Her explanation was pure bullshit. She knows your reading her mail or at least has guessed, mail ru accounts for example warn you whenever access to your account is accessed from a different IP address.
Your definitely better off with this episode (and her) behind you.
Colin, loose the password and move on. It is actually illegal to do what you are doing. Be done with the whole episode. Seems like you are still hanging on. Carrying a grudge weighs you down. Get her off your shoulders and walk upright now. She has strengthened you. Use that strength to move forward. If you continue to carry her on your shoulders and in your head you are doing yourself and your next lady a disservice. Be free man! If after six months (even now) with a 'new' person she discovers you continue to hold this grudge, she will think that you are not mentally prepared to be with her. And she will be correct. Women around here call it baggage. Dump the baggage for God's sake!
I don't believe Colin is keeping tabs on her because he has a grudge. Of course, logically it is best to not do it and move on. But, you can see that he is looking into other women to restore his feeling of inadequacy. I guarantee you, he is not looking into these women for a long lasting relationship. Whether he knows it or not, he is out to do to them what this woman did to him.
In Colin's mind, she made a big mistake at a great expense to his ego. Is she suffering? Is she happy? If she is suffering then the best thing that could happen to Colin, in his mind is if she begged to come back and Colin spurn her. One thing that will fix Colin's curiosity is if she finds someone that she is happy with.
Colin's ego just took a beating. Some of us can take that and move on. Cold Turkey is not for Colin. Lighten up, Julian. He will soon tire of this.
nah dont have a grudge at all im glad she came I blamed myself b4 ,now I dont think what if I did this or didnt do that maybe shed have stayed, so now I am free from that,and this time I told her to go and she didnt want to go, but so far ive learned alot and she has said to the mother
she never wants to converse with me again good. And yes I will lose the password its not healthy for me
2 be obsessed with her either. Also bull I dont feel any inadequacy for myself Im actually happy with myself this is never something Ive suffered from. Women like me but as is usual the woman u love dosnt love u the same back, but I loved her very much, and as is usual with me I find it harder then to give up that bit inside me to someone else. I devolve back into my serial dater self lol
been on 4 dates last 2 weeks, one girl I will see again, but its not I feel desperate rather to keep myself busy and the woman I love from my mind. When she went home last year i dated a russian girl who quickly picked up I wasnt madly head over heels for her and when her attempts at making me jealous didnt work ,she said if I loved her I would be jealous no thats not me. Actually one funny story
I work with a really nice Sri Lankan lady she said she wants me for her niece, haha no chance no more long distance relationships for me my heart is not strong enough, I smiled and she said o Colin shes a virgin as well. haha
ye u are right in other things bull I would like to spurn her haha but hmm do I Want her to be happy I think so but I dont think she ever cann,her mother sent her that creditors are ringing and could she contact them because they want to go to court for non payments of her loan , she said if she reeneters ukraine she wont be able to leave it again because of debts.
i got this off her mother yesterday , i put her straight on what type of emails her daughter sent
and havnt heard a word since
Thank You very much for Your letter. At first I sent You a short letter. Excuse my not answering You at once. I was so surprised and disappointed with the news that I needed think it over and understand what had happened to you both (You and L). So I am going to describe everything in details. I was really very glad that Lionella herself decided to return to You. When leaving she said that she wanted to improve relations between you both in spite of the fact that you are divorced! I told her she had made a good decision as I have always been nice to You and I would be very happy if you both restored your relations. From the very first days she wrote good letters saying that the relations between you both had got better and she felt much better there than the previous time. L also wrote that felt your magnificent attention and support! In addition she said that she began get used to living with You. She even wrote a touching story about a wonderful kitten you had presented her with.
The only problem was that You could not find a job for her. Any job! If only she could begin to work and earn money herself (not to ask You for it) and get the work visa! She wrote she was ready to wait - if it only turned out! So then You could be on an equal footing and settle the question of your living together. Everything moved gradually to a happy settlement of the disagreement between you. She was ready to stay in Ireland! She was very grateful to You for your consent to her returning!
Everything was well and it didn’t look like a “storm”! Then I suddenly learned that a serious disagreement arose. The reason was that You got interested in her correspondence. I couldn’t believe! I know that You are a clever and civilized man and I thought You couldn’t interfere in her “personal space” i.e. her correspondence. I expressed my doubt but L said that it had happened. Then I got a letter from You. You wrote the same. You were shocked and got filled with indignation that she corresponded with somebody while living at Your’s. But it’s her right! Take into account the fact that you are divorced and she is not your wife officially. She has a lot of friends and there is nothing bad in her communication with them. You considered it as an insult, bought her a ticket and sent her back. Then You regretted and asked her to stay. But she left! Believe me, that news was awful for me! I could not believe that you had broken off your relations again! Unfortunately you had! It happened - let it be! Nothing can be recovered! I deeply regret about it. I don’t want to blame each of you separately - you both are guilty in it. Both You and L failed to be wise and tolerant to each other, so your union finally broke down. I take this close to my heart. I am very upset.
Dear C, I am nice to You as before. I wish You health, success and all the best!
Remember me to Your parents! I wish you all much happiness and good health!
this is the letter she sent after spending a great day together maybe I overeacted maybe not
but Im happy its over
I’m 26 years old, born in Lvov, live in Uzhgorod. It is a small city in the west of Ukraine. I’m divorced , I lived with my mum but now I am in Ireland with ex-husband. Now the economical situation in Ukraine is very bad, thats why I decided to came back to Ireland.
I have finished the school with the Hungarian language of studying. Then learned in musical college. Now I have two different university education (music and manager of international tourism).
I like to travel very much, learn all new. On trips I like to make a large quantity of photos.
I am quiet, sensitive, careful … very few people know all my qualities. I open to people not easily, only when I feel that I can trust the person completely. Someone will tell that I am a bit closed. But who knows me better –I can be a pleasant surprise.
I love pets and not only. I love warm weather, sunshine. I like strong coffee, pizza and black chocolate. And in general I try to enjoy every moment - our life is too short …
Generally I not so like to characterise myself - please, ask questions you interests.
May I ask some your pictures?
Have a nice day!
Seems the mother is genuinely upset at the demise of the relationship. I’m surprised at her defense of the indefensible…that her daughter was opening correspondence with new men. The daughter’s letter certainly suggests that she was not just communicating with old friends.
Not condoning your reading her private emails but when its comes down to it; her behavior sucks more.
One or two times you’ve said that you wish her well.
IMO as soon as you start saying to yourself “I couldn’t give a toss either way” you’ll be out of this web of deceit for good.