Sorry Tom Shea....didn't quite understand much of what you wrote, guess it's that cell phone.
I'd like to address when people here speak of failures and successes. There is no such thing IMHO. Finding what you want can take much time or maybe you'll never find what you want....that is NOT failure. It could be nit picky, could be too high expectations, could even be destiny, who knows. What I do know is the many crash and burning, those who HAD 'success', as they called it. Yea, for a year or two or maybe even to 5 years or rarely ten years but many marriages ended. Of those still married they are closer in age( that I know of)<7 years. The risk is much higher with large age difference, can it happen, yes, but for how long?? For you Tom...enjoy the present.
Happiness is more important than success,,,, but too many people become happy after simply finding someone. I found a lot of someones,,,, it means nothing!! When guys come to the forum claiming they met someone a few weeks ago, and she hasnít asked for money yet,,,, she must be for real,,,, right? Wrong 99.9% of the time.
In Aug someone found me on fb and we started a correspondence. She was looking for a job, someone to travel with, and a husband. That sounded like the right order to me,,,, and since it was free to write, I decided to waste the time. She never asked for money,,,,, but everyone in her family became so sick,,,, sheís sick, and both grandmothers are sick.
A few weeks ago her Vk profile was deleted. We were not Vk friends, and did not communicate on Vk,, I only mentioned once about listening to music there. She had no comment.
A week ago she changed her name on fb,,, not a completely different name,,, but a name that could not identify her. I unfriended her. One thing that had bothered me the whole time, is that her fb friends could not be seen in her profile. However, several other guys have been ďlikingĒ everything that she shared,,, and she shows up as a ďmutual friendĒ! I told her that I was finished writing to her, unless she unlocks her friend list,,,, and,,, posts on her profile that we are in a relationship?? Her response,,,, but we donít know each other!! It was agreeable to her, to move in here after writing for only a few weeks??
Itís been 3 days now,,,, her friend list is still not visible. And I am stubborn!
This magical 7 year difference is amazing to me. Since I've been married my wife has met several fsu women in the area. Two of them are 20 years apart and have been married for decades. You ate right about one thing, many people do have unrealistic expectations. You should shoot for a woman about 3 points more beautiful and 3 X nicer than women you can date in the states. If you are 50 and think you will marry a 25 yo 10, good luck with that.
Perhaps you havenít read my previous posts WifeSeeker. You should. I can see why your wife left you. No one would want to be with miserable you. At least for a long period.
You had your chance with the Crimean girl and you blew it. What I donít understand is you spent x amount going to Crimea to see her. Why not spend Y amount on her English lessons? If sheís a lovely girl sheíd be worth it.
Oh yeah I forgot you got her a union jack sticker or whatever.
And finally just because youíre miserable or bitter, donít come in here and try to drag down others with you.
WifeSeeker Ė we have just been conversing and I didnít realize that Christ, you have two daughters at home. You should be looking after those two little girls of yours providing the best for them not pissing away family finances on membership sites and gallivanting all over Eastern Europe in a quest to find a young wife. Give it up man at least for the sake of those two kids of yours. Donít you realize what youíre doing to your family? Even they understand they could have a much better standard of living if their father wasnít pissing all his money away on frivolous trips to Russia and Ukraine. Those two kids of yours need a father, not some Casanova trekking all over Eastern Europe in search of a child bride.
I hate to belabour the point but WifeSeeker is systemic of those guys who take half step measures in getting a fsu wife and this is ultimately why they are unsuccessful. For instance WS spent x amount going to see a Russian girl in Crimea. Presumably they both liked each other and were working on a plan toward marriage. She asked him to help pay for her English classes so she could learn better English and communicate with him. He thought she was out to scam him of or that if she did learn English she could leave him and someone else would benefit from the English classes that he had paid for. He told her to search for work and that he wanted her to support herself. It was a this point that the Crimean girl frustrated with the elder man she had met from the UK and his inability to offer financial support as well as his emotional instability he had displayed in the supermarket when she put something in his shopping cart, she wisely ended the relationship.
Entering a relationship with a fsu girl is not without risks but the rewards are great if you are successful and follow through firm until the end the necessary steps in courting and marrying a fsu girl.
WS overreacted when the girl put something into his shopping basket and became very stingy when she asked him to help pay for her English lessons. As a result, he lost a wonderful girl and what would have been a very beautiful wife.
WifeSeeker, when you invited the Russian girl to your home in the UK, how her heart must have hit the floor when you asked her to leave. She must have said, Please, please, please. Iíll cook and clean for you. Iíll make you good sex. Please let me stay a little longer.
Her pleas fell on deaf ears. You told her to pack her bag and took her to the airport the next day.
She must have shed a little half tear. Not for you, but because she had to return to Russia.
After you dropped her off you went home and were back on your site sending messages to younger women.
"Look, there are the kinds of people here. 1, those who are bitter about their experience and just "know" finding an honest fsu girl is impossible.
2, those who are new, or have tried but ate still unsuccessful but haven't given up.
3, those who are married and trying to help others out"
I think I am a bit of all three. I have come across disappointment and dishonesty. I have been using the dating sites back in the 1990s and just resumed recently. I am also trying to help others out with what I have come across.