Hypocricy isn't my stock and trade. Though you can have your little tantrums with Martin, post under Fredericko and all the bull. Then think this is some theraputic forum for scammed victims. That's BS. There is enough information in this forum alone to keep one from getting scammed. But it's guys like you RB think they are smarter than the ones who came here before.
I have never posted under another name in this forum. Hypocrisy is exactly you, otherwise you would not start a bitch session here, and at the same time rant and rave against starting bitch sessions on other threads.
Many have said this thread is the best they've seen. You think it's BS? Tell us why.
Gee RB you're not real sharp are you. Who's ranting. I'm pointing out a faction of people just like you, don't like to be criticised, can't handle the heat and in fact decide who and who should not have a dispute here. I mean if it was such a big issue for you, why not comments about Ben and Jet?
See you wish I was ranting I'm just pointing out a fact. You are also one of the hardheads who lead new guys wrong with giving women money. Listen up, they were surviving before you got there, they will long after you have gone.
"there are guys here waiting to tell their story, but doesn't want to be ridiculed."
You responded with this:
Well Colin didn't say they refrained from posting for fear of being ridiculed.
That would mean that you don't think that there are people waiting to post here wanting to tell their story, but not because of fear of being ridiculed. I thought that you were looking for a reason to ridicule. Sorry, if I am wrong.
RB cite the many? Adman made a comment about the Tribals post not that it's a great thread.
I didn't need to comment on Colins situation, because it was easy to call from the beginning. e
You know Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
So be prepared to make many trips to see the special woman. Or it's just a fantasy. I wouldn't have much respect for a woman who I only spent two weeks with that wanted to get married and move to a far away land, I would have to think? What's up with this woman or what is wrong with her?
If that's Einstein definition of insanity, then he is insane. Did you ever flip a coin?
I am not going to justify my being with my woman to you. I have already told my story. When I need advice I will ask for it. I tell my experiences in order to benefit others, not to be flamed or ridiculed. I ask that others tell theirs for mine and others benefits. There are people like you in the way of that.
What is this need in you that makes you want to flame and ridicule? What is wrong with you?
Your level of the English language no longer ceases to amaze me, Colin made statement that there were individuals not prepared to post on the forum and you jumped upon this with your 'being ridiculed' statement.
Go back and read Comin's post ..... where did he say those individuals would not post here for fear of being ridiculed? Don't pick bones with my post, go and read Colin's post and then refrain, again, from trying to make something out of nothing.
still surpises me how unhappy she was to go home, she actually got into the whole looking after me,dinner ready when i came home cleaning lunchs for work,us going for a few beers ,site seeing .
I brought her to some kewl places, listening to her music on my new system,the ultra fast internet and the nice mini laptop she could use to skype and play on, she admitted she would miss me not because she loved me. On way into airport she smsed me she was in bits, I broke and said stay there ill come for u, no she said its too late,I rang she was crying etc
,could be me being a fag but she may have got into the online dating thing and it became a habit she didnt think it was a problem till i pointed it out to her. Then she couldnt apolgize enough,well shes gone now for good now ,still miss the bitch like hell though
To be honest, Colin, it sounds possible that she just wasn't ready for a serious, monogamous relationship. She'd have been the same with anyone. If true, this would simply be a cautionary tale for anyone wanting to bring a woman cross-culture the way you (and apparently others) have. You probably saved some other bloke from being her 'western guinea pig' - not that this would be much comfort to you.
Chalk it up to experience mate. The 'missing' will go away, the lessons will remain, and the next time will be better.
If you're ever in Liverpool, let me know and I'll get the first round in :)
I would say that you have difficulty in understanding, except that you refuse to understand, that some guys like to keep their private lives, exactly that, private.
They've been through a similar situation as Colin has found himself in, they've been keeping it to themselves, but when they read Colin's oh so similar scenario they have a quiet word with him on the subject, perhaps to offer condolences, to offer sympathy, or indeed to share advice and/or experience.
Comparible to two guys having a chat in a bar of a Saturday night, they are talking quietly regarding a sensitive situation and neither one of them is prepared to jump up on to a table to broadcast their personal life to all and sundry.
Now if you can't understand that then you are either thick or sheer bl00dy minded!
As one of your friends - in the spirit of friendship, I'm worried about the way you seem to be looking at colin's story. I suffer from some very romanticized ideas about relationships, and this has cost me more than I can explain. rb, if I'm reading your posts aright, you could be even more of a romantic fool than I am!
If so, for God's sake, do what you can to learn a more realistic perspective, or your heart is also destined for the meat grinder.
This young woman is probably no better or worse than a lot of other people. But she used colin like most of us would use a paper cup, or a condom! A thing of utility, but no value worth a moment's thought. Just maybe, she will look back and think, "gosh, that guy was pretty good to me" ... when she is in her 40s or 50s.
The kindest thing she could do for colin, would be to never contact him again.
Colin, You are hell of a man for sharing all you have. Many thanks to you from countless unnamed people who hopefully will get a flavor of the anguish you endured. Though many from the beginning have doubted and told you so, you continued to peruse something that was questionable. Yet you continued. And in the end you learned. And you were shameless in sharing the story openly with many.
My hat's off to you mate! I sincerely hope you take the time to think about your situation, who you are and what your future holds. Just going to Poland to ---- some Polish chicks seems to me that you lose some credibilty in your desire to have a lasting relationship. But you are hurting and think it is a way to blow off steam or whatever your motives may be. I'll give you that. Poland? Hell come to America. They'll love you. If only for a weekend or two.
I think what turned this whole thing ugly was my calling mini-cooper 'mini me'. It was just joking at the time. I found no use that the suggestion of getting oral sex before the send off was of value. And that another suggested going for the sex was of value either. And in not such an eloquent manner I said so. Then I was attacked. Ammusing as I found it I decided I was finished with this forum. After a few days - with some extra time on my hands - I decided to check back to see if the Indians were still attacking. I have no idea who mini-cooper is. I have no grudges or conflicts with anyone - I hope. I do not have a handle other than Julian35. And I have discovered that it is unfortunate that I have lowered myself to call someone 'mini me' instead of what they call themself. But it was not meant to be demeaning or as an attack of the person. It was just a joke. Do you refer to yourself as mini-cooper in general life? Cut me a break already! The fact that oral sex or getting a last 'bonk' in seemed totally out of character for Colin in this matter was the point I was trying to make. When I said end of thread, I meant for me! Because I offered a long time back that it was purely a waste of time. Because, I AM experienced in the world or women. And also recall that almost to a man, all others have told Colin to dump this chick a long time ago. Yet when he decided to give it a go, you all (almost all) became his cheerleaders. Anyone care to dispute this fact? ??????????????????????