Maybe as I say there is a taboo or other reason why they behave this way.
Maybe she's thinking "Can she kiss the man she loves after he kissed her 'recycling depot'?"
I've known many who are just too uptight about it to even attempt it. Just a personal choice/phobia/whatever else. Some people are finiky on the issue, even the women I have dated in the past.
..On the flip side, some friends of mine were talking about this a few years ago in the pub, now granted we're older, a litle wiser and not so 'proper' about sex anylonger, but I was astonished to hear their thoughts. Some were all gung ho about it (Again, unfortunate turn of prhase) including I, but some just flat out ostericised us about going down on a woman. Others still couldn't understand what the attraction to blow jobs were all about... virgins make me laugh sometimes...
Quote of the night was "Hey, I'm not putting my mouth anywhere near a pisser.. I kiss my mom with these lips."
"Others still couldn't understand what the attraction to blow jobs were all about... virgins make me laugh sometimes... "
LMAO !!!!
Valid points Tony, but it never stopped her kissing me after I Had been down on her, (that one time I mean) she didnt trun away or anything like that, so I dont think that was her issue.
Its just been baking my noodle for a long time, but obviously now I will never really know the reasons.
Of course it doesnt explain why she had no compunction about doing it to me, and swallowing the bloody lot a few times too without even turning a hair !!!
Women can indeed have very strange foibles !! (I dont care if its spelt wrong !! Ive never ever seen it written !!)
Thanks for taking it seriously everyone, its good to know that close to the bone issues can be voiced seriously and answered eqaully so, without silly remarks. Some things just couldnt be discussed unless the details were fairly graphic, and Im afraid this is one fo those times !!
"just been baking my noodle for a long time, but obviously now I will never really know the reasons"
Well tim, sex is just one of those topics y'know? And more to the point, don't worry about it, ultimately what does it matter now? Y'got a great girl your going to see in less than 2 weeks, frankly my noodle would be frayed, not baked... :)
Hows that for a silly comment? :)
BJ's are god's aspirin. Makes YOU feel good, keeps THEM quiet.